In shock

[annemoonstar]

Ok, I'm in total shock right now. Just took a prg test and it's positive! Obviously I suspected, but wouldn't have thought based on when we DTD this month! I usually can tell exactly when I ovulate, and it was at least 4 days after and 6 days before we dtd. How did this happen!?

DH is going to flip. We have a 16 month old DS and DH has been struggling with chronic pain and depression the last 6 months or so. He has stated he didn't think he wanted more than one child since we met. Ugh. He has totally trusted me to tell him when we were in the "safe zone." The other day I told him we were safe and he joked, saying something like "are you sure you aren't trying to trick me?" Because he knows I've leaned towards having another. But not now! I can't believe that happened just a few days ago. He probably is going to think I tricked him. But I wouldn't do that. And even if I were to be that deceitful, I wouldn't do it when our family is already going through so much. Yikes.

Plus financially this is so not the right time. Wow. I can't quite wrap my head around this.

I guess I just need to vent here. There is a part of me that is very happy about this, but right now I am overwhelmed.

[HulaJenn]

hugs.
Were you temping to confirm O, cuz if not then secondary signs aren't that reliable..And 6 days before o is still potentially fertile - rare, but possible.
Good luck -I am sure if you explain it teh way you have here, Dh can't think you were deceitful. Or he might, but will hopefully get over it. He has 9 months to get used to the idea.

[annemoonstar]

Thanks Hula Jenn,
We weren't temping--so it was just about CM and "feeling it." I know it's not as reliable in general--but it worked to avoid for 5 years, and then to conceive 3 times (I had two MC before DS). So I guess this baby just really wanted to be here. Maybe I need to talk up DH's "supersperm" to help him feel somewhat better about it!

Still going over in my head how to tell him.....

[LaurieG]

Congrats!!! I know things aren't ideal, but as HulaJenn said, there are 9 months to get adjusted. A lot can change in that time. I'm a firm believer in things finding a way to work out, and that major things that the universe or God or however you view it bring you are for a reason.

FWIW, I had a 6 days post dtd conception. It is possible.

[swell_mel]

First off congrats! I understand your concerns. FWIW I don't think there is ever a perfect time to have a kid. There's always going to be something you wish was different with your circumstances. I was never creative with telling dh. We were trying both times so I just took a test and showed him. Not very fun. As for talking to your dh about it I'd let him know that you are just as surprised as he is. Tell him about the timing and that *usually* that kind of timing would be affective at avoiding pregnancy... and then talk up his super sperm. Oooh, you could make him a certificate for having super sperm to give him to tell him about being pregnant!