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[mamaofthree]

i can't stand ignorance. i just can't take it any more.

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[DaughterOfKali]

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

i just realized today that if we can't sell the house soon, we might just have to let it go into foreclosure...>SNIP<
kids are having one of those days.

Can you rent it out?

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

i can't stand ignorance. i just can't take it any more.

h

What's up?

[Aeress]

Stopping in again, it has been so busy....

Thinking of everyone and wishing everyone a blessed weekend!

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

maia: i just realized today that if we can't sell the house soon, we might just have to let it go into foreclosure.

Yikes, mama, I hope you don't have to do that! Sorry about your horrid day Me, I will have to live in the house till it sells. I can't rent it, even if I wanted to, because it's a gov't. loan and it's stipulated that I can't rent it out. Not to mention I don't want to be a landlord, absentee or otherwise. I tend to cut losses and run and never look back. I just want out of here, now that I have my heart set on it.

Blew bucks (um, I mean invested) on a cleaning lady today. The house now looks stark and clean and beautiful, though the closets are now packed solid full of the stuff that was laying around
At any rate, it's going to be hard to keep it this nice through Saturday afternoon, when the open house is.
Been cleaning up the yard, too, finally. All that massive pokeweed that has been growing up around the windows, and the blackberry vines that didn't bear berries, and all the other who-knows-what. Shoulda done this ages ago.

Mamas, all I need is ONE buyer, like I already said. They need to come on Saturday and fall in love with my little house.

I miss M so, so much...it's been almost 2 months now since I've seen him and he's such a PITA about the cam. For him it's "too much trouble to drag that all out" and you know, each and every single time he does, he's glad he did. But getting him to that point? SUCH a hassle.
that he does, tonight, because I'm trying to tell him without being pestery, that if he just does this, for a few minutes, I will shut up.
Gods, I miss him, though

[mamaofthree]

dok: i don't want to deal with it being a rental. even if we go thru a property management company we have to come up with the money for them and any and all repairs to the house. i just think about all the crap we had to go thru with this house we are renting. plumbing issues, new flooring, new oven, fixing the drier. and then when they move out having to make sure it wasn't left a pit and having to pay all of those fees.

Maia: i feel the same way... i just need one person who wants the house. it really is a great place, in a wonderful neighborhood, with good schools. the house does need some work, but it is all make up, nothing structurally. plus the fact that it is on 1/2 acre... and it is so full of plants and trees and life.

maybe what i need to do is stop saying it needs work and put out there it is PERFECT ALREADY!

oh and for that other comment, just family facebook ignorance about religions (not even my own! LOL) hate for all people in one group is so disheartening to me. and then the fool actually thinks he is a "hero" because he is an EMT. i told him.... i hero is more then a uniform and a truck. it is treating ALL people with compassion, kindness and thoughtfulness, even when you are not ON the job. don't facebook your hate! grrrr!

on an up note... discovered my new favorite afternoon snack... tart apples with nutella and peanutbutter dip! lol the boys thought i was da bomb for that one. lol

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[LionessMom]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

Wow, ugh!! :Puke How did you deal, mama? Maggots are one thing I have big problems dealing with.
But the free computer, wow, score! I'd be totally stoked over that one. I got one for DS from a yard sale, $20, and it works if you plug it in, but it can't go online unless I get a card for it, which is way more $$ than I want to spend. At least he can play games on it,which is why I got it, but I wish it could go online!

there were only 5 of them and i have a pretty strong stomach. i can hold anything in. the opposite of DH, who looked like he was going to hurl just from me saying one sentence about it . i didnt really have anything else interesting happen today my 2 older were at school.....

the school owns the pc but he gets to keep it till he graduates. they are nice ones too. pretty cool.

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

oh and for that other comment, just family facebook ignorance about religions (not even my own! LOL) hate for all people in one group is so disheartening to me. and then the fool actually thinks he is a "hero" because he is an EMT. i told him.... i hero is more then a uniform and a truck. it is treating ALL people with compassion, kindness and thoughtfulness, even when you are not ON the job. don't facebook your hate! grrrr!

Huh? What did I miss?

[mamaofthree]

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

i can't stand ignorance. i just can't take it any more.

h

it was this thing i said Maia: ^ lol

must go with the fam and watch the blue planet special.

h

[CariOfOz]

Originally Posted by deuxceleste

Been on these boards for an age and a half and have never stopped in here!

Weclome

Originally Posted by redveg

Morning mamas

Wow miss one day and there is so much to catch up on. I haven't done that yet have to run out this morning for groceries. Yesterday I left the house at 6am and didn't get home until 8:30p. It was a LONG day.

I hope everyone is doing well. I am going to try to catch up tonight.

I know, seriously, I thought *I* was the one that talked a lot

Originally Posted by Maiasaura

Mamas, all I need is ONE buyer, like I already said. They need to come on Saturday and fall in love with my little house.

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

maybe what i need to do is stop saying it needs work and put out there it is PERFECT ALREADY!
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Even if it does need a bit of love, out there somewhere is the perfect person for that house! There are people who lives to put their own stamp on a place and make it truly theirs and just love DIY work. Take heart, someone will show up!

We've had a pretty cruisy few days here, just sort of meandering though the days Derrick is settling in a bit, and being more social with his little brothers (which they lurve) even if they ARE a bit loud at 7am for his tastes lol (mine too!) Tonight Mr. prepacked processed food eater.. tried SUSHI! (volcano chicken and prawn ones only.. no raw fishy ones for any of us :P) He said he thinks he could get used to that heh heh ... I shall undo all that junk food eating yet

[witchygrrl]

mamaof3, can you put on there that you're selling it AS IS? That way, it'll be very clear that you're not doing renovations.

To both you and Maia--good house selling vibes!!!!

[Aeress]

Morning Ladies!

Still busy but thinking of everyone

[DaughterOfKali]

I'd love to have a Mother's Helper. Or a nanny. And a housekeeper.

What are your plans for the day?

[Valerie.Qc]

Big "SOLD" vibes for the house sellers!

Maggots... yew!

Plans for the day...

Once breakfast is over, it's shower time and then...
Brewing Chai tea to make another Coconut Chai Brakfast Cake...
Starting a pot of broth...
Making some laundry...
Scrubbing bath...
...maybe baking some bread...

And I have an article to write, organize the class/office to start our homeschooling next week (might get delay to the week after), sit down and try to understand the first few lessons in Maths and English for my son (new material...), come up with a temporary plan in French till I get DS's eval. report and recommendations.


Hum... I might need more coffee!

[Aeress]

Plans- Take dd to tutoring, while friend watches other kids.
Pick up dd 2's friend and bring her back after tutoring
Hubby is taking dd to therapy
Then friend will pick friend up
Shopping

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by CariOfOz

Tonight Mr. prepacked processed food eater.. tried SUSHI! (volcano chicken and prawn ones only.. no raw fishy ones for any of us :P) He said he thinks he could get used to that heh heh ... I shall undo all that junk food eating yet

I feel sort of that way about M...you know, I made nearly all the food last time I was up there, and he scarfed down every bit of everything AND he said he loves my cooking (which I didn't even give him a proper taste of-- just wait, M ) AND he complimented me every time and said Thank You
What is volcano chicken sushi?

YES about fixer-upper people. I know people like that. I wish I was handy and had the time and inclination; I would love to get a fixer-upper but I am so not inclined. Usually, though, they are the most fun houses as for style.

Originally Posted by witchygrrl

To both you and Maia--good house selling vibes!!!!

Thanks, witchy!

Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali

I'd love to have a Mother's Helper. Or a nanny. And a housekeeper.

What are your plans for the day?

Mother's Helper-- sometimes you can get someone who's slightly older, who gets along really well with your child, who comes uber cheap and can just play with them for a couple hours while you get stuff done.

I am trying to talk DS into hiring out as a mother's helper to really littles, like 3yos. He'd not be able to be totally alone with a child, but he'd be able to play and keep a child busy if the mama had sort of one eye on them. He's really good with littles and I could totally see him giving a mama maybe 2 hours of relief, at this point, but he says he doesn't want to

Plans for the day-- I have my AA meeting from 10:30 to 11:30, then ds's martial arts from 4-5:30 or 6. That's all. I might finish watching my movie that I started 2 days ago I am watching Outbreak. It's old and has Dustin Hoffman, Morgan Freeman, Rene Russo. I haven't seen it before but with a cast like that, how can you go wrong?

I'm having a really hard time today, mamas, and I've only been out of bed an hour or so I'm feeling depressed and overwhelmed and doubting myself in a big way. Have y'all ever felt like that?
All it took was-- well, M has been really hair-trigger irritable lately, and I don't know what his problem is, but he's been kind of blaming/taking it out on me and I'm taking it personally.
Last night he said that I am out of my mind bringing my child up to where he lives, that ds is not a city kid and that I'd be ruining him. That he'll get the sh!t beat out of him and if I think I have behavioral problems now, just wait till I get him up there, and at such a vulnerable age, too.
I had a really hard time with that. I know the schools are cr@p there. I haven't done enough research, though; they can't ALL be cr@p, can they? Plus, I told him, he hasn't had, nor been around, families with little kids in 25 years. His older dd is 30 now. He agreed. I said I am starting to be on yahoo groups with mamas that have kids my ds's age, so as to get to know more people that I can relate to (and can give me more of a realistic picture of kids in the area), and that every kid that grows up there can't be a criminal, violent, gang jerk. HIS dd's grew up there, and they're nice people, plus he has an 8yo grand-ds that is growing up near there.
I said, then find me surrounding towns. At least we'd be nearer than 900 miles away. I'd drive an hour to see you. That's a piece of cake compared with flying 900 miles every two or three months.

Still, mamas-- I have this-- well, I go back and forth between being really scared he's right; what if I am bringing my kid into a sh!thole and he grows up wrong? But the other side of me says he is a basically really good person, my ds, and his basic integrity will hold, and our family is really tight and cohesive and his basic morals that he's growing up with will hold, no matter where we are.
Plus then, this morning, M finally said he has also noticed that we're getting irritable and cranky with one another, and we both agreed it's probably because we haven't seen one another in nearly 2 months. He said it was so painful how he misses me, and can't see me, and needs to smell my hair, etc.

I said, then look: stop taking it OUT on me. If you miss me, don't pull away. If you miss me, then tell me, show me, SAY so. Because I need to hear it. I get clingy when you pull away, and you get irritable when I get clingy and you pull away more. Vicious circle.

I am feeling so hopeless this morning, mamas
It isn't helping that ds is SO uber hyper today.

[wombatclay]

Hugs Maia... hope my wonkiness hasn't rubbed off on you!

Today-
help my mom find a second opinion for my dad that will be covered by insurance
visit thrift store to drop off two bags of "stuff"
clean fridge door shelves/trim dead leaves from plants (mm to-do-today items)
continue the potty learning adventure with Ro
make gift for tomorrow's bday boy
plan Tor's bday
random other stuff as required

Homeschool... we're a bit on the fence about it honestly. Our public school options here are not great, and the private schools are waaaaay outside our budget. But we hope to move in a few years and will be scouting for good schools as part of the move. so for now it's important to us that the kiddos be state/national standards matched. But pagan focused too. So we let dd1 pick a box curric from a few choices and so far so good.

I'm thinking we just need to tell my MIL 1 day/week... our state requires homeschooled kiddos to actually be schooled "in their home" a certain portion of the time and with two days already given to the waldorf program I think we can offer that (obviously silly/impossible to enforce but still legal and on the books) requirement as a way to avoid hurt feelings.

Big huge SOLD vibes coming to those in need... that perfect buyer is on the way! talk with your realtor about adding "as is" though. Around here "as is" is similar to "cozy"... it's a well known code term. "As is" means "falling down" or "gonna cost and arm and a leg to fix". But in other markets it might have a very different meaning.

Personally I would want to put my own feel to a house so needing to paint wouldn't be a big deal. I'd /expect/ to paint! But yeah... that buyer is coming! By the full moon at the latest!

gotta run... more later!

[femme_rouge]

Morning mamas
Today: preparing for my 18 yo nephew's visit. He was born around here and moved away to a different state when he was 8. When he left, I was quite sad. It was prechildren for me, and I tracked his milestones like he was my child. He's a talented guy, and I really enjoy him. In a couple of months he's going on a 2 year mission for his church where he'll essentially be out of contact-except for letter writing. With my own history, I have conflicting feelings about this. Of course, it's his choice I hope. He and a friend are traveling all around having adventures. They're stopping here today and staying the night. I'm prepared to show him around to his old houses and memorable places if he chooses.
Maia-
Clay- Tor! Cheers to Tor's first rotation around the Sun. He's a lucky lil' guy to have a mama like you.

Big hugs to everyone. I'm feeling the turn of the wheel in these parts. Instead of the denial and sadness (I had been feeling like our area just *skipped* summer), a few days ago I felt the invigorating, connected energy I associate with fall. Yippee!

Off I go to plan and prepare so we all can just hang and relax with each other today.

[DaughterOfKali]

Maia- I'll be brutally honest with you and tell you that those public schools are horrible. And yes, there is a lot of violence/bullying there. Maybe you can look into Charter schools nearby. I would definitely think about living in a nearby town, instead.
If you want, I can give you suggestions on nearby towns.

Do you think M is doubting the relationship itself and is trying to use the school issue as an 'out'? It just sounds so volatile.

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by wombatclay

Hugs Maia... hope my wonkiness hasn't rubbed off on you!

Actually I hope it has. I don't want my own wonkiness!

trim dead leaves from plants
visit thrift store to drop off two bags of "stuff"

Oh Gods, I have to do this, too. I have 3 boxes in the car for Goodwill, plus yesterday my BFF was here helping me clear brush/vines/poke in the yard, when it started to rain and we had to abort.
She got lots cut, just, I have to now clear it out.

But yeah... that buyer is coming! By the full moon at the latest!

That's what my spell said. I need to go in and light the candles and chant some...I'm supposed to do it every day till the full moon, but I haven't been able to do it every day. I do think of it every day, though, and that chant is always in my head.
I think I'll wait till later when I'm feeling more positive.

On the good side, M called me just now on his lunch (the magic 8-ball said he would, hee hee ) and he's sounding more positive.
I said, listen, DS and I were just playing cards. DS was saying things constantly like "my hand stinks, you're creaming me, I'll never win, you're going to go out on me with all these cards in my hand" etc. etc. etc.
I told M what I told DS: stop being so negative. You reap what you sow. If you go around expecting negative things to happen, that's what will. There can't just be bad kids in that area. I am going to find the good ones. I'm going to find my tribe. I have good places to start, and I found some decent apartment possibilities. It's going to happen.
So he's acting better, anyway

Now I just need to get off my duff and stop acting lazy, depressed, and negative.
The weather is cloudy, overcast, and generally crummy. I love this weather-- if it were colder, I'd use it as an excuse to make soup, bread, and bake things. Right now I think I'll just make popcorn and watch the rest of the movie.

ETA: no, DOK, I don't think so. He said this morning that he misses me in the most painful way. I didn't dig or fish for that information. I will confront him with that possibility, though, when he gets home from work.
He can tend to be a doubtful person. He gets scared easily. He sometimes thinks that running is an easier, softer way than actually going through with something. I know he's been loving, hoping, and missing me for 35 years, though-- I don't think he's going to give up on us that easily.
Sure, I would love some opinions on nearby towns. In PM, please.

[mamaofthree]

maia: ((hug)) you know if they have charter school around where you might move, i would check into those. AZ has some of the worst schools in the country... YET the charter school system here kicks butt! you do have to look though as alot seem to cater to kids who can't handle school so there could be alot of "troubled" kids in them. BUT they also can have interesting focuses. when dd went to 9th grade in tucson the high school we picked had a big focus on community service, that was really awesome. now that we are back in AZ the high school she picked has a big focus on the arts. there are schools all over that focus on the three R's, and have great records, and some that have a social justice thing going on, or other alternative things going on. it is pretty amazing. i wish maine had big into charter schools, but they had none. and i agree an area is what YOU make of it. we lived in a "crappy" area in tucson, but i never felt like it. i always felt safe, you create the community you want, and attract the people and situations. if you think it is gonna be sh!t then it will be, but if you go in there knowing that there are good people, good schools, etc then that is what you will find! i truly believe that.


and thank you everyone for the house selling vibes.<3

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