And then the depression...he has always has periods of sadness, but this one is just the worst yet. He literally sleeps every minute I let him. I've allowed him to sleep a lot this summer, and even planned my days around his need to sleep, but last school year it was bad and I can't see dealing with it again this coming school year. He'll be a sophomore and will have more HW than ever before. I can't just let him come home, shower, and crash at 4pm. It keeps him up all night. He seems to have my sleep troubles, so it's hard enough for him to fall asleep at a normal hour for bedtime and taking an after-school nap basically means he doesn't sleep at night. But how do you prevent a 135# person who is a full 3" taller than yourself from getting into bed? I've asked him to sit on the couch with me so I could keep him engaged in conversation to keep him awake and he literally nods off in the middle of talking.
Do I let him sleep in the afternoon, stay up all night, and just fail school? This is what happened to me. I left school at the end of 10th grade bc of my sleep disorder and the onset of fibromyalgia. Ds has the early symptoms of it, but I can't find a dr who will seriously accept the fact that an otherwise-healthy teenage boy could have it. And I can't HS bc his not-so df has a court order preventing it.
I have no advice, but empathy.
My Ds sleeps from 3 in the morning to 2 in the afternoon. Every attempt I have made to alter this scheduel has basically failed. I can get him up but it takes many attempts often over hours. He is HSed - so it is not so important...but still. We often have stuff planned, and he sometimes has obligations that start earlier than 3:00 p.m. - so his different sleep habits are relevant.
He also has a physical condition (GERD) that causes him pain, he has had it 3 months, and the doctors have not been overly useful. He is seeing a chiropractor now, and our next stop in a naturopath. I am confident we will find the cause of this, but it may not happen soon.
As I said, he is HSed at the moment, but I think there is part of him that wants to try school. He says he has not made up his mind whether he wants to go in September! I have no idea how school is going to work out with his sleep issues and GERD issues. He has taken a class through cyber school and did well academically - I do not want him to go to school with his sleep and pain issues and not do so well. I do not want to fight him on getting up in the morning. Sigh.