You are sooo lucky...how to respond? - Page 2

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Originally Posted by MissinNYC

I would act sort of mystified and horrified and just ask, "What do you mean by that!?" I think such an overtly racist comment needs a response, especially as he gets older.

Originally Posted by marsupial-mom

In theory that sounds good
but in reality, the world is too racist and too violent to confront it each and every time
you have to choose your battles

Originally Posted by SpottedFoxx

As the parent of a child of a different race from my own, I don't have the luxury of picking my battles.

And I have to agree with SpottedFoxx here because as a Caucasian with a very obviously Hispanic ad and blond haired/blue eyed lily white bs, even I get these kinds of comments because 1) we got ad as an infant and 2) she's not AA. So I'm apparently "lucky" on two counts. Until now, I haven't had a clue how to respond either, other than to say that 1) we never expected an infant; and 2) we would've been way better prepared for an AA child because that's the environment I grew up in (as a glaring minority).

Originally Posted by pumpkingirl71

I am going to go out on a limb here, I am not sure I would call that racism. I do think it is the product of racism, but it could just be more innocent surprise. Kind of a reaction to the belief that there are no white babies to adopt.

Which is... btw... kind of a racist sentiment--isn't it? On one hand, I understand that transracial adoption is no small topic to be blown off--but I also know that the general populus is completely unaware of those issues... so really, it comes down to race. Because otherwise, who would care what race of kids are available to adopt?

And how can it be the product of racism but not racism? If you are raised in a racist household and your ideas are the product of that racism... does that mean you're not actually racist? I'm not sure I understand how that could be...