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post #521 of 684
I was organizing my Wiccan books today and I found a spell on house selling and thought of you two

My children are scared of going out back now because of the wasps and they're scared of all bugs now. I'm taking my time teaching them not to fear them.

Had a nice day today.
post #522 of 684
unschoolin" what was the spell? i would love to hear it.


our agent is going to set up another open house in a week or so. here's hoping.

my parents have been saying some sort of wacky stuff to me lately about how many kids we have. i know 6 is alot and it isn't for everyone, but every single one of our kids was planned and wanted. either dh or i pushed it on the other person. so my mom made some comment about hoping dh's (not nice word for penis) falls off, because he doesn't know how to keep it in his pants. and my dad made the same sort of comment today. when he called row was freaking and i was stressed and he said "well you brought this on yourself. if mike just kept his (not nice word) in his pants and stopped always getting you pregnant you would have this mess." well hello, but that "mess" is my family. and no matter how crappy the day i feel blessed to have them all. who would i send back? which of my kids do they not want around? i am so mad i don't even know what to say or do. they have made sideways comments before but nothing like this. it is so out of nowhere and mean that i sort of freeze up and don't say anything. i wish i had something to say, that would shut them up other then saying "shut up!" jerks.

ok gonna go read my book!

h
post #523 of 684
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maia! i hope you friend says yes! i think you need a bit of this... from M. lol
She did! She did! I am going to see M in 10 days! Oh, mamas, I am so happy and relieved. I was getting to crisis point, y'know?

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hugs and bugs... Torin is one!
Happy birthday, big boy! I can't believe it's been a whole year already! Um...the girls made dinner? How did that go?

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Long time no see!
Well hey, lady! Welcome back!

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I was organizing my Wiccan books today and I found a spell on house selling and thought of you two
Send it on, mama!

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so my mom made some comment about hoping dh's (not nice word for penis) falls off, because he doesn't know how to keep it in his pants. and my dad made the same sort of comment today. when he called row was freaking and i was stressed and he said "well you brought this on yourself. if mike just kept his (not nice word) in his pants and stopped always getting you pregnant you would have this mess."
Oh. Em. Gee

I can not believe your own parents would say such a thing!! And what did they think you were doing while your DH kept his (not nice word) out? As if you didn't have a part in it, or a willing one?
I mean...yeah, 6 would be way too many for me, but who am I to judge what someone else does or feels? I am the elder of two, but M is the next-to-last of ten. I can't even imagine. Even he said to his dad, when his little brother was born, why didn't you slam your (not nice word) in the window? Nine wasn't enough but you had to make it an even ten? I think they had that kind of guy-relationship where they could talk like that, but for your parents to say that, OMG, that's just awful.
I'm so incensed on your behalf, can you tell?
post #524 of 684
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took the kids to this place today... http://www.makutusisland.com/index.html
oh my gods! what a freaking mad house! i could stand about 2 hours and then i just had to go. it was like a ADHD playland! lol the boys had a great time, i wanted to hid in the bathroom. lol
dh is going to take three older boys on a hike now... maybe they will all crash early! (i can dream can't i? lol)
that place looks awesome! my kids would love it!!

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my parents have been saying some sort of wacky stuff to me lately about how many kids we have. i know 6 is alot and it isn't for everyone, but every single one of our kids was planned and wanted. either dh or i pushed it on the other person. so my mom made some comment about hoping dh's (not nice word for penis) falls off, because he doesn't know how to keep it in his pants. and my dad made the same sort of comment today. when he called row was freaking and i was stressed and he said "well you brought this on yourself. if mike just kept his (not nice word) in his pants and stopped always getting you pregnant you would have this mess." well hello, but that "mess" is my family. and no matter how crappy the day i feel blessed to have them all. who would i send back? which of my kids do they not want around? i am so mad i don't even know what to say or do. they have made sideways comments before but nothing like this. it is so out of nowhere and mean that i sort of freeze up and don't say anything. i wish i had something to say, that would shut them up other then saying "shut up!" jerks.
that is so not cool. it is your decision how many you do or do not have. and that kind of comment is just rude imo. i know that i am really struggling with wanting another right now. i have it in the back of my mind that there is another one waiting for me. DH knows i have been thinking of having another and all he said is "i dont think we need one right now" but that isnot a no. lol. i told my mom about my internal struggle and how i shouldnt bc of how poor we are and on welfare and i feel like having another would be socially irresponsible. she said "you dont want one so you can get more welfare, you want one bc you love your kids. and if you feel like you are missing someone then youshould." and i read a quote somewhere on here that said if you are longing for another that you would not regret having another but you would regret not having another.
post #525 of 684
mamaofthree- that is all I could formulate.. how could they say such a horrible thing?

Maia- - that's me being happy for you

I made some gem/mineral/rock wire hangers for my kitchen window last night- dh helped me hang them and they are so pretty. I feel very disconnected from my hubby right now, the cps thing really brought out some problems that were there but we have been ignoring. I kissed him goodnight last night and realized how I have emotionally removed myself from him so that I wouldn't be mad at him. In truth, I have to admit that I blame him in some ways for what happened. (not to get into details) I know it isn't healthy to blame him. I know I need to work through this and reconnect but so much of my energy has gone into not being mad. Maybe it is time to get mad?
post #526 of 684
It's raining and windy today. Seems like a pattern for most of the week. Ugh.
Have to take Roo to Children's Hospital on Wednesday to see a podiatrist. His left foot is starting to turn in so much that it's making him trip over his own foot.

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Maybe it is time to get mad?
I don't know the background info between you and dh so I can't answer that one.

Mamaof3: Family can be so infuriating!
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(((Mamaofthree))) Why people think they have a right to say such thing? Unless you are the one bearing, birthing, caring, feeding, paying bills and parenting 24/7(or the partner), you have no say on the size of the family!

Maia

Aeress - I know that astrologically, this is a time to address things that doesn't work for us, that doesn't serve us. This is a time that can be hard on relationships... I know we (DH and I) are consciously working on our bonds and strenghtening our commitment to face the struggles/challenges that are showing up.

Lioness - love your mom's comment!

DOK - sending vibes for an easy cure to Roo's foot problem.


I had plans for today... wanted to do a lot of cooking/baking... woke up late and soooooo tired! I feel drained. No clue why it's happening. Wish I could plug into DD2's energy.
post #528 of 684
mo3- big hugs and hopes that your parents either come round or button their lips.

AZ to Manie- I was more thinking along the lines of a friend in Maine going over to the house. Flying back just to go all Jackson Pollock with discount paint might be fun, but not really practical I agree!

birthday- went really well though it was just us... we were going to invite grandparents for a bonfire but it rained all day. Still raining in fact! I LOVE it. And Tor sent out a psychic vibe and all the relatives sent him dump trucks. He has a small fleet now.

Maia- yay for a MA trip! Good thoughts for sales at the next open house.

Selling spells- well, there's the St Joseph statue thing. There's the practical magic of staging, craigslist, papers, online mls services, agent effort. Then maybe tweak spells a bit to fit?

Like... a bunch of magnets. Paint one for you, one for M, one for the house, and one for the buyer... start out with M's on one side and the buyer's on the other with you/the house in the middle stuck together. Turn the magnets so you/the house push apart and each night light a candle, meditate on the resolution you want, and move the magnets a bit until you and M are stuck together and the house/buyer are stuck together. Hmmmm.... maybe you could get a picture of the house printed on magnets (kinkos here makes those business card sized "event promotion" magnets) and hand them out? Then focus the spell on those magnets? Asking that they pull a buyer back to the house?

DoK- how is Roo otherwise? I remember you guys were dealing with a cold not too long ago. How are YOU holding up? And your mom? Is she recovering from her trip?

my dad- my folks came over this morning. My mom wants dh/I to be the witnesses on a health proxy form. I'm conflicted. My dad isn't well, but neither is she. I don't trust either of them to make well informed medical decisions. We're going to the dr with them tomorrow morning so hopefully we'll find out more of what is happening. We also learned that my dad's dad had a heart attack last week and dh's dad (whom he saw on his trip to Albany this past weekend) is doing poorly. Never rains but it pours.
post #529 of 684
Good Morning. It's sunny here! We've had such an overcast, cold summer. Usually the marine layer doesn't get me down, but this year was pretty harsh. I need me some Vit D. Yesterday morning the clouds parted, and it was beautiful. The day before I had actually fully embraced fall and this unusual sun-less summer. I'm so happy to unembrace the idea. It's supposed to be gorgeous all week. I'm going to take the littles on a morning walk around the wetlands.

DoK-Hoping DS's appt goes well. Sorry about the rainy weather over your way.

Aeress-

Maia-so glad you get to see M. The house will sell.

Mo3-House selling vibes to you too m'dear. Yikes on the major inappropriate rudeness from your family. I hope the communication between you all finds a more supportive and understanding way. Or perhaps they can just adopt the good ole "If you don't have anything nice to say..."

Hello to all, welcome backs, Happy Little Birthdays, Yay on bug appreciation-Bug "Safari's" can be fun, feeling the turn of the seasons, and other happy, wiggly stuff.Oh my, I think my system's having a silly, happy reaction to this long time no see bright orb in the sky. I'm off to enjoy it!
post #530 of 684
Lots going on around here!

and where appropriate!

ECing and getting peed on way too much for my liking already today.
post #531 of 684
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Originally Posted by Aeress View Post
Maybe it is time to get mad?
Well, use your intuition, I always say.
BUT.
What I might do is get mad at him, but not to him, at first, if that makes sense. You know-- write a letter, but don't give it. Get all your feelings out on paper-- maybe you won't need to give it to him, or maybe you'll find key points that are more important to address, and others that are not the battles worth picking.
Also, you probably know this, but it always helps to have someone remind you: use "I" statements, and state how you feel, not what he's doing. Remember, when you point a finger, there are 3 pointing back at you And never, EVER bring the whole past into it. Keep it to the issues at hand.
But you know all that, I'm sure

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Originally Posted by Valérie.Qc View Post
astrologically, this is a time to address things that doesn't work for us, that doesn't serve us. This is a time that can be hard on relationships... I know we (DH and I) are consciously working on our bonds and strenghtening our commitment to face the struggles/challenges that are showing up.
Any ideas you want to pass on?

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we were going to invite grandparents for a bonfire but it rained all day.

Trying my a$$ off to picture my mom at a bonfire. She's a "glam-ma"-- a room-service gal all the way

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Selling spells- well, there's the St Joseph statue thing. There's the practical magic of staging, craigslist, papers, online mls services, agent effort.
Done, done, and done.

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Like... a bunch of magnets. Paint one for you, one for M, one for the house, and one for the buyer... start out with M's on one side and the buyer's on the other with you/the house in the middle stuck together. Turn the magnets so you/the house push apart and each night light a candle, meditate on the resolution you want, and move the magnets a bit until you and M are stuck together and the house/buyer are stuck together. Hmmmm.... maybe you could get a picture of the house printed on magnets (kinkos here makes those business card sized "event promotion" magnets) and hand them out? Then focus the spell on those magnets? Asking that they pull a buyer back to the house?
Good one, Clay-- you are so creative!

Right now my last spell is supposed to be growing via the growing moon, and I'm supposed to be lighting the candles and saying the verse every day, but my energy after Saturday is just so low. Plus DS gave me The. Worst. Behavior. Of All Time, last night, and then on top of it, just when my shoulders were burning from stress and I was just about to burst into tears, M called and admitted he'd had a bit to drink. On a Sunday. The night before work. He was trying to bait me into an argument and I was just not buying into it, but by the time sleep-time came, I was just wiped. out. Everything had resolved by then, but I don't have any energy for anything extra right now, including/especially involving the house sale.
I have to let it lie, for the moment, and let the Universe do its thing.

But next new moon, if no movement by then, I will do another spell or two. That'll give me time to look for magnets, too

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Never rains but it pours.
, Clay. You have more than enough on your plate for anyone, mama. If I were there I'd bring you a gluten-free casserole and some calming tea

My mom's coming this afternoon. I'm glad, but I have to go take a nap now-- M called at 4:00am and again at 5:00 and I had to get up with an alarm today for DS's school orientation :yawning

Today is my 16th sobriety anniversary I told M wouldn't it be so cool if we had the same "birthday". He agreed. Now he just needs to get it
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maia: i am so happy for you! what great news!

clay: wow. that is alot of health issues going on with alot of people. glad the birthday party went over well.

Aeress: not sure all what went on with you and your dh... but you know, sometimes letting it all out can be very freeing. sometimes when you keep it all in, you can feel suffocated.

picked ds#4 up his first pair of big kid shoes (he has been wearing those soft shoes or soft star shoes. you should see him. he is so funny. i couldn't take them off last nite until he fell asleep. lol he loves them

so after doing all the dishes this morning we are setting of to get compost to amend the soil in the planters and get ready to start planting a garden.

h
post #533 of 684
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DoK- how is Roo otherwise? I remember you guys were dealing with a cold not too long ago. How are YOU holding up? And your mom? Is she recovering from her trip?
Roo still has a cough. Even I'm still coughing occasionally. This certainly does linger.
My mom is doing ok. I did some fundraising for her so she'll be ok. (if only I could fundraise for myself! heh heh)
Thanks for asking!

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DoK-Hoping DS's appt goes well. Sorry about the rainy weather over your way.
Thanks! I'm guessing they will start with orthotics to see if that makes a difference. But I'd like to know why it's turning in over time. I don't just want a bandaid, I want answers.
The rain isn't bothering yet. Give it another day and I'm sure I'll be climbing the walls.
post #534 of 684
Umm gals - all I have to say is holy sh!te!there was a lot going on this weekend I'm off to catch up on this weekend's posts and I am hoping there was a lot of good vs. not great in them.

& I'll be back after reading
post #535 of 684
huge hugs to all. forgive my lack of thoughtful replyingness. sending hugs and vibes and soon-it-wont-be-august-any-more-ness to all.


eta: i wasnt going to whine to you with much bigger problems on your plates, but i started freaking out.. so i'm going to unburden myself anyway, lol .... we're going to move into our place by this weekend, even though it's not "done" or "ready" (imo)... but for reasons beyond our control, it's been made clear that it's time, ready or not... so, we're going to make it happen. i'm going to do this without another nervous breakdown, i am!
post #536 of 684
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eta: i wasnt going to whine to you with much bigger problems on your plates, but i started freaking out.. so i'm going to unburden myself anyway, lol .... we're going to move into our place by this weekend, even though it's not "done" or "ready" (imo)... but for reasons beyond our control, it's been made clear that it's time, ready or not... so, we're going to make it happen. i'm going to do this without another nervous breakdown, i am!
Oooh, aweyn, lurve your new avatar pic! That's just gorgeous. M send me a pic online of a lightning bolt through a rainbow. Coolest pic; I bet you could google it.

You are NOT going to freak or have a breakdown! You are moving into your new home because that's what the Universe wants, for some reason. Is there anything like that on your TM?

I only want August to be over because I want my house sold and I want to be moving!! Whaaaahh!
Well...at least I get to see M, even if only for a couple of days. He whined that 3 days would hardly be worth it. I said the first time I came up, it was only 3 days, and we...um....got awfully busy in those 3 days, even with one day of rest
Of course we both know that that's not the primary reason for being together. It's a bonus, though
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Aweynsayl- It's gonna be ok! Breathe in....out....in....out.... think posh coffee, lord of the rings videos, chocolate or other neuroyummy of your choice, and feel the full moon energy filling you up.

I just rearranged the sleep loft... my least favorite part of cosleeping has arrived. The 6 months or so of "mattress on the floor". I'd been putting it off but last night I put Tor in bed so dh and I could have some together time and... Tor woke up and was all the way at the end of the bed, hanging over the bed rail, by the time I got upstairs. And I went up (2 steps/time) at his first cry. So, pretty fast. The rearranged room looks ok, but I'm wiped out.

congrats on the 16th anniversary Maia!

bonfire- well, we have a fire pit just outside the door. Eventually it'll be a really nice patio, but even now it's not bad. We burn a lot of the wood scrap from building so this is a two bird scenario... happy birthday bonfire with marshmallows and foil wrapped potatoes while getting rid of scrap. Ah well, autmn is the season for bonfires anyway. It'll be fine.
post #538 of 684
(((Aweyn)))

Clay: it's only temporary... and you get to have a "new" bedroom in a few months!


Things to share about how to survive the summer and fall of 2010...

- remember why you got together and what is important to you (your roots/foundations)
- talk, talk, talk! don't let small things bottering you - address them NOW that they are still small!
- make time for presence
- don't take the other for granted; show your love and your gratitude on a daily basis
- share dreams and projects, small and bigs, short and long terms
- don't take moods (too) personaly - keep in mind that there's energy swirling around

That's how we are doing it. Time will tell if we have it right.
post #539 of 684
Just popping in to say morning The Vet is coming over today to take a look at our daog Nikki. She's 14 and I think is in some pain?

I will get back on and try to catch up today. I feel like I have been saying I will catch up for days now and never really do it??

I hope everyone has a great day
post #540 of 684
valerie- that looks like a great road map, I'm totally printing it out and sticking it on the fridge and in my wallet!

Torin takes after DH apparently... he's a climber. Oh my, this child is going to be the death of me yet! I think I need to go re-read all those mothering articles about moms with daring children, but I'm not sure it will help. I seem to recall thinking "if my child wanted to climb a tree like that I'd lock them in the car". Yoicks!

We see a cardiologist with my folks today. Not a specialist (it's my dad's regular cardiologist) but apparently there was something "unusual" about the lab work so they wanted to see him right away and DH and I will go to get some info/ask questions. Fingers crossed this is going to be positive news.

Our rose bushes are really taking off! The weather is cool/wet but we finished the trellis (right before we left for Pennsic) and the roses are going to town on it. I can see lots of new growth. So hopefully everyone will make it through the winter and, with a whole growing season on the trellis next year, it'll look amazing.
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