Originally Posted by Aeress
Maybe it is time to get mad?
Well, use your intuition, I always say.
What I might do is get mad at
him, but not to
him, at first, if that makes sense. You know-- write a letter, but don't give it. Get all your feelings out on paper-- maybe you won't need
to give it to him, or maybe you'll find key points that are more important to address, and others that are not the battles worth picking.
Also, you probably know this, but it always helps to have someone remind you: use "I" statements, and state how you feel, not what he's doing. Remember, when you point a finger, there are 3 pointing back at you
And never, EVER bring the whole past into it. Keep it to the issues at hand.
But you know all that, I'm sure
Originally Posted by Valérie.Qc
astrologically, this is a time to address things that doesn't work for us, that doesn't serve us. This is a time that can be hard on relationships... I know we (DH and I) are consciously working on our bonds and strenghtening our commitment to face the struggles/challenges that are showing up.
Any ideas you want to pass on?
Originally Posted by wombatclay
we were going to invite grandparents for a bonfire but it rained all day.
Trying my a$$ off to picture my mom at a bonfire. She's a "glam-ma"-- a room-service gal all the way
|Selling spells- well, there's the St Joseph statue thing. There's the practical magic of staging, craigslist, papers, online mls services, agent effort.
Done, done, and done.
|Like... a bunch of magnets. Paint one for you, one for M, one for the house, and one for the buyer... start out with M's on one side and the buyer's on the other with you/the house in the middle stuck together. Turn the magnets so you/the house push apart and each night light a candle, meditate on the resolution you want, and move the magnets a bit until you and M are stuck together and the house/buyer are stuck together. Hmmmm.... maybe you could get a picture of the house printed on magnets (kinkos here makes those business card sized "event promotion" magnets) and hand them out? Then focus the spell on those magnets? Asking that they pull a buyer back to the house?
Good one, Clay-- you are so creative!
Right now my last spell is supposed to be growing via the growing moon, and I'm supposed to be lighting the candles and saying the verse every day, but my energy after Saturday is just so low. Plus DS gave me The. Worst. Behavior. Of All Time, last night, and then on top of it, just when my shoulders were burning from stress and I was just about to burst into tears, M called and admitted he'd had a bit to drink. On a Sunday.
The night before work. He was trying to bait me into an argument and I was just not buying into it, but by the time sleep-time came, I was just wiped. out. Everything had resolved by then, but I don't have any energy for anything extra right now, including/especially involving the house sale.
I have to let it lie, for the moment, and let the Universe do its thing.
But next new moon, if no movement by then, I will do another spell or two. That'll give me time to look for magnets, too
|Never rains but it pours.
, Clay. You have more than enough on your plate for anyone, mama. If I were there I'd bring you a gluten-free casserole and some calming tea
My mom's coming this afternoon. I'm glad, but I have to go take a nap now-- M called at 4:00am and again at 5:00 and I had to get up with an alarm today for DS's school orientation :yawning
Today is my 16th sobriety anniversary
I told M wouldn't it be so cool if we had the same "birthday". He agreed. Now he just needs to get