Originally Posted by ShadowMoon
IMO, circumcision isn't a parenting decision, (or at least shouldn't be). It's a personal decision the child should make when he's old enough to do so. This is a non-negotiable issue for me.
That's how I feel as well. Also, for me, it's not something I can compromise on. It's not like I'm going to get all exhausted scrubbing out his foreskin 70 bazillion times a day that I throw up my hands and say, "to hell with it, let's cut it off already!". But that's what can easily happen with cloth diapers, breastfeeding, making baby food, ect. I planned to make baby food...never did. I didn't even plan on using cloth, but then I did, and now with kid #2, I'm back to using disposables part-time. I breastfed #1, pumped for #2 (tube fed, so no way I could have nursed) and I quit much sooner than I would have liked because I threw up my hands and said "to hell with it!" To be perfectly honest, I even went back on my "no spanking" rule for a while (thankfully found out it didn't work and stopped). I know lots of people that plan to CIO and don't or don't plan to CIO and then do. Or plan to homeschool and don't and vice versa. But foreskins don't affect the day to day life of any of the family. They don't get in the way. They aren't troublesome. They don't exhaust you. They're just....there.
I change what I do as needed. But there's no need for cutting off a foreskin (routinely anyway), so it's not something I'm just going to change on.
As for hierarchy? #1 I suppose, but like another person said, sort of a non-issue. I don't think about it anymore than I think "I won't compromise on beating my kids". But not everyone sees it like that, so when I started seeing someone after I left ex, one of the first things I let him know once we were serious was that if we have kids, they will be circ'ed over my dead body. He was a little offended at first, because he thought he should have a say. Once I explained that it's not about what I want or what he wants, but what the kid wants, he agreed with me 100%. We've found out that we disagree on MANY parenting things. None of it deal-breakers though. I'm very disappointed that he's totally anti-homeschooling, but that is something I would compromise on. He's a little weirded out by the extended nursing, cloth diapering, veg*nism, no-vaxxing, ect but that's stuff HE'S willing to compromise on. I'm flexible, just not with circ. Or beating my kids.