I don't actually have kids yet, but this is what my biggest fears of inadequacy revolve around. I'm worried I won't be emotional capable of giving my kids the attention they deserve, especially without having a horrific impact on my own happiness. I'm the most introvertiest introvert ever; even my DP seems dissatisfied with how much time I give him--and he's an introvert too, just not quite to the extent I am. So I can sympathize with the idea of moms needing a break from kids.
But while I can totally imagine wanting 35 hours per week of kid-free husband-free coworker-free friend-free dog's-not-bothering-me solitude, I can't
imagine my sad, frustrated, school-hating child demanding to know why he has to go to school, and me answering, "Because I don't want to have to spend that much time with you." Nor do I want to lie to him like my mom would.
Plus it's kind of crazy for your acquaintance to extrapolate herself onto half of all humanity and tell you
|Of course every woman needs time to recharge by herself or without kids, but I'm not sure that has that much to do with kids or homeschooling specifically.
Yeah, if this is your reason for not homeschooling, that means you're using school as daycare/babysitter. Similar deal as not homeschooling because all available caregivers need and/or want a job. Unfortunately, school makes for a crappy babysitter, for reasons such as:
- You can probably find a real babysitter who will take your kid 10 hours per week if that's what you need. It's not 35 or nothing.
- A real babysitter doesn't demand a note from the doctor when you decline their services for a day.
- A real babysitter isn't going to try to prevent you from taking family vacations at certain times.
- A real babysitter doesn't give your kid homework on top of the other 35 hours.
- It's easier to find a real babysitter who can work on your schedule, rather than making you conform to their schedule. If you need someone to watch your kid in the evenings, school usually won't cut it.
I can understand needing someone else to watch your kid (for financial, emotional, or psychological reasons) and not being being able to afford a babysitter, but I think if I were sending my kid to school for free child care, I'd treat school a lot differently than someone who was sending their kid to school for an education.