I'm looking for a MDC forum where I fit in and can get the support, safety, and understanding I need. After my daughter was born in 2002 I became a enthusiastic Mothering subscriber and online user, and loved the boards. I have pointed many women here over the years.
But when my son died in 2006 (planned UBAC ended in hospital transfer, catastrophic rupture and fetal demise with hysterectomy) I could never find a place to be here. I still can't. I'd love to have a place I can go with mamas who have experienced stillbirth, or infant death to process the feelings of loss, pain, quilt, celebration, confusion. I am looking for understanding and support.
Maybe I am missing something? What I can find is this "grief and loss" forum which is okay, but doesn't have the scope I am looking for. There is a pregnancy after loss, conception after loss forum, but I don't want to read about those planning subsequent births. I am on a yahoo group (have been on a few) for infant loss and uterine rupture and the rules are pretty tight as far as what one can post as to keep it safe for the community. If you want to talk about conception or upcoming birth, it goes to another listserve. If you mention living children, you need to label the post as such. For some mamas, it is very jarring to hear about living children, so this gives them a way to not open and read. The point is that there are some major things that add to the feeling of safety and the ability to be vulnerable and share.
Is there a forum I am missing here or a FYT for stillbirth?
I'm frustrated because Mothering seems to have most everything covered, but not this. When I wrote to inquire if I was missing something or if they would consider setting a place up, the response I repeatedly got was that I could go to Pregnancy and Birth loss. Never any other solution, or understanding of what I was looking for. At Pregnancy and Birth loss I have to read thru a million posts of miscarriage or "I'm expecting after multiple m/c" or the like. Don't get me wrong, I am glad that forum exists, and I m not trying to downplay the pain and loss involved with m/c. But it is different, and I am looking for support specific to stillbirth.
I want to talk about this with other mamas who know the journey of stillbirth or infant loss. I love my yahoogroups, but I want belonging at MDC too. Ideas? What am I missing?
Many blessings,
But when my son died in 2006 (planned UBAC ended in hospital transfer, catastrophic rupture and fetal demise with hysterectomy) I could never find a place to be here. I still can't. I'd love to have a place I can go with mamas who have experienced stillbirth, or infant death to process the feelings of loss, pain, quilt, celebration, confusion. I am looking for understanding and support.
Maybe I am missing something? What I can find is this "grief and loss" forum which is okay, but doesn't have the scope I am looking for. There is a pregnancy after loss, conception after loss forum, but I don't want to read about those planning subsequent births. I am on a yahoo group (have been on a few) for infant loss and uterine rupture and the rules are pretty tight as far as what one can post as to keep it safe for the community. If you want to talk about conception or upcoming birth, it goes to another listserve. If you mention living children, you need to label the post as such. For some mamas, it is very jarring to hear about living children, so this gives them a way to not open and read. The point is that there are some major things that add to the feeling of safety and the ability to be vulnerable and share.
Is there a forum I am missing here or a FYT for stillbirth?
I'm frustrated because Mothering seems to have most everything covered, but not this. When I wrote to inquire if I was missing something or if they would consider setting a place up, the response I repeatedly got was that I could go to Pregnancy and Birth loss. Never any other solution, or understanding of what I was looking for. At Pregnancy and Birth loss I have to read thru a million posts of miscarriage or "I'm expecting after multiple m/c" or the like. Don't get me wrong, I am glad that forum exists, and I m not trying to downplay the pain and loss involved with m/c. But it is different, and I am looking for support specific to stillbirth.
I want to talk about this with other mamas who know the journey of stillbirth or infant loss. I love my yahoogroups, but I want belonging at MDC too. Ideas? What am I missing?
Many blessings,
