The August 'Whatever' Thread - Page 8

[akind1]

T, sounds lovely! 8/28 is DH's birthday - he will be 28! (lucky day I guess)

DH will be going to school in the fall for massage therapy, he is really excited about it.

I was going to temp this morning to see if there was a dip, but I forgot I should be seeing AF sometime . . .in the next couple of days.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by MommatoAandA

I did temp this AM and it was mid 97.5's with blasting AC.

Mid 97.5s? What does that mean? Round it to the nearest tenth. That will make things much more clear.

Your wedding plans sound beautiful. We got married outdoors with a JP. My MIL wasn't too keen on it but it wasn't her wedding. They are Catholic so she didn't understand why I wouldn't get married in the church. Well, first off I'm not getting married in any church. Secondly, no way I'm getting married in a church that treats me as subworthy and says I can't say my vows at the alter but have to be in the aisle. She also didn't understand why I didn't take my dh's name. Apparently, she completely controlled her DD's wedding. Had everything planned even before the poor girl was born.

[MarineWife]

Ugh, y'all! I'm totally freaking out. I'm so excited/anxious/nervous that I can't sit still or concentrate on anything. I feel like I can't breathe either. It's like a perpetual anxiety attack. I was laying in bed last night just totally amazed that I'm actually pregnant. Then I get so scared that I'm going to miscarry again. Then I get freaked out about the idea of having another baby! How am I going to do it all?

[MommatoAandA]

my temp was 97.54 so I rounded down. just meant that it is staying up and with blasting AC I wonder if its actually higher. http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2ab513


I just weeded the massive garden that will be right next to my ceremony area. It is my Mother in Laws creation and since she doesn't live her anymore it has not been weeded in over a year. LOL Now Abrielle and I are watching Harry Potter

ETA- MW awww it'll be ok! Anxiety is totally normal... ((HUGS)). Your MIL sounds like a control freak (maybe?). My MIL hates me so she could care less, isn't coming to the wedding at all.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by MommatoAandA

Your MIL sounds like a control freak (maybe?). My MIL hates me so she could care less, isn't coming to the wedding at all.

Maybe. She did keep trying to change my colors. She thought my colors were awful. She ordered the wrong flowers on purpose, which I didn't know until they were delivered and I couldn't change them. We went to the florist together. I picked out the flowers I wanted. She either called or went back some time later and changed the order. The whole issue arose because I wanted a very small wedding in my backyard (like you) since it was my 2nd wedding. DH's parents offered to pay for the entire thing so that we could have a larger one and they could invite more people. It was important to my dh since it was his first wedding so I agreed but made it clear that I was still in charge of everything. His mother was not going to be allowed to take over my wedding the way she did with her DD. However, since the wedding was going to be in CT where they lived and we lived in VA, I did end up having to rely on her for making the final plans. I didn't think she'd actually go behind my back, though, and do something she knew I absolutely did not want. Anyway...

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MommatoAandA

Hilary- I went to esthetics school! I was too talkative lol I could never let people relax. I also got my nail tech license, but never use it.

Did you mean me? Maybe not. But either way that's too funny. I talk a lot too but try to take it down a notch when I see clients want to relax, lol.

Your wedding sounds like it's going to be absolutely lovely. If I ever get married again, lol, it'll be a low key sort of deal. Either that or if I marry for money I'll go all out celeb style!!

MW - I can't imagine going through what you're going through. and going through it ALONE. Can you tell your DH? Maybe just to have one soul IRL who can be there for you and know what's going on and just listen? I know you're pissed b/c he hasn't asked...but maybe he's waiting for you to tell?

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

MW - I can't imagine going through what you're going through. and going through it ALONE. Can you tell your DH? Maybe just to have one soul IRL who can be there for you and know what's going on and just listen? I know you're pissed b/c he hasn't asked...but maybe he's waiting for you to tell?

Thanks and no. There's no point in telling my dh. He'll just think I'm being silly and won't be any comfort at all. I'm better of dealing with it myself.

[hilary549]

yeah, it was totally babycakes who went to esthetician school. i can't even paint my own nails! but appreciate the advice re: the temp. it was high again this morning so i think it was ok. and MW, i agree that night waking doesn't seem to affect temping as much as TCOYF says it will. i used to get up and pee in the middle of the night a lot and it never seemed to affect the temps.
mommatoaanda- your wedding does sound lovely. and i liked hearing the back story. agree with you and MW about casual weddings- we did ours in our back yard too, with a friend to marry us. it was my dh's second so didn't want to do anything too crazy, plus i am not very formal. it was fun that way- relaxed. unlike you two, though, it was my own mom who was driving me crazy with suggestions and changes. my mil has five kids and by that time there had been five weddings already so she was pretty blase about the whole thing. in fact, i imagine she wasn't too hyped about the preceeding five weddings. she is not one to get overly involved. my mom, on the other hand..... sigh. it is so tricky because she does help me out a lot but the constant advice is the price i pay.

[Baby_Cakes]

So, can we talk about sending mixed signals??

Last cycle, DH and I were both upset when we weren't pg. He said to me, with a hug and reassurance in his eyes, "Next time we can try a little harder."

Wouldn't you take that to mean, next time we can TRY a little HARDER? As in, maybe DTD more often during fertile times??

So, tonight, after dtd, we were chatting a bit and I said, "So do you feel a bit more confident? Do you think we have better chances this cycle?" and he got all, "What do you mean? I didn't think we were trying! I thought we were not avoiding but not trying?!!"

WTF? Dude! Now I feel all guilty and whatnot, b/c I was totally under the impression that we were going to try harder. Not that it really matters b/c what's done is done, but still. Talk about him just totally ruining my high on this cycle! Grr! Why can't men just make up their friggin minds??

He's been dropping all sorts of hints this week that another baby would be so great, so here I am totally going with it -- and now this?! Cold feet?

WHATEVER!!

[MarineWife]

Sounds like typical guy stuff. He doesn't know what you think he means when he says what he says. Maybe you should get more specific with him about exactly what he said and how he's been acting and what that means to you. Then he can clarify for you (and maybe himself, too) what he was really thinking and what he meant.

[Baby_Cakes]

How much clearer can it get? I asked him last week, "So, you ready to make a baby w/me this month?" and he smiled, kissed me and said, "Yeah. I am." So WTF? But you're right. I'm gonna have to chat w/him, esp since our timing looks really good!!

How are you doing today, MW? Thinking about you.

[akind1]

well, in guy speak, trying a little harder probably means that they are ok with a baby, sooner or later. and DTD w/o protection, withdrawl, or bc. I think he still sounds like he is on the baby-making train, just not the hard-core TTC one -

MW, that would be awful, my flowers did not turn out exactly as I expected; but they were still lovely. (and no one's fault really)

We were married at a house and garden wedding place. It was nice and casual and they did all the work. I loved it!

[Baby_Cakes]

^ Agreed, akind1. Agreed. Good think we aren't hardcore ttc. You all know I don't want to do that either. I'm not going to mention any of it to him again, we'll just keep doing what we're doing, which is dtd whenever we want w/o protection and enjoying ourselves, lol.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by akind1

well, in guy speak, trying a little harder probably means that they are ok with a baby, sooner or later. and DTD w/o protection, withdrawl, or bc. I think he still sounds like he is on the baby-making train, just not the hard-core TTC one

Yeah, that's what I meant. And, imo, there's a huge difference between dtd with the possibility of getting pg in mind and hardcore TTC just in the way you think about it in your head. KWIM? DTD more because you want to anyway knowing that this time is more likely to result in a pg is still much more relaxed than scheduling TTC, at least the way dh and I did when we were TTC ds2 and ds3.

We had a serious BD schedule that was all planned out. We would try to dtd at least every 3 days from the end of until I started to get ewcf. Once I got ewcf we'd try to dtd at least every other day. Once I got a + opk we would try to dtd every day for the next 4 consecutive days and/or until I got a confirmed thermal shift. That was very grueling.

I don't know about the rest of you but I am much more interested in dtd when I'm fertile and will make much more effort, not because I'm trying to get pg necessarily but because the urge/desire is stronger. So kicking things up a notch when I'm fertile because I have more desire is still whatevering rather than hardcore TTC. I think I'm sort of rambling now and repeating myself.

I'm doing ok. I was thinking I might tell my dad so I can have someone to talk to. He's been very understanding and comforting and supportive with my losses in the past. If y'all don't mind, I'll hang around here for a while. I'm not ready to announce my pg on the pg board and get on the DDC and all that. If my fussing and constant worry start to annoy you, feel free to tell me to chill.

[MarineWife]

I just posed this on the CTA thread so it will be a repeat for some of you. Sorry about that.

Here's what I just read on the side of the FRER box. (probably not a direct quote) Because the test detects such low levels of hcg it is possible to get a + even if you aren't pg. This is more likely for women who are close to and over 40. That's me, y'all. Could actually not be pg? I've gotten several bfps on my ICs, too, but they are at least as sensitive if not more than FRER. The lines are getting darker so I guess that means more likely +?

Sorry about continually reposting but I forgot to do this. I put a poll on my homepage to vote on day of likely O. If y'all have time, I'd appreciate it if you voted. Thanks.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife

Yeah, that's what I meant. And, imo, there's a huge difference between dtd with the possibility of getting pg in mind and hardcore TTC just in the way you think about it in your head. KWIM? DTD more because you want to anyway knowing that this time is more likely to result in a pg is still much more relaxed than scheduling TTC, at least the way dh and I did when we were TTC ds2 and ds3.

We had a serious BD schedule that was all planned out. We would try to dtd at least every 3 days from the end of until I started to get ewcf. Once I got ewcf we'd try to dtd at least every other day. Once I got a + opk we would try to dtd every day for the next 4 consecutive days and/or until I got a confirmed thermal shift. That was very grueling.

I don't know about the rest of you but I am much more interested in dtd when I'm fertile and will make much more effort, not because I'm trying to get pg necessarily but because the urge/desire is stronger. So kicking things up a notch when I'm fertile because I have more desire is still whatevering rather than hardcore TTC. I think I'm sort of rambling now and repeating myself.

I'm doing ok. I was thinking I might tell my dad so I can have someone to talk to. He's been very understanding and comforting and supportive with my losses in the past. If y'all don't mind, I'll hang around here for a while. I'm not ready to announce my pg on the pg board and get on the DDC and all that. If my fussing and constant worry start to annoy you, feel free to tell me to chill.

Please stay! We don't want you to go anywhere. And I'm so glad you're thinking of telling someone IRL.

And that BD schedule gave me a headache just reading it.

And I'm definitely more interested in DTD when fertile. I do go out of my way to seduce DH and it's definitely not only for the sole purpose of baby making. I can't get *enough* of him during that time. He's not complaining.

Originally Posted by MarineWife

I just posed this on the CTA thread so it will be a repeat for some of you. Sorry about that.

Here's what I just read on the side of the FRER box. (probably not a direct quote) Because the test detects such low levels of hcg it is possible to get a + even if you aren't pg. This is more likely for women who are close to and over 40. That's me, y'all. Could actually not be pg? I've gotten several bfps on my ICs, too, but they are at least as sensitive if not more than FRER. The lines are getting darker so I guess that means more likely +?

Sorry about continually reposting but I forgot to do this. I put a poll on my homepage to vote on day of likely O. If y'all have time, I'd appreciate it if you voted. Thanks.

That clause on the box of FRERs is referring to the greater chance of a chemical pg, I believe. They cover their butts that way. I think they mean you may not be pg in that it won't result in a baby -- but we all know that even a chemical IS a pg. I don't think the general non-ttc public knows that. The fact that the lines are getting darker and AF is late now, I think you can feel sure that at least right now today you are pg.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes

That clause on the box of FRERs is referring to the greater chance of a chemical pg, I believe. They cover their butts that way. I think they mean you may not be pg in that it won't result in a baby -- but we all know that even a chemical IS a pg. I don't think the general non-ttc public knows that. The fact that the lines are getting darker and AF is late now, I think you can feel sure that at least right now today you are pg.

I had thought of that. Maybe it's referring to chem pgs. Of course, that doesn't make me feel any better at this point. I'm not sure if is late. She could be 1 day late or it could be another 4 days. Aargh!

[MommatoAandA]

Baby Cakes and hilary- sorry for the mixup. OOPS! I knew I shoulda gone back and looked to make sure...

MW- hugs. I hate to see the other girls go when they get PG. I understand but its sad! U hang out here for 10 months and beyond if you want! I am pretty sure you are pregnant hunny. All those positives and getting darker solidifies it. I am glad you can talk to your dad and sorry you can't talk to your DH, sometimes their defense mechanisms suck.

Babycakes- UGH your DH sounds like most clueless men about whatevering/TTC. They just don't understand how unfair it is to be gung-ho then indifferent.

AFM- I went back to work last night and it was a SH*TTY night. I am thinking nursing homes are just NOT for me. Gotta figure something else out. this isn't a good fit for me. My temping was all messed up this AM, surprisingly close to normal though. more watery/EWCM and feeling, AHEM Frisky.

On another note. I am totally annoyed with our living situation right now. We live in a teeny apartment and I have had enough. See we live in a family owned building. We live in the basement and my SIL is on the second floor and my BIL and 2 roommates are upstairs (BIL is in the service and could move down to the basement). the upstairs apartment is HUGE. Like 4 bedrooms, attic for storage. It needs some work and we would have to do it ourself. The bathroom basically needs to be gutted and we are not going to be here more than 3 more years, but our place is NOT cutting it. We are in the basement and it is barely 2 bedrooms and I am losing my mind. It gets out of hand quickly and I just cannot keep it neat. I am ready to have a nervous breakdown.

[MarineWife]

Carrie ~ To address your comment in the CTA thread. I had actually been getting what looked like very, very faint, almost not there evap lines from the day I started testing. The first couple of days I didn't believe my eyes. I thought I was seeing the spot where the line is supposed to be. It wasn't until cd24 that I got what I was pretty sure was a BFP. It was a definite pink line and darker than all the others. I didn't have to squint at it and move the hpt this way and that in different light to see but it was still very faint. That's when I got the FRER to confirm. So now I'm wondering if using the FRER to confirm was a bad idea. If the ICs are at least as sensitive as the FRER, which they must be if they can detect a pg as early as 6dpo, then they must be prone to the same kind of false +. The lines getting darker is a good thing so I'm going to hang on to that for now.

[Baby_Cakes]

MW, I get what you're saying. I think you're going to just have to wait and see.

Ok, I did it. I caved. I bought 30 days VIP on FF! It was only $10 and I'm hopeful for this cycle. LOL. I *almost* bought the 90 days but said to myself I wouldn't need it for that long. Wishful thinking?