I have talked to the neighbor at length and she told me the whole situation and that was it (it's bad enough).
I did talk to DD and ask her if B was mean to her and she said no, then yes, then no again. I asked her if she let Anna cry at bedtime and she said yes. I SPECIFICALLY told her we DO NOT allow them to CIO. She knew and this is ridiculous. If she was not ok with it, just quit. WTF.
I am trying to just focus on the kids. I told Abrielle Miss B is never coming back and she proceeded to cuddle with me for a half hour then fall asleep in HER bed and sleep through the night in there. YEAH. She was SCARED. UGH
Meanwhile, my DP is livid (not at me) wants me to quit my job, which is not the answer for us right now. I am going to try to get by with my mom and the sitter I currently have as backup and then hopefully when my LPN starts in Jan I can just go Per Diem at work. Most likely I will be SAH again in a year or so (we are TTC#3).
She doesn't live with her parents, but with her fiance. Her mom is a really good friend of ours and I am afraid that if I see her/them out, I might lose it.
I decided for now, not to call my sitter. If she lies I will flip and right now I just need to calm down a bit.
That stinks momma. I'd be upset too.. very much so, BUT you really need to talk to the sitter first. I know that my three year old, while very smart, tells me things that are actually the opposite of what happened. She may not be laying down to sleep and crying the whole time.. She could have woke up and cried, and your little heard it.. etc. There are too many things that could be happening. Also, as for not letting your daughter in for the restroom.. maybe your daughter had been playing around and asking repeatedly. Maybe she had just let your daughter potty, or she'd already been in several times-mine do that. Sometimes they just want to check out the bathroom. Either way, talk to her.