Originally Posted by Barbie64g
OH mama! What on EARTH are you doing up at 1:30 am!?!?!?! When do you SLEEP??!?!?!
Is it me, or are your posts getting angrier and angrier? I think its good. Being angry about it puts it into perspective for you, so you arent himming and hawing over whether or not its normal or even right.
I would jump at the chance to be a part of your village. And that is NO JOKE. Empty words, I know, since I believe we live no where near eachother, but I really really would. I swear!
1:30 am is when I get quiet time to do work. When you work part time in the office and part time from home, and add in more hours, work falls into the "after child goes to bed" range. I get a lot of good work done when the house is quiet and my mind can focus.
It's also a time to throw in a load of laundry, run the dishes uninterrupted, clean up...basically everything but vacuum, which would wake up a sleeping-at-last child.
No, my posts aren't getting angrier. If anything, I've not thought of my MIL and her BS comments in many days now, except to check posts last night quickly while a file was uploading for work.
I guess I'm serious when I say I really need more help and it seems like MIL is letting us down since she is so able and willing to help her other grandchildren.
I'm working a pretty difficult and demanding job (for me, anyway, probably for most...I don't know...), trying to keep my career going, trying to bring in more money to save for a better and brighter future, pay the bills, provide a decent life for my kid, help others when I can, and keep my household running. It's tough!
There simply aren't enough hours during the day. I don't stay up past 1:30 am every night, but a few times a week I definitely do and have for the past couple of years. It's the only way to stay on top of projects at work and laundry and dishes at home.
I need that quiet time.
I go to work and the time is mostly filled with meetings. I can't actually get anything done. Not like real work products anyway. So I hammer out those in the wee hours a couple of times a week. It's when I do my best work...just like in college. It's the quiet and the uninterrupted focus.
I guess if I had a babysitter (DH?? More flexible work hours??) or village (MIL??) or more money (to buy more daycare during the week or weekends...) I could rearrange the schedule. That's sort of what the post is about.
Like I said, I'm treading water as fast as I can to keep everything going, and so we don't drown. Stop treading and things sink quickly.
By the way, everyone, there is a great article in the Wednesday New York Times business section about working mothers. It starts with an example from the Supreme Court - how the last three or so male judges have all had large families of 5 or more children and how the last three female nominees have been childless. It's a good article about how working moms have not made the same strides as men with children or women with no children. I think it about sums up my life.