Wanting one more baby?

[amyhen]

Do you think feeling sad when thinking about not having any more babies is just a natural emotion (that it just takes time to get used to the idea), or does it mean I really may not be "done"??

I thought our family was complete after our daughter was born... she is 3 now and our boys are 12 and 9. But now I keep dreaming about one more, and feeling so sad and nostalgic about not experiencing another birth, meeting another brand new life, breastfeeding, loving on a sweet newborn, imagining our 3 year old with the baby, etc. etc.etc!!!

I'm 37 now so I am kind of thinking I should figure out how I really feel about all of this... if we are going to try for another, I guess it should be soon; my husband is fine either way. Would you just wait and try to get used to/get over the baby yearnings?

It seems every time I get almost to an "easy" stage with the kids, I start wanting another!

I guess part of me is scared to have 4 kids now that I'm really considering it, anyone out there with advice?

[SC_Jan]

I wanted more, my husband does not. It took years, but I'm OK with were we are now. I realized I was missing out on the "right now" wondering "what might be". It's an individual decision but each road has it's positives.

[peaceful_mama]

I would do it. It's either going to happen, or it's not. When I found out I was pregnant this time (#4) a friend with a whole lot more than me sent me an email saying she'd just talked to an older couple whose 2 kids were grown...and they wished they'd had more. You will never wish you *didn't*....and that's from someone whose timing has been off a couple times now

I am pregnant right now with our 3rd boy and I just told dh I can't quite get rid of DD's baby clothes because I just can't get over the idea that someday she'll have a sister....how much of that is me *really wanting* more than 4, and how much of that is me wanting her to have the sister *I* always wanted? hmmm guess we'll see about that when this one comes and 4 is a reality! (don't know if I'd be feeling the same way if this was a girl for 2 of each...)

[mae14]

I totally want one more baby! I'm only 30 so I know that I'm not finished. I've always seen 4 children in my life. Now I just need hubby home instead of out at sea

[amyhen]

Thanks for your replies...it helps so much to hear other mom's input!

Yes, I can definitely see positives to both stopping now AND trying for that fourth. That is a good way to look at it.

I am thinking I should give it a little bit of time to ponder, just weird that I went from feeling like we were done to really wanting( i think!) another all of the sudden. Now it's in my head and I keep thinking about it.

Maybe really thinking you might not ( or won't) have another is always hard to get used to?

A friend also mentioned to me that after 35 the possibility of twins is quite a bit more likely!! That is something to think about too... wow!

[dakotablue]

If I were you I'd consider that DD doesn't have a close aged sibling...

I am young...ish (almost 27) but Dh and I have already been talking about how I don't know that I want to put a number on our children yet...If we keep having them at this rate (17 months apart) then I want to be done at 35, but I want at least 5, but if I end up with 7 I'd be happy...Silly I know, but I just can't imagine preventing a baby...then again It took us two years to become pregnant with DS.

[mama to 2 girls]

Originally Posted by amyhen

Maybe really thinking you might not ( or won't) have another is always hard to get used to?

A friend also mentioned to me that after 35 the possibility of twins is quite a bit more likely!! That is something to think about too... wow!

Yes, it does take some getting used to.... At least for me...eventhough I was completely 110% on board with dh getting a V it still took some time (and a period of sadness I might add) to get used to it. I had been either p/g or nursing for 6 yrs. (2 m/c's and a few months in between all those p/g's until I got pg with dd1) so it just didn't feel right at first. But I am one of those crazy's that just doesn't believe I should be selfish with wanting more kids for one reason or another. i.e. the world is in a horrible state and only going to get worse, etc.

DH even sometimes brings up that he wishes ds could have a bro. because he never did and thought it might be nice but we know that we have to be responsible for our family and we know we are at our limit and that reason alone (or me wanting to experiance another pg and birth) is not enough.