You mentioned that you were an only child - you probably didn't experience siblings coming in and bothering you all the time. Little siblings aren't well know for respecting privacy. And it really isn't privacy, if at any time someone can walk by and see and hear everything you're doing. Even having my mom walk into my room was distracting, being able to hear every last thing that anybody said or did just. . .disturbed my peace. I think you should probably think about what you will do if your children have different privacy needs than you do. It seems unnecessarily controlling and disrespectful to tell anyone (child or not) that they can't set their own boundaries, and that's what this would be doing. Assuming a child is old enough that getting themselves in danger is a concern, I really, really don't understand how it could be unhealthy for them to want to read a book on their bed and play some music with the door shut.
Yes, I am an only child, and also a child of divorce...so in my teenage years I found it very comforting to be able to hear my mom putter around the house.
I find this thread very interesting because I am a huge advocate of respecting people no matter their age. But for some reason this particular issue really does not seem like a healthy family choice to me. One can just as easily read a book and play music with the door open...goodness knows I did enough of this as a kid. Having the door open never really made me feel exposed or whatever. It was just as much my personal space as if the door were closed. Its just that my personal space was not isolated from that of the larger family.
In my experience all the families I have known who allow closed doors have been very dysfunctional in terms of communication. Kid went off to room, closed door, and both kid and family thought good riddance. Nothing important was ever discussed in those families (and in a couple of cases the families were downright abusive which was why the kid was so eager to shut them out). Again this is just from my own experience, with the people I knew growing up. My family on the contrary was very communicative. I guess I had always assumed a link there, between literal open doors and figurative ones.
In terms of blocking out the TV, well that will not be an issue because we are a TV free household.
I guess I don't see a need for privacy within my own family. I will certainly watch my child for his comfort level on this though. I am curious though, do all of you close the doors on rooms other than the bathroom against your DP as well? Does your DP close themselves up in a room for privacy? Or is this just something that kids do in your household?
There seems to be an interesting correlation between this thread and the territorial room thread. Many of you don't allow anyone into your bedrooms without permission (or at all) another concept that I find completely foreign. I don't see what the issue is there either honestly. I don't have anything to hide from my own family, and I don't need any space that is just mine. I guess that is why I am so happy living in a small house.
Food on the other hand is a different matter. You had better not eat something that is mine, or I'll come after ya (RIGHT DH??)!