advice on talking to a care provider

[amydiane]

DS is intact and still in diapers. He's starting preschool (for speech and occupational therapy) in a couple weeks and his teacher and her assistant will be changing him while he's there. It occurred to me recently that I have no idea if they know not to retract him and I'm not sure how to approach the subject. I can't assume that they do, since our old ped even gave us incorrect info (told us to retract and clean ). I don't know the circ status of any of their other current or former students, but I haven't met anyone around here yet who hasn't circed, so it wouldn't surprise me if they haven't encountered it before or if they've been given incorrect info (as we were from the old ped).

There is an open house next week where families can go in, see the classroom, meet the teachers, etc. I think I should mention it then, but I'm not sure how. I don't want to imply that they don't know what they're doing and offend them, YK? Any advice?

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Well the simplest thing would be to start talking about him still being in diapers then casually mention that he is intact and that there is nothing special that needs to be done and to just wipe it off no pushing back or retracting.

Just say you have had issues in the past or know people who have and you want to make sure that your ds stays safe.

[Mama2Kayla]

I wrote a note with care instructions for his teachers on the first day and discussed it with them when I picked him up. There was no problem

[MommytoB]

I spoke to the preschool teachers personally during their home visits before my ds started school but there may be helpers/volunteers .

I didn't realize until I found out my son was retracted because there was hair inside my ds foreskin along with it being wrapped around his foreskin . First I only saw the hair wrapped around the outside of his foreskin then as I was unwrapping the hair no moving the foreskin at all I saw the hair coming out from the inside the foreskin so I was rather upset wrote a note mentioning and even made a phone call to speak to the teacher .

That's when they told me one of the volunteers must have changed his diaper so the next time the volunteers change diapers make sure they have information of what Not to do and what they Only should do but if you can not remember to tell that to a volunteer I would only want teachers to do the changing of diapers because they know for sure what I told them not to do.

That was a couple years back so I'm glad he's out of diapers .

[amydiane]

Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X

Well the simplest thing would be to start talking about him still being in diapers then casually mention that he is intact and that there is nothing special that needs to be done and to just wipe it off no pushing back or retracting.

Just say you have had issues in the past or know people who have and you want to make sure that your ds stays safe.

That's a good idea....I have to talk to her about his diapers anyway since we use cloth. When we met her a few months ago, she said she was fine with using them but she'd have to check with the higher-ups.

Originally Posted by MommytoB

I spoke to the preschool teachers personally during their home visits before my ds started school but there may be helpers/volunteers .

I didn't realize until I found out my son was retracted because there was hair inside my ds foreskin along with it being wrapped around his foreskin . First I only saw the hair wrapped around the outside of his foreskin then as I was unwrapping the hair no moving the foreskin at all I saw the hair coming out from the inside the foreskin so I was rather upset wrote a note mentioning and even made a phone call to speak to the teacher .

That's when they told me one of the volunteers must have changed his diaper so the next time the volunteers change diapers make sure they have information of what Not to do and what they Only should do but if you can not remember to tell that to a volunteer I would only want teachers to do the changing of diapers because they know for sure what I told them not to do.

That was a couple years back so I'm glad he's out of diapers .

We didn't have a home visit, unfortunately, so I'll have to do it at the open house (which might be awkward if there are other parents around, but oh well). I hadn't thought about volunteers....I know there is a full-time assistant, but now I will make sure to ask if anyone else might be changing diapers. Maybe the cloth thing will keep anyone else from doing it anyway (they're AIOs and pockets, very simple, but a lot of folks hear "cloth" and don't want to do it).

[hakunangovi]

You could just print out a pamphlet from www.nocirc.org on the correct care of an intact boy and give it to them to read.

[mama24-7]

i wouldn't do it during the open house, if that's the only time you plan to do it. from my exp., parents are looking for info from the teacher at these, not the other way around. talking to her when she only needs to be listening to you will make her less likely to forget in the whirlwind of it all.

good for your son that he has a proactive mama.

sus

[amydiane]

I wanted to post an update. The open house ended up being not very busy at all since his class is very small and the teachers were in their own classrooms. Most of the time we were in the classroom, we were the only ones there. I asked about the diapers (which are fine, yay) and then I just said something along the lines of, "Oh by the way, when you change him...." I mentioned that we'd had some problems with that before, so I just wanted to make sure, especially since it isn't very common around here to be intact. She was very nice and she said they actually have had a few intact kids before and they don't retract. So I feel a lot better having talked to her, and she didn't seem offended in the least.

[mama24-7]

that's great - thanks for the update!

sus