Dealing with Poop and potty training.. lots of it... help...

[Polishbabies]

DD has been potty trained since age 2, she is now 27 months...

a few questions...

daily at least once she lets go of some pee before she actually announces she has to go.. they're wet enough that i have to change her underwear/ pants.. is this normal?

next, poo.. she has been holding back her poo since about 20 months... must have had a constipation episode once and taht started it... now she still holds her poo back but its harder for her to because we've adjusted her diet a bit so its softer, because with the holding back she was getting constipated..

its driving me crazy because daily (not at the same time each day) she has a poop on the floor (usually the carpet), i have to bathe her, clean the carpet, put her pants and underwear (if she even has any underwear left they're all in the wash!) in the laundry and care for a three month old (who is often crying in the background because i can't tend to him)... there are days where she manages to hold her poo back enough that I am LITERALLY wiping her bum 12 times a day (and changing her clothes!)... needless to say, i'm out of shorts and underwear by the end of the day and I put her in my DSs size 6 month pants or shorts (they actually fit her)... I can't be rinsing this stuff everyday so I pile it up for my husband when he gets home (i get bad rashes on my hands from overexposure to water and soaps)... I'm tired of it and i'm snapping at her and i can't control it anymore... i'm telling her everything a bad mom would say.. i tell he i'm mad at her I tell her that i'll take away her toys, everything.. and i yell too... i feel soo guilty because she's still learning right? I wouldnt yell at he is she was learning to walk and she fell.. but seriously is this normal and how much longer do i have to deal with it?

[Violet2]

For the poo, I think you're going to have to be at her side 24/7 so the second she starts to poo you usher her to the bathroom. When you have to poo, have her go with you and talk about it. We let DD know that sometimes it was uncomfortable for us too but that it's normal and over very fast.

We have had great success reading age appropriate potty books and potty training dvds are not a bad choice--it's third party input on going potty which can be helpful.

It sounds like your DD is having some issues processing what is expected of her and what going potty entails. I say go back to the beginning and start over.

Lots of talking and explaining (the books help with that). I would also look at a reward system to see if that helps.

I know you are frustrated but you have to hold your reaction in check b/c it's not helping.

V

[ellemenope]

I would put her back in diapers.

DD would only poo in her diapers for a while. She also just had no love for bowel movements. One night I suggested that if she put her poops in the potty I would take her to the toy store. It worked. The next day she started going on the potty. she actually went from going only once a day if that, freaking out about it, to going up to 8 times a day. She loved it. She learned to love pooping! Your DD needs to fall in love with pooping again.

But, if your DD is not up for it, I would put her back in diapers. You are just setting her up for failure by putting her in underwear with loose poops and no desire to go in the potty.

I would still encourage her to be a big girl and go in the potty. When DD first started potty training I never trused that she was serious to actually go on the potty so she wore diapers longer than she should have. But, she was ready. She would come to me every time (for pee) and ask me to take her diaper off. Even in long car rides she would refuse to just go pee in her diaper.

Good for you understanding that your reactions are wrong. Whenever that happens you just need to step back and think what is important. Is it that important that your DD go on the potty? Is is worth your relationship with her?

Don't think of it as a step back. Think of it as a step to the side in order to bypass the roadblock.

[Polishbabies]

[QUOTE=ellemenope;15648669]

Good for you understanding that your reactions are wrong. Whenever that happens you just need to step back and think what is important. Is it that important that your DD go on the potty? Is is worth your relationship with her?

Thanks.. I know this... but hearing it again, seeing it written down really helps!