yeah . . . i'm going through this right now. it's not fun. most of the tactics are so absurd i can just laugh them off, but when he's being fairly normal, it's really hard to remember how nasty he can be. it's easy to think he could actually get better (and he's doing all kinds of things to try to prove how hard he's working toward that and how committed he is to doing so), but when i remember all the crap he has put me through and the fact that he is constantly lying, i don't want him back even if he does get healthy and stop all the disrespectful, hurtful crap. i won't feel like i made a mistake by ending our relationship, or that he proved me wrong. i'll just be happy that my kids now have a better parent in him than they otherwise would have, and that his future relationships will be healthier and more stable (which also affects my kids).
he will say anything under the sun, and he'll keep trying different things until he finds something that works. it sounds like your sister is smart and determined, but it can still be really hard to resist a seemingly-genuine emotional appeal. she needs to know that, when he does this, it isn't really about his love for her. it's about his need to control her.
he will say anything under the sun, and he'll keep trying different things until he finds something that works. it sounds like your sister is smart and determined, but it can still be really hard to resist a seemingly-genuine emotional appeal. she needs to know that, when he does this, it isn't really about his love for her. it's about his need to control her.
