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I've been pregnant or nursing for nearly 9 years. My younger son is just about weaned now. I won't be having any more children. No more nursing a sweet newborn, a teething baby, an injured toddler, or a sleepy preschooler. No more nursing dolls and matchbox cars and imaginary friends. No more nursing bras or worries about easy access clothing. No more thrush or milk blisters or mastitis. No more being awakened by little teeth chomping down hard. No more being kept awake by never-ending nursing sessions. No more sweet milky smells and dribbles and smiles.

We're done.

It has been wonderful and miserable and sweet and painful and glorious. My body created and my body nourished two amazing children. I am incredibly grateful to the lactation consultants, La Leche League leaders, midwives, my husband, and supportive friends and family who have helped me through the years. I'm thankful that I was able to nurse each of my children for so long. I'm amazed at how breastfeeding has kept my children from getting sick, and has brought them back to health when they were ill.

I feel confident about weaning my younger son at this time. I had hoped to give him the opportunity to nurse as long as his brother did, but he's biting rather than nursing, and isn't especially upset when I refuse to breastfeed him. I feel as though he is done, and just doesn't know quite how to stop, so he needs some help. I don't expect to miss breastfeeding. But, I'm glad that I committed to nursing my children, and stuck with it. The results were totally worth the troubles.
post #2 of 17
Congratulations mama! I'm sure it will be very bittersweet for you.
post #3 of 17
congratulations
post #4 of 17
Beautiful post mama! Congrats on the wonderful gift you have given your children!

P.S. I thought I was the only one who nursed dolls, match box cars and the like. Glad to know I was in good company.
post #5 of 17
I've been nursing/pregnant for nearly the same amount of time (DD1 was born in 11/2002, DD2 09/2008).

It will be weird, won't it? Congratulations on your journey, and I hope you enjoy your new one!
post #6 of 17
Thread Starter 
Thank you all!
post #7 of 17
Congratulations!
post #8 of 17
Congratulations!

Don't count on not having to nurse toys anymore, though. DS and DD2 have been weaned two years (not a gentle, timely weaning like you describe ; it was a rushed and early one, because of my medical condition at the time), and STILL I get requests to nurse their dolls and stuffed animals all the time, and recently I was asked to nurse the mop, which had me totally . DS told me, "Him's a baby, mama, and him wants milkies. You be the mama."
post #9 of 17
Congratulations!!
post #10 of 17
I tell my kids they have to nurse their own toys
post #11 of 17
Congratulations on your journey!
You gave your kids a wonderful gift.
post #12 of 17
Love this, thanks so much for sharing.
post #13 of 17
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Originally Posted by abimommy View Post
I tell my kids they have to nurse their own toys
My older DS doesn't ask me to nurse his toys, he wants to nurse his own "babies". He lifts up his shirt and gives them mama milk out of his belly button.
post #14 of 17
My DS just turned 3 and DH would like him to wean soon, and part of me is ready (the all night nursing sessions get me). But there is a big part of me that says, no, not yet, he's still my baby. We're only having the one so I'm in no rush for him to grow up. I get tears in my eyes just thinking about that time 'somewhere in the future' when he won't need nursies anymore. It's such a special bond and I'll never have it with him again. How does anyone do it?
post #15 of 17
I haven't posted in ages, but your beautiful post about weaning just spoke to my heart today.

My daughter is weaning this week, my third and final baby, and I feel a lot of pride and relief and a lot of heartbreak too. She's just two. For months she's been self-weaning, refusing to nurse when offered, shaking her head and making the yuck face (raspberries!). She was down to just nursing at 6 in the morning when she woke up, sleepy and snuggled close. But she was starting to get more bite-y, less like real nursing. Anyway, she stopped nursing altogether 5 days ago, then she asked again the day before yesterday and I thought in my heart, no we're done, she's not really wanting it, she's just wanting to say something to me about it, to sort of see. So when she said "nurse?" I smiled and said, no silly, no more milkies in the nurse. And she laughed too and said "juice?" So we snuggled and she drank some watered down OJ. She said nothing about it again yesterday and then this morning she patted them and said "nursies," but it wasn't a question, just an identification. Like there they are, I pat them.

So we're done. 6 years of nursing, 2 for each child. The first 4 consecutive. And I'm super sad. I look at her and she's so big and happy. It's that nostalgia-love feeling. I remember clearly the way she used to hyperventilate with joy when we got in the nursing position. Ugh, she's not my nursling anymore. But it was so easy and she was so ready. So here we are. Mourning a little.
post #16 of 17
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Originally Posted by deadheadmomma View Post
I get tears in my eyes just thinking about that time 'somewhere in the future' when he won't need nursies anymore. It's such a special bond and I'll never have it with him again. How does anyone do it?
Ditto exactly, momma. I think we're coming up on that time too, sooner than I or dd (2.5yrs) want due to my low supply... I hope I'll be able to give a sweet and fond farewell like the OP when it's over, but right now it's just sad.
post #17 of 17
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Originally Posted by abimommy View Post
I tell my kids they have to nurse their own toys


Congratulations OP, and what a sweet post!
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