Hi Mommas, Welcome to WNY. I highly recommend Darryl Ehlenfield at Allentown Pediatrics (you can google or fb them). He meets all the requirements the OP asked for (I'd assume he'd have no issue not circumsing, but I only have girls so I can't speak to that personally with him). We delay/selective vax, bf past first year, co-sleep, babywear, etc. He is very selective with anbiox. We switched to him when DD#1 was 9 months (after leaving Delaware Peds - stay away from them!) because we chose chiro for treating ear infections, which he was supportive of so long as we brought DD in for re-examining to make sure the infection was in fact clearning up. We've been going there now for 5 years and him and his staff are wonderful. He is one of two docs in the practice. Dr. Raiken, his partner, is OK. I don't think she has the bedside manner personally, but that may just be because he seems so great. She has never said anythiing judgmental about our parenting choices but will push vax more than he does. He takes a much more, "It's your choice, but here is what we recommend..." and then will absolutely respect our choices when we say "no thank you and here is why..."
I've also heard good things about Wheatfield Pediatrics if you will be in the Northern/Niagara suburbs. In terms of like minded mamas, I just joined the group, Holistic Mamas of WNY. Good first meeting - talked about everything from where to go to get raw milk, cloth diapers, to holistic care providers and CSAs. PM me if you want the contact for that group. Be well! Phoenix