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Originally Posted by mamaofthree
i love the holidays, especially ones that only involve food. love cooking, hate gift giving/buying. i have taken to donating to charities during the holidays now. all the people i know IRL have everything, i can't stand shopping and why give them more shit to store someplace! lol
So...srsly. Me, too. Everybody I know that I give gifts to, even including DS, already have anything they need.
DS isn't really a hoarder, but he refuses to weed stuff. He's gotten ever so slightly better this past year, but not really much. I still have to take advantage of his ADHD forgetfulness and go in there when he's not home and weed things
At least he's a kid and can always use something
My mom lacks for absolutely nothing. She's said she doesn't want anything anymore.
I don't want anything anymore, except maybe gift cards, cause I can always use things-- but things I need, kwim? Nothing anyone would want to give me for a gift, like...oh...replacement mascara
So...what are y'all (everybody) doing for holidays this year? That involve giving?
I don't make things, and even if I did, nobody'd want anything homemade. I don't want anything. I'm decluttering like a madwoman, finally.
What does one do when one doesn't want to (and can't really afford to) give gifts? What about when people expect them?
And the worst part-- what about when people expect them, because it's the current standard/status quo, and their standards are way
higher than yours (e.g. my nieces were raised very money-conscious and have very expensive tastes, and don't appreciate much of anything if it's not name-brand or expensive, or lots of quantity, or just plain lots of cash)?
I didn't give my nieces anything this year for their birthdays. I didn't even send a card. I've stopped sending cards, except for the Yule exchange
But I just sent them notices on Facebook like all their friends did.
Was that lousy?
Should I have told them why I didn't send anything? I didn't because I couldn't afford anything, but that's embarrassing for certain reasons. But do you (collective you) actually tell people that?
But also because I can't possibly give them anything they'd care about. I don't have that kind of money. And I don't want to just give things because I'm "supposed" to. Especially when I'd know it was a waste of money I don't have, for something they'd probably end up tossing out anyway.