Tired of Feeling Like This

[imamomx2]

I'm having a down day today. I feel like I am constantly dropping the ball somewhere - just when I think I'm doing all right with the kids, and having good quality time, then it feels like I'm neglecting my work, and the quality isn't the best.

I just don't know how to balance this. And I'm only part time. I just constantly feel that I suck at something. Either mommyhood or working life. And I'm just tired of feeling like I'm not good enough at it.

Sorry to vent... and I'm not even sure what I'm looking for. Just having a sad day, I guess.

[marinak1977]

[physmom]

I just want to say that I can relate and I'M SO TIRED! There needs to be more hours in the day... hours specifically designated for more sleeping/relaxing.

And I feel the same about work... I just don't feel like head is in it nearly as much as it used to be.

[Skippy918]

I get that feeling every now and then. I'm so tired too! I'm so busy at work most days, when I get home, I'm tired and don't feel like chasing a toddler most evenings. It's hard to break away to exercise too.

[Carma]

Also sounds familiar to me. For me it helps to sleep more, to go to bed with the kids. And spend more weekend time with family/friends instead of cleaning makes me happier too. Other people have similiar issues, it is good to hear again that noone is perfect.

Carma

[texmati]

yes yes yes. I'm so tired of sucking in every sector of my life!

[MissMaegie'sMama]

I understand... I often feel this way too!

[Sierra]

I have said that exact same thing. I find "balance" elusive. I either am failing at work or failing at home. I go from one to the other like a pendulum. I don't have any advice, but I have complete empathy.

[lunarlady]

There are never enough hours in the day to take care of all the things that need to be done at work, at home, and in my relationships. I guess I've gotten used to dropping balls. I just try to make sure not to drop any that will break something or somebody, and I've gotten used to kicking a few under the sofa to make them go away. (In other words, some things arn't worth worrying about. They were screwed up or half-a@@ed. Let them go.)

[sewchris2642]

When I start feeling like that it's usually because I haven't spent enough me time doing what I want instead of what everyone else wants. Then I have to tell myself, again, that having me time isn't selfish but necessary for my mental and physical well being. And it's better for the family as a whole to have a mom and wife who isn't all stressed out all the time. So when I look at it that way, getting some me time isn't all that selfish. But it's hard to keep remembering that.

[Charrey]

I watched a show once where a group of people ranging from 8 year old kids to people in their 60s were in a room, and were asked who felt like their lives would of been better if their mothers took better care of themselves. Every single person raised their hand immediately. I must say I agree 100% also.

More days than not I feel as if I'm falling behind, but when I think about it the root of the problem is almost always that I am not getting enough sleep or doing things just for me (journaling, crafting, reading, or just sitting on the porch enjoying the fresh air). Taking care of you gives you more energy to take care of everyone else and your home, and it makes the task seem less overwhelming.

Also have you ever heard of Flylady? I find her very encouraging and helpful in tackling my home just a little bit at a time.