The August 'Whatever' Thread - Page 9

[MommatoAandA]

I have so much to do in my house. I was trying to get it all done and I had a thought and I needed to say something...

I have until March to conceive. I am shocked I am not ovulating. I have always ovulated and thought I was fertile. I am really feeling crappy about having a weird cycle. If I don't get pregnant by March then it probably will not ever happen for us, unless we decide to have a baby much much later after my career as a CNM is well established which will be years and I won't want to start over by then. Ok mine whining session is over. Sometimes I need to freak out and just vent for a moment. Sorry if this is annoying.

[MarineWife]

T ~ March is quite a ways away. Your body has time to regulate. Try not to get too stressed about one wacky cycle. TCOYF says almost every woman has one anov cycle per year. It's totally normal.

[BarefootScientist]

MW, I hope you are able to relax a bit. You can stick around here if you want, for sure! I definitely understand not wanting to start the whole DDC thing right away.

BabyCakes ...I think the guys just don't KNOW what they're saying, yk? I think sometimes they just don't get it. They really have no idea how much we are thinking about it and obsessing about it, and they probably don't understand what "try a little harder" might mean to us or how saying it might affect us. I think they're basically clueless.

AFM, home from my weekend (it was fun!) and anticipating family coming to visit starting tonight. Don't feel very fertile yet - I was drippy yesterday but I think that was leftovers. We'll see when I O and if we have any chance this cycle. Here's my chart.

[MarineWife]

My dh always seems to be clueless about almost everything. Sometimes it makes me so angry. He used to say, "Situational awareness," to use all the time. He was trying to stress how important it is to pay attention to what's going on around you. But he seems to never know what's going on outside his own little bubble. Bleh!

[akind1]

MW - stick around awhile for sure! I think you are pregnant also; you have a MW appt Weds, right?

That is an awful living situation, I don't know that I would want to live that closely to any of my family or IL's! might be worth it just for the space to move up a floor though.

I am just waiting on AF. (no clue what CD I am on; haven't been to FF yet)

as for VIP days; LOL that is like me not buying tampons; I don't buy until AF shows up! (I mean for you buyinng 30 instead of 90 days)

On a happy note: saturday night DS did not wake up to eat at all between 1 am and 8 am. and last night he woke only once, so this is a major improvement; I feel alot more rested!

[MarineWife]

Ok, ladies. I am going to try to chill now. Here's a pic of the digital and Answer Early I took just a few minutes ago. The digital didn't take anywhere near 3 minutes to come up (that's how long the directions say to wait).

CBE digital and Answer Early

Apparently, the don't make any non-blue dye not early hpts anymore so I couldn't get any less sensitive.

[Baby_Cakes]

BEAUTIFUL TESTS!

[MovingMomma]

MW: nice tests today! And for all the DH stuff.

I think it's kind of funny that most of you seem to be in a situation where you want to be pg and your husband is confused/unsure/not ready/etc... I'd have to go w/MW's method in that situation: Give DH the info, but leave the responsibility up to him. In our house my DH is usually ready for another baby before I am! (And I'm talking ready before I even can get pg again...I had almost 2 yrs of amenorrhea after each of my girls.) Right now we're on the same page, though. We both want another baby, but we're both hoping for a couple of months before we get pg. If it happens right away, we'll be thrilled, but it would be more convenient if it didn't happen immediately. If I get one more high temp I'll confirm O for CD 18 & we'll have a few safe weeks immediately after he returns. My chart.

[akind1]

Yay! on lovely tests!!

I am a sucker for digi tests -

oh, am on cd29; 12 DPO, so AF should come tomorrow or the day after. not feeling the least bit crampy though, which I usually do.

Oh, and TTC til March gives you nearly 8 months, plenty of time I think!

[akind1]

Shannon, I do the same. since we use condoms, I leave it up to him whether to use or not. I give him what info I can (nursing sometimes leads to wonky cycles) and let him decide. We would be fine with a BFP now, but nearer November would be best.

on O I am sure you are looking forward to having your DH back -

[MarineWife]

Thanks everyone. Now I just wish I knew for sure how many dpo I am. could be late or still due in a couple of days.

Originally Posted by MovingMomma

I think it's kind of funny that most of you seem to be in a situation where you want to be pg and your husband is confused/unsure/not ready/etc... I'd have to go w/MW's method in that situation: Give DH the info, but leave the responsibility up to him.

Thank you for that vote of support. I've gotten flack from some people because they think I'm being dishonest and trying to trick dh. I have a bit of feminist anger about all of that. Forever it has been the woman's responsibility to either get or prevent pg based on what others want and regardless of what she wants. I think it should be the responsibility of the individual who doesn't want a baby. It is the responsibility of both partners to be open and honest but it's not the responsibility of one partner to ensure the other partners follows through, especially if s/he is not in agreement.

Your chart looks good, Shannon.

[MommatoAandA]

MW- WOOOW YAAAAY! I would say there is a cute little bean in there. Those tests are very convincing. Are you feeling any better about it? When is your appt?

Shannon- your chart looks good. Very convincing shift. DF and I are on the same page and TTC was his idea mainly. I mean now I am all aboard, but it took me some time to hash out logistics. I am a total list maker and thinker and organizer. It needed to make sense to me. It does now. But yeah Ithink most men struggle with out right talking about feelings and expressing themselves.

Katrina-

MW- Your Alysia right? Did I spell it right? I got it from your chart I think. Can I call you that? I have a question, is it customary for a temp to be lower later on in the am? Like I temped yesterday at 545 and it was 97.4, this am, at 6 am it was 97.3? I thought for sure with less sleep in between and later it got higher? Totally weird. Unless I am getting ready to have AF? What d oyou think?

I am on CD, 29... I think I have to check my chart and enter my temp. No confirmed O, just hoping for AF. Thanks ladies for reassuring me. I really just was having a moment. 8 months is good time and if it doesn't happen, then it wasn't meant to be I suppose.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by MommatoAandA

MW- Your Alysia right? Did I spell it right? I got it from your chart I think. Can I call you that? I have a question, is it customary for a temp to be lower later on in the am? Like I temped yesterday at 545 and it was 97.4, this am, at 6 am it was 97.3? I thought for sure with less sleep in between and later it got higher? Totally weird. Unless I am getting ready to have AF? What d oyou think?

Yes, that's me and it's ok if you call me that. Generally, the later you take a temp the higher it will probably be. However, temps can go up and down and a difference of 15 minutes isn't really significant.

I have an appointment with a midwife on Wednesday. I'm starting to think I should tell dh soon (now that he's gone for 4 days ). I'm having a hard time not saying something to my 6yo, which is totally inappropriate. I've never done anything fun or cute or surprisey to announce a pg. I can't really do a t-shirt or hat with Daddy on it since he's already a daddy. He won't get it. Any other ideas? I was thinking maybe a really mushy cards. He likes those to the point that he buys them for no reason and stashes them for the future.

[akind1]

Alysia (so we don't confuse MW -marinewife - with MW midwife)Maybe a "father of four" shirt/hat? I didn't do anything cute for DH; just ran in early in the morning with the digi, I couldn't wait!

we did the cute stuff for the grandmas.

Maybe a "big brother" t-shirt for your youngest?

It is easier for me to remember real names rather than usernames for some reason

to you also Torre! we are on the same CD! hope to stay cycle buddies, since I know there isn't any chance of pregnancy for me. We have been too tired lately for our usual DTD-before-AF-shows-and-we-can't I keep hoping to squeeze it in, and then, nope! oh well.

[MommatoAandA]

Alysia- YAAAYYY! For telling DH. I think you should. He may be a little indifferent, but he will adjust. I like the card idea. Since he is into that it should appeal to him!

I am not sure how I am going to tell STBDH when it happens. Both our children were not conceived under the best of terms and DD1 isn't DH's so there was nothing cutesy about that pregnancy. With DD2, its hard for me to admit we did not think she was DF's since I had a one drunken night thing with him and then immediately began seeing someone else (we were seperated at the time). So this next pregnancy, should we have another will be a new experience. I'm really excited to think of a cute way to tell him .

Katrina- YAAAY a cycle buddy! I am kind of concerned AF has not showed yet. But I have no idea what my cycles will be like nowadays so waiting it out it will be, like the first page says: Que Sera Sera....

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MommatoAandA

have a question, is it customary for a temp to be lower later on in the am? Like I temped yesterday at 545 and it was 97.4, this am, at 6 am it was 97.3? I thought for sure with less sleep in between and later it got higher? Totally weird. Unless I am getting ready to have AF? What d oyou think?

This totally happens to me all the time. I'll temp at like 6:30 (my normal time) and then fall back asleep. I never use the 2nd temp but sometimes I temp again, after like 15-20 min of sleep, and it's lower. Or once I temped after being restless in bed for about 30 min, realized I should temp, and it was incredibly low, lower than what I would have thought was accurate. Doesn't make any sense to me.

Originally Posted by MarineWife

I can't really do a t-shirt or hat with Daddy on it since he's already a daddy. He won't get it. Any other ideas? I was thinking maybe a really mushy cards. He likes those to the point that he buys them for no reason and stashes them for the future.

I really like the mushy card idea!

I'm not sure what I'm going to do next time. I could fall back on the tried and true Big Sister shirt for DD, but I dunno...I want to do something more original and obvious but still cute. I'm gonna go waste time googling ideas.

[hippy mum]

I need to catch up. But MW. Try to relax, I know that's hard. Tell dh. I was a wreck about telling my dh the last 2x but it was ok. Though he didn't believe me until I went to the mw.

Finally, some creamy/ewcf here.

[MommatoAandA]

Katrina- I lied, lol I'm on cd 30, i totally lost a day somewhere.. But we are close! http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2ab513 wondering if I am going to start AF, hence the temp dropping?

BBrandon- Yay for fertile CF!

BFS- I forgot to say welcome back!

[BarefootScientist]

So this weekend my dad offered me a Smirnoff and when I said no thanks he immediately said "Are you pregnant?!?" DH was like, "Dude, she just brushed her teeth." My dad then went on to say that he had seen on my facebook that I had "liked" a page called Babywearing Safety (I found it reading the latest issue of Mothering online) and he thought that meant I was pregnant. LOL So this makes me want to come up with subtly pregnant-sounding status updates to tease him. And then, if/when I actually do get pregnant, to make them less and less subtle until he calls wondering WTH is up. Hee hee hee I'm evil. Anyone have any ideas?

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by BarefootScientist

So this weekend my dad offered me a Smirnoff and when I said no thanks he immediately said "Are you pregnant?!?" DH was like, "Dude, she just brushed her teeth." My dad then went on to say that he had seen on my facebook that I had "liked" a page called Babywearing Safety (I found it reading the latest issue of Mothering online) and he thought that meant I was pregnant. LOL So this makes me want to come up with subtly pregnant-sounding status updates to tease him. And then, if/when I actually do get pregnant, to make them less and less subtle until he calls wondering WTH is up. Hee hee hee I'm evil. Anyone have any ideas?

Totally! Just start putting things like, "I'm sooo tired" and "I'd kill for some rocky road ice cream right now" and see when he finally can't take it anymore, lol!