Really Painful braxton Hicks and missing my mum

[Sidney]

Hi This is my third pregnancy and with this one since week 28 I have been in agony,,,,,,, very uncomfortable, the baby constantly pushing down on my bladder which make me jump everytime, my basketball belly seems to be in constant contraction mode, I never had it on a basiclly continous basis like this, forget sleeping, forget getting comfortable.............feel like I M carrying this baby between my legs, hence I am so exhausted mentally physically, I am not up for sex or lovey duffy stuff which my partner obviously does not get nor understand, and then ends up making it about him...........plus the obvious missing my mum who passed away 5 years ago since I feel like she would be the only one who would be able to remotely understand me......so am not in a good place at the moment......my stresslevels are so out there it is not funny and I feel like I can;t talk to anyone about it without being a whinger and a burden..........sorry am just not feeling great and work is not going great either at the moment....so fun fun fun

[Yuba_River]

[Jodie8]

Hi Sidney, I just wanted to let you know that I understand how it feels to be motherless. My Mom died 5 years ago also, and it is so lonely. I wish my children had a Grandmother and I wish I had some support too. You aren't alone ((hugs))

[MamaMonica]

[Ambyrkatt]

I am so sorry. I lost my mom almost 9 years ago and I would have to say that being pregnant and having a new baby in my life without her to share it with have been the hardest things for me to deal with since I lost her.

I feel exactly the same about feeling like a burden to others if I talk about all the pregnancy stuff that's going on. Like my mom would just listen and offer hugs and support, but everyone else must think I'm just a whiner.

Just know that you are not alone.

[Jodie8]

The book Motherless Mothers by Hope Edelman has given me some comfort. This quote is the best reflection of how I feel all the time. No one else "gets it" you know?
"As motherless women we are hyperconscious of asking for too much, especially from older women, worried about exceeding the boundaries of propriety or facing a polite refusal that so often contains the unspoken addenum, "because you are not my daughter". So, we train ourselves not to ask. "
Hope Edelman, Motherless Mothers.

[Ambyrkatt]

I have read a large portion of Motherless Mothers and have found what I have read to quite helpful and comforting as well. I would definitely recommend it.

And Jodie, that quote hits so close to home for me. I find that I can't even bring myself to ask my MIL for emotional support despite that I am married to her only child and don't really think she would turn me away.

[darkblue0729]

[colleentara]

I know exactly how you feel! I'm so sorry. My mom died almost 3 years ago while I was pregnant with my first baby. Now I'm pregnant again and strangely, I feel worse with missing her this time! I'm anxious and stressed all of the time and I think it has to do with grieving...I'm really needing someone to nurture me.
It has helped me to go to a therapist b/c there I can talk about it all and not feel the guilt. She suggested seeking out the "nurturers" in my life and also focusing on doing as much for myself as possible. I feel like such a downer complaining all of the time to my friends. My DH is really supportive, but he doesn't get it completely.
I'm going to check out that book too.