she doesn't want me to be pregnant at the same time as her - Page 2

[babygirlie]

haven;t read previous posts.

Her body will not be ready for a child in 3 months. She's already having trouble plus doing weight loss.. who knows when she can have a kid. And I am sure the more than 1 thing is just a lashing out because she is hurt. Infertility is extremely painful.

I wouldn't talk to her about it but go ahead and conceive. Chances are slim she will be pregnant, though I absolutely wish her to be so for her sake. In the end it's not going to matter. I can understand wanting all the attention but tell her not to worry she will get tons and try to point out the good things.. like your child will have kids their own age to play with and that's super important. etc.

[NotTheOnlyOne]

lifeguard, thanks for the link!

[luv-my-boys]

Originally Posted by NotTheOnlyOne

a friend of mine said to me, "I don't want anyone else to be pregnant when I am pregnant."
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well good luck keeping everyone's eggs in check

[Right of Passage]

Maybe I'm the odd ball but I get it! If she only plans to be pregnant once infertility or not she wants to be special, showered with all the love and affection every new mom deserves. She probably fears that her (possibly only) pregnancy will be lost/forgotten if every/anyone one else is expecting. It's happened to me 3 times.

It doesn't mean she won't be thrilled for you when you have a baby or her SIL, or that she really doesn't want anyone else to be pregnant. All it is, is her expressing her fears desires (for love and attention while pregnant) to a friend.

[NotTheOnlyOne]

OP Here

Right of Passage, I think you hit the nail on the head. I kind of understand now. She thinks if I am pregnant I won't be there enough for her because I will be going through my own things with my pregnancy. I always call her (because she asks me to) after my OB appointments and give her updates. She spent the night in the hospital with me when my second one was born because I had a c-section and dh had to be home with our older child. She just wants to make sure I am there to do all the things for her that she did for me. Huh. Thanks, really. I think I finally get it after 3 days of banging my head against the wall.

That said, I am not going to rearrange our plans for her "could-be" pregnancy. But I will be sensitive to this new insight if if so happens that we end up pregnant at the same time.