Just witnessed GP spank niece! - Page 2

[frogautumn]

Originally Posted by htcamommy

Before you jump into this how does your SIL feel about spanking? You really might open another can of worms concerning her belief in parenting with this conversation.
I would be ticked off if I got the impression that my SIL was trying to tell me how my child should be disiplined and it might become nasty.
If you don't want your children spanked then all you can do is be firm and clear on that point. If you don't want your children to see other children spanked, well, don't go over there.

It is not my intention to interfere with SIL's parenting. However, were the situation reversed, and it was my son that was spanked, I would absolutely want to know. This is why I feel very strongly that I have to tell her--not to create drama, just to give her the information so that she can deal with it (or not deal with it) as she sees fit. I am confident, given the relationship that SIL and I have, that I can pass along this info without hard feelings.

[Oubliette8]

Originally Posted by htcamommy

Before you jump into this how does your SIL feel about spanking? You really might open another can of worms concerning her belief in parenting with this conversation.
I would be ticked off if I got the impression that my SIL was trying to tell me how my child should be disiplined and it might become nasty.
If you don't want your children spanked then all you can do is be firm and clear on that point. If you don't want your children to see other children spanked, well, don't go over there.

In my experience, plenty of parents who do believe in spanking still object to anyone else spanking their kids, even extended family members. Even if SIL is militantly pro-spanking (which we don't know from this post if she is or not) I think the right thing to do is to tell her. You wouldn't have to make it a spanking talk, just a "hey, I don't know if you're aware of this, but I saw FIL spank your daughter for X offense. I don't know what your discipline arrangements are with them, so I just wanted to let you know"

[phathui5]

NO, I did not leave DS there (and I never leave DS#2 there, as he is with me round the clock)!

Ah, ok.

Have you told your SIL yet?