I told DH on the 12th...and it didn't go well at all. He was doing his best to be "sweet and comforting" while saying what he said to me. He told me he thought I should terminate. Our lives would be ruined as would DS's - that's what he says, not me!
It has been the HARDEST 2.5 weeks of my LIFE! We have a few great days where I start to think maybe he's changed his mind, then he says it all over again. That's been 3 times now. I can not have an abortion...it goes against everything in my soul. I want this baby with all of my heart - life is hard regardless of whether you have children or not, so his argument sucks in my opinion.
He thinks that I should terminate - and that counseling will fix everything that I would go through emotionally. He tells me about a few friends that have had abortion(s) and that they went on to have more children just fine. One of my fears is that if I *were* to terminate, that I'd never be able to have children again - it can happen. Not to mention the fact I'll be 35 this year...it's not going to get any easier for me.
My biggest fear is that this marriage is over regardless of what happens. Just knowing that he's asked me to do that, makes me sick to my stomach. I can't look at him, haven't said I love you him, I don't want him to touch me. He obviously thinks this pregnancy will ruin our lives, so it's not going to be easy living with him.
There's so much more to this story, some if it doesn't really matter, but I really need some sort of comfort. We haven't told anyone yet so it's just bottling up inside of me. The morning sickness isn't helping either.
If anyone has gone thru this or is going thru it - a completely nonsupport partner, please post!