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post #141 of 406
Library- No one can force you to have your baby in the hospital. My plan is to find a midwife soon after becoming pregnant and work exclusively with them. I only plan to go to the hospital if there is a complication. (My sister's baby was breech and she had to have a c-section) Stay positive and remember, you are strong!

AmyPDX- Welcome back, good to see you again. I hope this is your cycle!

Miss Scarlett- on the upcoming insems!

AFM- CD3 Geez, it was just the other day I was feeling so down about my BFN. Now I feel there is no time to sulk about the last cycle because this one is raring to go! I'm going in for my u/s today. The RE just likes to make sure there are no cysts or anything hanging out from last cycle. If all looks good I will start my Clomid today. Feeling good. This will by my second cycle on meds and my sixth cycle with legit sperm from the bank.
post #142 of 406
Hi Everyone,

Max: I hope the ultrasound went well! I think 2 and 6 are both lucky numbers. Hopefully this is the cycle for you!

Gelly: I'm sorry. Your body must want to make a May baby for you.

Scarlett/Kristen: I'm so glad that it looks like your timing will work out! Swim, spermies, swim!

Wehrli: How are you feeling?

Amy: I'm sorry that AF arrived, and that you had a weird cycle. Hopefully this next one is clear and perfect!

Library/Amanda: It's exciting that you're over at Q&P, but do keep in touch over here too!

Bunny: How are you doing?

2ezforyou: I hope you feel less irritated soon!

AFM: I would love some advice. My question is if I should stay with my current RE or try to switch to someone else.

My RE, Dr. R, is part of a local fertility clinic. Dr. R is competent, knowledgeable, and friendly enough, but she doesn't volunteer much information unless I ask and she doesn't really seem to care if I get and stay pregnant or not--she was completely unsympathetic when I had my miscarriage.

The real challenge for us is that her office staff are not friendly. The nurses and administrators often seem angry if we ask questions or don't immediately do what they say. They don't seem to coordinate information at all, so if one person I have talked to is out of the office the other nurses and administrators don't have any idea of what we had discussed. My wife has overheard the staff making rude comments about other patients when she has been in the waiting room. They have been actively unhelpful with dealing with my insurance. I feel like they may be making things extra difficult for us because we are gay. Dealing with the staff is almost always a stressful experience, which obviously isn't ideal right around ovulation.

However, I don't feel like there are any obviously better options. There are no midwives in my area that do IUIs. The other major fertility clinic in the area is known for having totally inflexible policies and not allowing much individual choice. I don't know of any other doctors in the area who do IUIs.

What do you all think? Any thoughts or suggestions? Thank you!
post #143 of 406
Does anyone have any postive stories about low hcg? I had my beta today (14DPIUI) and my hvg is only 43. Progesterone is really good at 42, but the nurse was not optimistic. Another beta on Wednesday to check doubling time.... I really, really, really do not want to go through this again.
post #144 of 406
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Does anyone have any postive stories about low hcg? I had my beta today (14DPIUI) and my hvg is only 43. Progesterone is really good at 42, but the nurse was not optimistic. Another beta on Wednesday to check doubling time.... I really, really, really do not want to go through this again.
hugs mama.

i'm holding our 38 hcg at 14dpo in my arms right now! sending sticky thoughts your way.
post #145 of 406
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Does anyone have any postive stories about low hcg? I had my beta today (14DPIUI) and my hvg is only 43. Progesterone is really good at 42, but the nurse was not optimistic. Another beta on Wednesday to check doubling time.... I really, really, really do not want to go through this again.
Hey girl... Sorry you are going through something stressful like that. I read that "average" is between 50 and 100 so you are not far behind so of course you have a chance of it working out. It really does depend on the second beta. It could be a late implanter ? Does your chart show any hint as of when implantation happened ?

We are behind you !

Coco
xx
post #146 of 406
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Hey girl... Sorry you are going through something stressful like that. I read that "average" is between 50 and 100 so you are not far behind so of course you have a chance of it working out. It really does depend on the second beta. It could be a late implanter ? Does your chart show any hint as of when implantation happened ?

We are behind you !

Coco
xx
I have not been charting and do not have any idea about when implantation could have occured. I, too, am hoping for a late implanter! These next two days are going to be pretty stressful. I congnitively know all hope is not gone, but it feels pretty sad and I can't stop crying. I knew I should have had my bloodwork checked to see if my thyroid meds were appropriate. I think I need to take more for the hypothyroid and low thyroid can lead to miscarriage. I was supposed to get it checked a couple months ago, but got busy and never had it done.
post #147 of 406
2happymamas - i'm sorry the nurse was such a negative nelly over your beta result. as long as your # doubles appropriately everything should be fine. when do you have your next blood draw? lots and lots of positive sticky energy headed your way!!

edited to add: my dp is also hypothyroid. call your endo and have them up your dosage! my dp's synthroid went from 75mg pre-pregnancy to 125mg after her bfp. is it possible you can have your tsh tested really quickly?

g
post #148 of 406
2happymamas: I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. I have everything crossed for you, and I think you have an excellent chance of good news in a few days. But I know right now it must feel horrible.

I have no idea if this will be interesting to you, but here is someone who had an initial beta of 14 and went on to have a healthy baby.

I have everything crossed for you!
post #149 of 406
2happymamas- My first beta was 41.2 at 15dpo (or 14?). The nurse was also very pessimistic and I was freaked out. My second way in the 200s two days later, it is really the doubling time that is important. Try not to stress! Try your best to stay calm, it is the best thing for that little one. I am sending lots of wishes for a sticky bean your way!
post #150 of 406
Hi all,

Just popping in after a semi-long absence (we were away from home for almost a month: too long!), to say hello, and to congratulate Library and 2happymamas!

and to you both. I don't know anything about beta counts, 2happymamas, but I'm hoping for sticky babies and easy pregnancies all around!

As for the rest of the Queer Conceptions team, I've been lurking a bit and am rooting for you all. I'm too behind for personals, but I'm thinking of everyone and sending fertile vibes!

AFM: This morning, on our first full day home, we went for an 8 week checkup and ultrasound. I had been having paranoid fantasies that I was imagining being pregnant, and was relieved to see that there's a fetus in there. I have a higher level ultrasound next week to check for neural tube defects (since that's what happened with my last pregnancy), and I hope to feel more confident after that. Still, since all evidence shows that I'm knocked up, I'm going to cautiously join Q&P. I hope to see ALL of you there soon.

xoxo,
Beastie.
post #151 of 406
Hi guys!

2Happy-- Stay positive! I'm sure it was a late implantation, and that little bean is just getting settled in.

Max-- THANK YOU!!

Escher--I can't remember exactly what your situation is, but it sounds like *any* option would be better than your current situation. Could you switch to ICI and do it yourselves? (or if you are comfortable doing IUI yourselves) it is so crucialto feel like you have an ally instead of an enemy, or worse yet, a bystander in the process. It sounds like your doc has lost that connection, and either can't, or doesn't care enough to get it back. Are you in am area where you could drive a bit and be somewhere better? In my opinion rude staff is an unacceptable option. Hoping you find a better teammate for this journey soon.

AFM-- The funeral is over and I'm at the airport on my way back home. A long 24 hour tour. As usual I need to take a timing poll: My monitor is still at "high" but the lh line is getting a little darker. My saliva test says tomorrow is my peak day, and only a faint line on my smiley. So the question is we have three vials this time, should we inseminate tonight tomorrow am & pm, or wait and start tomorrow am? What do y'all think? No surge yet.
post #152 of 406
Hey ladies~ No way I would desert you all! I love hearing everyone's stories and information. I'm rooting for everyone~ I know I'd given up and then it happened, so I know it can happen for you too!

2mamas~ I'm sorry for your low numbers, but there are plenty of success stories to disprove that pessimism. Do let us know how it goes next week. I'm sorry the nurse wasn't more supportive.

Escher~ All I can say is WTF?!?! Your RE's and office sound like a NIGHTMARE! I'd leave as soon as I could. When you say the other RE in the area is 'inflexible', what do you mean exactly, and how would that impact your plans? I'm thinking that even an inflexible person would be preferable to an office full of actively hateful and unsupportive people. That's just my two cents~ do let us know what you decide.

Beastie~ Keep us posted! I'm glad the first u/s went well, I look forward to hearing about the second.

Scarlett~ Glad you're heading home and getting back to normal. As for your insems, that's a tough call. Maybe tonight midnight, tomorrow noon and tomorrow night midnight? That kinda gets it across all three days, and it's better to be early than late! My fingers and everything else are crossed for you. I think with all those swimmers you'll do really well this time.

AFM~ Had my beta blood test today with good results. 16dpo, pcg 508, Progesterone 39.2. The nurse was very positive, and was laughing because the due date is April 15~ Tax Day! Yay for little deductions. I'm laughing because my sister's birthday is April 12 and she'll think I did this on purpose just to steal her thunder. I'll have another blood test next week, and an ultrasound on the 25th or 26th. After that, I think we'll start telling parents and things, if all is well.

Also, True Blood last night was SO INTENSE!
post #153 of 406
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AFM-- The funeral is over and I'm at the airport on my way back home. A long 24 hour tour. As usual I need to take a timing poll: My monitor is still at "high" but the lh line is getting a little darker. My saliva test says tomorrow is my peak day, and only a faint line on my smiley. So the question is we have three vials this time, should we inseminate tonight tomorrow am & pm, or wait and start tomorrow am? What do y'all think? No surge yet.
you do IUIs, right?? if so i'd wait for the surge for sure (or at least tomorrow morning). those swimmers don't live long once in the uterus (i think i once heard 8hrs or something like that) and most ppl O within 24 hrs of the surge if you are doing any vials ICI i'd err on the side of earlier is better. good luck!
post #154 of 406
Beastie- Good to see you and to hear your pregnancy is still coming along wonderfully!

2happymamas- Keeping my fingers crossed for you that it stays sticky!

Miss Scarlett- Mmmm… I think I would wait. I look for at least a few signs to go positive before I start. Sounds like maybe tomorrow will be the day. What is your temp?

escher12- I recently switched RE because the staff was not friendly, even argued with me about what my insurance would cover, and I thought the RE was trying to get me to take expensive tests because she works at the hospital. I pay a little more now but I am very happy I did it. I love the new staff, RE’s and nurses. They are very friendly and every time I talk to my RE she tells me to stay positive and that it will happen. As you may know my DP has learned to do my IUI’s and has been doing them for the past three cycles. We are both very happy about it and it saves us time, money, aggravation, and we can even inseminate in the middle of the night! Let me know if you want to talk about the details. There is a lot of information online about it.

LibraryLady- Yay for tax babies! At least it will be a day of celebration for you!

AFM-
Just got the ok to start my meds for this cycle. I have priced out the new progesterone, Endometrin; this one should not make me itchy. It’s at least $220-$300 for the cycle! I think I’m going to stick with my old suppositories that itch for $38.
post #155 of 406
Max~ YIKES!! $330 for the cycle!! I think you'd be right to stick with the itch for such a huge savings. Mine are $60 a cycle and do make me a bit itchy, but what can we do?! I'm about to go get my next set~ I'm going to have to stay on it for the first tri I think. Fun.

Scarlett~ I take back what I said about insemming. Wehrli's right, you should wait just a little bit longer...
post #156 of 406
Good Morning Everyone!

Chiquitayy: I'm sorry. Are you trying again this cycle?

Bunny: How are you doing? Have you tested recently? Your temps still look good!

Max: Ugh. What a pain to have to choose between being itchy and overpriced meds.

Library: Hooray for good beta levels!

Scarlett: What did you decide about timing?

Beastie: I'm so glad that the ultrasound went well! Let us know how next week's goes, please!

2happymamas: How are you holding up today?

AFM: Thank you for your sympathy and advice regarding my RE. I love the idea of doing at-home IUIs, but my wife just isn't comfortable with it, and I want to respect that. We could definitely do at-home ICIs (and that was what we were planning to switch to before we ended up pregnant in May), but we would have to switch sperm banks (TSBC has almost no unwashed available), and we really like that TSBC is non-profit and gives out sperm counts for free (AND we got pregnant before doing IUIs...).

From what I've heard, the other main fertility clinic in my area is inflexible in that they have lots of set policies (you must have a pregnancy test before they will do any inseminations even if you are 100% positive you are not pregnant, you must take progesterone after having IUIs even if your levels seem fine, etc.), and it feels like I would have less control over what happened. I don't know.

And of course on top of all that is the time pressure: we need to be choosing sperm in the next week or so, so that when AF arrives we can immediately arrange for it to be delivered. My wife feels like maybe we should just go with our unfriendly clinic for at least one more cycle, just because we don't have a better option set up right now. She thinks that if we try to switch to a new clinic we'll end up having to take a cycle off. So if we want to insem next cycle, I guess we need to either need to stick with our current clinic or do at-home ICIs. Hmm....
post #157 of 406
Escher~ Ugh, what a dilemma! I do think it's wise to perhaps stick with the unfriendly people if your cycle's about to kick off. I hate having to miss a cycle, it's just triple-extra frustrating. But it's a tough decision between two unpleasantries, it sounds like.

Scarlett~ How's it going? Are you insemming today?

Bunny~ what's the news?


How's everyone else? I feel like the board's gotten smaller lately~ where'd all our ladies go!?
post #158 of 406
Wehrli/Library/Max-- Once again, the voice of reason My LH line is still very faint, so we are holding off for a bit, and my monitor was still just "high" this morning. Ill have DP check my cervix at lunch and see where we are. I normally dont get a surge until the afternoon, so Im just hanging out and waiting. My temps are still just chilling below the coverline Thank you!

Library-- You definitely have to stick around

Escher--Another option would be to use washed sperm, but just do ICI instead of IUI if your partner is more comfortable? Might be an option... Or, you could really sit down with your RE and discuss your concerns? Sometimes they are unaware of how bad the situation has progressed, or too burnt out to realize it. :twocents

Beastie--
HI! Glad to hear everything is progressing well!!

AFM--My fish fertility charm came yesterday I LOVE IT. She did such an awesome job, it's perfect. Ill post some pics later this afternoon. Going to try to squeeze in some acupuncture today, and not be TOO overwhelmed with busy days at the clinic. Im just hanging out waiting for the signs to be right. My BFF is 4 cm dilated, and 60 % effaced, so the countdown is on for Auntie Kristen duty too. Maybe I can get around some of those new baby pheromones soon.

EDIT: Actually, when I overlayed my chart, I got the same exact temp dip and spike yesterday and today that I got for O last month. BUT my ovulation confirmation was negative last night, so I havent O'ed yet (unless it happened overnight) and I havent gotten a surge yet....goodness gracious please universe don't let me have missed it...
post #159 of 406
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How's everyone else? I feel like the board's gotten smaller lately~ where'd all our ladies go!?
I'm still here...we had a hard time with our last bfn...so I've kinda been down and in lurker mode. Plus my sister and her family are still with us which is causing much stress...I'm thinking about laying off a month until I can get my house and my sanity back...ttc when I'm all stressed out could be what is keeping us from getting our bfp. I don't know.
post #160 of 406
Hi kids!

I'm taking wehrli and coco up on the suggestion to come over and join the group. Thanks for the invite!

My lovely wife and I are waiting until October to start trying, so for now I'm mostly just tracking things (I've been temping for 3 months and then this month added in the excitement of pee sticks and CM and poking at my cervix, which was all too much to interpret all at once and just confused me. Hopefully now that I have the idea down the next couple rounds will make more sense). Tomorrow I get to go in and do the preliminary bloodwork to get set up with the dr's office.

Looking forward to getting to know you all and excited to see some lovely baby pics from all the BFPs that have been on here in the last few weeks!
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