Exdh calls today to confirm that there are just two weeks left of summer vacation before school starts, because he wants to make sure he gets his one week with ds. (He was offered the standard amount of weeks for the summer when we were in mediation but he stated that he only got one week off with pay so that was all he wanted.)
I told him we had too many doctor's appointments (ds is being evaluated for schizophrenia, which surprise! he seems to have inherited from his father) plus I am secretly planning to whisk my kids away to a theme park for a few days.
He is supposed to clear the dates with me by the end of May, but he never mentioned the week-long visit all summer. I'm tired of hand-holding, so I didn't bring it up, and his replacement wife told me straight up exdh wouldn't be able to care for my ds and she didn't feel up to it due to having five kids of her own, one of which is a child with a disability, and also being in her thrid trimester with number six.
What makes it really sad is that he has been unemployed for almost a year, so it's not like he had anything more pressing to do all summer long. And now I'm the bad guy for saying he can't have a full week. If they weren't such important appointments, I could work with him, but these psych evals are so, so important, and exdh can't be trusted to handle it without me there. He can't be relied on to have ds in bed early enough so he can perform his best during the evals, he can't even be relied on to show up.
But it's all typical exdh, so I guess I shouldn't be too surprised.
I told him we had too many doctor's appointments (ds is being evaluated for schizophrenia, which surprise! he seems to have inherited from his father) plus I am secretly planning to whisk my kids away to a theme park for a few days.
He is supposed to clear the dates with me by the end of May, but he never mentioned the week-long visit all summer. I'm tired of hand-holding, so I didn't bring it up, and his replacement wife told me straight up exdh wouldn't be able to care for my ds and she didn't feel up to it due to having five kids of her own, one of which is a child with a disability, and also being in her thrid trimester with number six.
What makes it really sad is that he has been unemployed for almost a year, so it's not like he had anything more pressing to do all summer long. And now I'm the bad guy for saying he can't have a full week. If they weren't such important appointments, I could work with him, but these psych evals are so, so important, and exdh can't be trusted to handle it without me there. He can't be relied on to have ds in bed early enough so he can perform his best during the evals, he can't even be relied on to show up.
But it's all typical exdh, so I guess I shouldn't be too surprised.
