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Originally Posted by laurashum  everyone I talk to about waiting to go into labor makes it sound like it is unusual, like I am expected to have an induction. Schedule your baby like you would a vacation.
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I remember once reading here on MDC that a mama said she was pretty mainstream before getting PG but even then realized that induction seemed like a very serious interference in the natural course of things & probably not something to be done regularly & without an medical indication.
I think she's absolutely right. The idea of induction for pure convenience is AWFUL to me. Just awful. To the point where I actually think it's immoral for OBs to do it - especially for first-time-moms since it raises the CS rate dramatically. I think those who take the issue lightly, act like it's "no big deal at all" are the ones who are crazy! It's a major intervention with major known side effects that can have major negative consequences. It is absolutely not "no big deal!" Ok, off the
In any case, I think it's best to
stop discussing birth with these mainstream people. Just don't go there. They aren't going to change their views. They had epidurals & of course they think epis are necessary! Of course they think laboring without one is horrific & you'd be crazy. Cuz that was
their experience. Most people aren't wise enough to look outside themselves & realize their experiences aren't universal - just b/c birth was a certain way
for them doesn't mean it'll be that way f
or everyone. That doesn't sound like an earth-shattering statement, ya know? But it's amazing how many people don't get that simple fact.
& you'll encounter it again & again-> people projecting their experiences with BFing, potty-learning, baby wearing, sleeping at night, etc. etc. My personal fav is when you do express how something is negative & they tell you, "OH YOU JUST WAIT! It's so going to get worse!"
Wow, awesome, I'm so glad you're my friend, saying stuff like that to me.
For example, "Phew, 'terrible 2's' can be rough."
"Just wait until he's 3! That's so much worse."
Don't let them put their sh
on you, if you know what I mean. cuz that's
exactly what it is- they are projecting their bad experiences onto you, & that's not right.
As for me, I labored at home & things went so fast! less than 5 hours from the first, "Oh, hm, that was a ctrx" to
"I wanna push!" We hadn't even left for the hospital yet!
I figured we had hours to go.
It was like menstrual cramps at the beginning. Uncomfortable, but not bad at all. It very gradually got more intense - as Ina May writes, "Interesting sensations that require all your attention." It wasn't until transition for the last 90 min or so that I would describe it as "pain." & even then, ctrx were 1 min long, with a 3 min break in between (no pain at all, was walking, chatting, trying to force down food.). So as they ramped up & ramped down, they were only "painful" for 30 seconds out of every 4 minutes, for 90 min altogether. Totally manageable!
