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[Aubergine68]

I slept in *really* late. Fighting off a cold today. Better get out the master tonic. For some reason, I can stand to take it in the fall and winter but it makes me cringe in spring/summer.

Hugs, ktg! I read and was thinking of you (and you all!) yesterday. Sounds like things are going a bit better today. Lots of swordfighting in your life? How old is your little guy, exactly? Sounds like an elimination diet would be a good plan for those symptoms. Hope it's something easy!

I love your news about Roo, DoK! What does he think of the idea of being in a parade?

Do you know what online program you will be looking at, Clay? Both of you back to school sounds hard but exciting.

Originally Posted by unschoolinmom

I push him harder to show him his own potential and though he hates it in the beginning, by the end, he's thanked me for helping him "see the light".

This resonates with me a bit. Not that I'm pg, but I'm doing a lot of challenging dh to make changes for the good of his health (mostly, some career stuff, too). I am feeling unaccustomed fierceness about this - not a lot of Mars in me, usually. It happens that there are already 5 widows living on my rather short street and I simply will *not* be number 6 any time soon. My children *will* have their father as long as they need him, and a healthy, active father, too.

How is your little guy doing today? Is there something else that you will be asked to do about your iron levels?

Originally Posted by redveg

Morning mamas

Hugs to you ktg. Mabon right now I am reading a book on Mabon right now it's by Ellen Dugan. Just started it yesterday but I keep getting side tracked.

Thanks for the kind words, yesterday, Inge. Made my day.

I really enjoy Ellen Dugan. Coming up to fall makes me want to read witchy books -- I think I have enough on hand to work through, but I only ever read Dugan from inter library loan. I should request some of her work again.now,

Your post reminds me to notice the natural world (as your posts usually do ) and I see that trees *aren't* turning here yet. Odd - with this cooler weather, I'd expect that they would be....

BTW, FR - 2 of the 6 children I take out are my own near-teen-aged dd and school-aged ds1. Still requires planning, but they are definitely big helps.

Maia, I do home childcare. I have 3 children of my own and am auntie (in a couple of cases, literally) to 2-3 tots depending on the day. I love it. I have so much fun with the littles and it has been so good for my own children , too, growing up this way.

Thinking of you having a successful open house

Mo3 I love the names you are thinking of, especially Basil and Lucy. I wish you were having boy/girl twins so you could use them both! Lucy reminds me of Narnia and Basil reminds me of a character in Julian May's Many-Colored Land series, both great associations.

Hello, Onyx!

Mabon...the big commemoration I was planning with the kids is making and putting up a new wheel of the year calendar with them. We started our last one on the autumnal equinox last year, so I guess Mabon is becoming a kind of new year for us?. We will be in the thick of apple harvest/processing and (hopefully if I even *get* enough) will be canning tomatoes at about that time. It is usually a busy time. We'll see how it goes. We have a potluck at our cowshare the weekend before, but nothing the weekend after....


aweyn -- thinking of you, sending hugs and good moving-and-settling vibes. Thinking of the worker carrying the 10 wands in the RW tarot finally setting his burden down in the right place and then stretching and going out for a good meal and a pint with hobbit friends in some Tolkienish pub!

[unschoolinmom]

In UU last Sunday, they had a quote from Nelson Mendela where summed up it said we are afraid to show our light because of other people's thoughts. So instead of being proud that we're smart, pretty, etc. we tone down our "light" to keep others happy. However, the truth is that when we do show our proudness in our qualities, it gives others around us a reason to do the same for themselves.

This really stuck for him as he was talking about it in the car on the way home saying he finds himself always living in the dark because he was afraid of living in the light.

Ds is just fine and his stitches look good too. As for my blood, got to love my mother for always telling me things later in my life.

I called her about how my iron was fine and everything but I still showed anemic. She says, "Oh yeah. We have alpha thalassemia. You are a silent carrier though so it's not severe. Did I forget to tell you that?" Uh yeah, mom! Sheesh!

She just told me a few months ago, that I had Ruebella when I told her my prenatal screening showed elevated Ruebella antibodies that wouldn't come from a vaccine. Gotta love that woman.

Anyway, both she and my dad are carriers of the hereditary disorder. I got one allele which makes me a silent carrier. My dh has two alleles making him have alpha thalassemia. Since he didn't know I had it, we figured we'd be fine. Just like I am a sickle cell carrier, he's not luckily so our children will only be carriers or not, depending. But because we're both carriers of alpha thalassemia, our dd has one allele like myself and is a silent carrier while our ds has alpha thalassemia.

There is a possibility that this little one will be like us or his siblings, but if he gets all 4 alleles, he'll be stillborn as that is the most severe form of it. So fingers crossed he's fine huh?

Also, because I have this, I have low hemoglobin, hematocrit, and leukocytes. But only slightly. Plus I mimic iron deficiency so they assume that's what I need. It's the alpha thalassemia however so nothing they can do about that LOL.

[DaughterOfKali]

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

basil or dylan
and lucy or lilith (which would most likely be lily)

I LOVE the name Basil! Will his nickname be Baze?
I also love the name Lilith.

Originally Posted by Aubergine68

I love your news about Roo, DoK! What does he think of the idea of being in a parade?

He loves the idea of it. However, it's going to be A LOT of waiting around in the morning while the parade gets sets up and then a lot of walking. I know he can't handle the whole thing so I have to figure out which part we'll walk in.

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by Aubergine68

Maia, I do home childcare. I have 3 children of my own and am auntie (in a couple of cases, literally) to 2-3 tots depending on the day. I love it. I have so much fun with the littles and it has been so good for my own children , too, growing up this way.

Thinking of you having a successful open house

Oh, that explains all the kids! I somehow thought you didn't have that many, but I was wondering what I'd missed!

Thanks for the wishes...nobody showed up again, today, and it was a gorgeous day

The realtor showed me specs of the market and it is really dismal I can't rent the house out because of the loan I got, which is some sort of gov't loan. It specifically says, and I don't know the "legalese" wording, that if I got caught renting it, I'd have to pay back all the difference between what my monthly payment is now, and what it would have been if I hadn't got the gov't discount. And I've been here nearly 3 years. That would be a lot of money, and I don't have it.

He's going to find out for me if I can do a rent-to-own. I thought it sounded dubious at first, but he said it's a definite commitment-- just a smaller down payment and a delayed closing, basically. If I can, and I got like $10K down, I can definitely move, with that amount of money

You know-- if M didn't have health issues, I could probably be a lot more patient. M keeps saying he's fine, he's fine, but you know-- with leukemia you never know. And with an inflamed pancreas you for sure don't know, especially if he can't quit drinking. I mean-- he doesn't drink that much, but any much with an inflamed pancreas is pretty much playing roulette.

Gawd, I can't wait till Thursday!

Lucy reminds me of Narnia and Basil reminds me of a character in Julian May's Many-Colored Land series, both great associations.

You read those?? I don't know anybody who's read Julian May! Wow!
It's been ages and ages, and I never did get to Magnificat, but I loved that series! I really do have to read them again one of these days. I mean it's been 20 years, probably.

[Maiasaura]

Cari, this one's for you

http://lolmart.com/product/om-nom-nom-nom-fail/

[mamaofthree]

had my folks over for dinner and a visit. went good. my mom brought her lap top and was showing me some of the stuff they have bought recently (for the remodel) and the new chairs etc. she showed me over $6000.00 worth of money they spent of two chairs, a kitchen faucet and some tiles for the kitchen back splash, and a couple other things. i hate to say it but it pissed me off. i mean it is their money and they can do what they want with it... but it feels so... i don't know over the top. plus, again i know it is there stuff so i shouldn't mind, but they have all this money because both sets of grandparents skimped and saved and invested money so that when they died their kids would get something. my parents don't even have life insurance. they can't even loan us the amount of money they spent on two freaking chairs without knowing the exact return on the money date. frick. i can't look at that stuff with her. because i want to enjoy it and be happy for them, but inside i am all pissed off that i had to hurry up and pay them back so they could by a $400.00 kitchen faucet and a couple chairs! ugh!

on a better note.. made my first soufflé and it was freaking awesome. and watched men who stare at goats.. what a good movie!

h

[DaughterOfKali]

I took my mom car shopping yesterday. We got carried away. She found out she could finance a car. Couldn't find anything cheap so she ended up a 2007 Chevy Impala LT with only 24k miles on it. The thing is, yeah she could have spent 6k on something that would start needing repairs right away or she could buy this solid car. Seriously, the car is in mint condition. Looks brand new. One owner, no accidents. Has an automatic car starter, OnStar (which she won't use), hands free phone answering, and lots of leg room (good for when she gets a nanny position.)
I'm seriously envious. I was drooling over the car. Oh, and though the price was high, it included sales tax, registration, and inspection sticker. So she doesn't have to worry about all that stuff.
She is all stressed out now because she spent so much. In reality, her payments are only $50 more than her ideal payment. She can definitely swing it (as long as she gets senior housing that includes utilities.)

Originally Posted by Aubergine68

I slept in *really* late. Fighting off a cold today.

How are you feeling this morning?

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

had my folks over for dinner and a visit.
on a better note.. made my first soufflé and it was freaking awesome. and watched men who stare at goats.. what a good movie!

Yeah, that would bother me about all the stuff they bought yet they are on your case about lent money.
Glad your souffle came out great, though!

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by mamaofthree

i hate to say it but it pissed me off. i mean it is their money and they can do what they want with it... but it feels so... i don't know over the top.
<snip>they can't even loan us the amount of money they spent on two freaking chairs without knowing the exact return on the money date. frick. i can't look at that stuff with her. because i want to enjoy it and be happy for them, but inside i am all pissed off that i had to hurry up and pay them back so they could by a $400.00 kitchen faucet and a couple chairs! ugh!

Oh, I so know what you mean, MO3!! My mom is the same way. She won't hesitate to go out and spend X thousand dollars on things, and then she complains that she "couldn't afford it"...bah. She doesn't want to afford it, or she just likes to complain, or something. And I wouldn't dare ask for a loan or a gift, because she resents that I don't have money. I read your post and I was like, oh, that is so me. Actually it feels good to know that there is someone who knows what I feel like

[Millie Ivy]

I've been here lurking. I'll catch up on the reading of this thread and then type out a big post and hit send and it'll get eaten by the server.
So this one is just to say hi, hiya ladies!

Seriously I've tried like 3 times this month at different times and then get so fed up with it I give up until later. lol

[Millie Ivy]

It went through! OK, here's a better one,

Crazy busy times, here. Not really more busy that usual, but big changes. My older two chose to go to public school this year, and just started. I was running around like crazy getting them ready, and then we all had to adjust to an earlier wake/bedtime and ds1 and I both came down with a nasty cold. blahhh.
They are liking school though, yay, and youngest and I are adjusting to being at home alone together, though days with a sick mama kinda sucked for everyone.
I feel all longing for Fall right now. We had a break in the heat (lol, down from highs in the 105ish, to highs in the 90s) and it's been nice, but I can't wait for cool nights and cardigans. I always feel spiritually deprived in by August.
Retrograde is kicking my ass, too, just saying.
My ex pulled a crazy stupid move. He has been the one pushing for the kids to go to school, never supporting hs, or getting excited for them or involved in any way bc he "doesn't approve". Now they go to school and he.... Cancels their weekly afternoon visitation. Indefinitely. without letting them know ahead of time. Because he "has to work (he owns his own biz and nothing has changed work wise) and, get this, he has to go pick up other kids from school! (his girldfriends best friend and her kids moved in with them. fine, whatever, but you don't tell your kids you can't get them because you are going to go get other children that aren't in your family or anything. ACK!)
aaaah. deeep breeeeath.
On the plus side, the kids being home all week long makes fr healthier eating. Though I sense that he'll want to commandeer all the weekends and that's not going to fly

I'm ending this topic, bc it makes me sad

Happy things- My sister *just* found out she's pregnant with #2!!! Her kiddo will be 2 at xmas, and it wasn't planned (not that it was super avoided either) and I am so excited! she plans on going back to the birth center that she had her ds at.

I am getting back into spinning again, hoping to use the school year to re open my etsy store, maybe start teaching knitting/spinning/dyeing etc. I have the idea of opening a brick and mortar store someday, but only if it financially makes sense. Figure I need a couple years of building an online/in person name for myself.

I can't even begin to catch up with everyone, but hugs to those in need of them, light and love to everyone, and I've missed being around!

[Aeress]

Why Can't I get to bed earlier than 11 or midnight? *ugh*

Thinking of all! I am taking an online course so I won't be on as much. Once I get used to the reading and assignments, I should be around more. Just know I think of you every morning.

[femme_rouge]

Good Morning

I've had six days and night with the kids, and I'm fried. We've had a great time going places, playing, cooking and such though. DH has to work again today-2 weeks without a day off. This morning he offered to take the kids with him to work. So, what to do? besides clean this very messy house... I'll have from 9 to 4 free! Maybe a quiet day of cleaning and then reading. Actually, I have a question for you lovelies. Has anyone read Jules Watson? I was at the library the other day and they were closing in five minutes. I scanned the book, Song of the North, but didn't look too close because I was in a hurry. Turns out it's the 3rd in a trilogy. I started reading before I noticed. Anyway, if you've read them, 1. did you like the books, and 2. Can this book stand on it's own? The first 2 are checked out for another 3 weeks, and now I'm too impatient to wait. What do you think?

Aeress-Good luck with your on-line course.

Millie Ivy-Nice to "see" you. Sorry your X is being insensitive to your kids. That must be tough. Congrats on the new baby though. Yay Aunties!

Maia-I'm sorry no one showed to your open house again. I hope something presents itself soon. I just heard 2 reports this week about the housing market still being in a difficult state. I'm sure your get away with M will help get your mind off things a bit.

DoK-That's great you helped your mom out with getting a reliable car. Also, I didn't get to congratulate you on Roo's parade invitation. Yippee!

Mo3- I'm another one who can relate to the parents/$ annoyance. Years ago, I had to just cut them off in my head and not ever ask them for $ again because it wasn't worth the drama emotionally. I love your baby names! Lovely.

unschoolin-I'm glad your mom finally did tell you about your history. Sheesh! Seems pretty important. Here's sending good energy that everthing turns out to the best possibility.

Aubergine-I hope you're feeling better and were able to get even more sleep. My DP became aware this week of some health issues also. I'm trying to stay supportive, but I don't want to be so laxed about it that it enables him to slip back into denial. I know "nagging" will cause rebellious behavior in him. When it's all said and done, no one can do anything about this but him, but I'm so worried about the way things are headed with him. Good luck with your hubby.

ktg-Glad you found your voice again

redveg-Hmm...Mabon. This is also my favorite time of year. It's kind of my anniversary to acknowledging my Pagan identity-4 years ago. We have a great celebration here that I will to, but I want to think of something personal and family focused...

onyx-Welcome! Your Mabon sounds really nice.

Gotta run and get the kiddos ready to go with Papa. Happy Sunday!

[wombatclay]

Hugs to the home sellers.

SUNY Buffalo is one of the schools dh is considering so I was looking at housing in the area... it's very sad, since obviously there is a lot of heartbreak involved, but there are entire city blocks for sale. Individual 4 bed/2 bath homes for 8000 and "buy the block" options for about 150K. Of course, there are no jobs. But if you could work from home or something just think of the urban homesteading/cohousing options!

We're working hard but oh, I'm having a tough day. Torin has been nursing like mad and I'm exhausted. Litrerally nursed all. night. long. It is soooooo time to nightwean. I need more than 10 minutes of sleep.

[mamaofthree]

((clay)). those nursing marathons are exhausting.

mabon is my most favorite holiday. i just love this time of year where ever we are. back here in AZ it is time to start the fall/winter garden. so i got compost, and plan on amending the soil this week. the house we are renting has three big planter beds, so i can really do some fun stuff.
also found some good grass seed for the back, that grows well here in the fall and winter and uses little water. i am also going to look into chickens this week and getting the stuff together for a compost bin. checked craigs list for a porch swing and there are alot for sale cheap! woot!!

dh and i got into it AGAIN this morning. i swear i am about ready to lose it with him. my dad brought over some scrap wood for the boys to hammer nails into (i have been wanting him to do that for sometime) and so this AM i got ready to go out and get them kid sized hammers. dh started telling me they don't make those, lowes and home depot won't have them... he knows cuz he looked. HE DID NOT! so i said, well i will go see what they have. and leave, find just what i was looking for at lowes, at a good price... all i did was ask them if they carried that stuff. lol i come home with the kits (they have a hammer, two screw drivers, goggles, and a tape measure) and he says, well how do you feel about the boys having screw drivers outside by themselves... i said i feel fine. that is why i got them. so they could have something to do other then watch TV and be on the computer. he got upset. he thinks it is unsafe. he doesn't want them to have the screw drivers by themselves. I said OK fine that is the rule you want laid down i can follow that. but he was still pissed that i wasn't worried. i said you asked me what i thought, and i told you. i wasn't worried. if you are and want to make a rule then do it and i will follow it with them. it isn't a big deal. but he keeps on about it. i wanted to knock him in the head. finally we are yelling at each other and he gets all moody. he is making me nuts!
there i was out at lowes feeling all good about kid sized hammers and the wood and buying compost and i am just so full of happiness and love and just you know being in that moment, i come home and now i am just all pissed off and looking forward to monday so he will be gone. i hate that!

on a good note, i am making a "schedule" of things to do each day with the boys so we aren't at home all day going stir crazy. you know something like Monday library, tuesday adventure day (either heading to tucson for park day with old HS group or going to a museum), wednesday baking day, thursday... you get the idea.

anyway i gotta make some banana muffins with my almost too nasty bananas. lol
love to all of you!

h

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by femme_rouge

Maia-I'm sorry no one showed to your open house again. I hope something presents itself soon. I just heard 2 reports this week about the housing market still being in a difficult state. I'm sure your get away with M will help get your mind off things a bit.

Thanks, FR. Yes, I so can't wait to be there! The housing market utterly s*cks, literally. The realtor showed me all the houses in my area that are for sale, I mean in a very small radius from my house. There are tons. Only three have sold.
Srsly, though, all I need is ONE buyer, just one. Someone has to come see my house. Someone has to love it. I told him to market it more in Florida. There were several people at my church this morning who just moved here from Florida!

Also I have already checked into flights to MA for Thanksgiving. My ex roomie said YES she would stay with DS over that time!! Now all I have to do is make sure M is available He will balk and whine over making plans that far out-- but I will hold my ground and get my way anyway
Of course, if the house is sold by then...

My DP became aware this week of some health issues also. I'm trying to stay supportive, but I don't want to be so laxed about it that it enables him to slip back into denial. I know "nagging" will cause rebellious behavior in him. When it's all said and done, no one can do anything about this but him, but I'm so worried about the way things are headed with him.

I SO know how you feel

[Maiasaura]

Made reservations for Thanksgiving! Only $138 plus taxes and fees!! It was over $400 last year.
Sure does pay to reserve far ahead, eh?

But YAY, and now when my house sells, I'll have to eat this fee, but who cares. And I don't even want to go there about the possibility it hasn't sold by then, but just in case-- we have plans to see one another, and something to hold onto and look forward to. I can hang in there if I know when I'll see him again

[Aeress]

Clay- UB has many options, if dh didn't mind some commuting, there are a lot of possibilities. It gets a bit crazy in that area during rush hour but otherwise not so bad. The area right around UB has been "less safe" than previous years, but the campus is pretty safe. There is an awesome bakery, several co-ops, CSA's and organic places to shop. Wegmans, which I believe you are familiar with, is local. PM me if you have any questions about out lying areas. I grew up outside of the Amherst. There are several options for schooling, Montessori, Waldorf etc

[Valerie.Qc]

I'm totally lost in the thread... data overload for my tired brain.

I'm trying to wrap my mind around the many infos we got in DS's eval. report (it came in this week) and I'm going crazy trying to figure out how to adapt our homeschooling, finding adequate material, pondering the need for more evaluations... I wanted to start our year tomorrow... this will have to wait a little.

DD1 living with us brings its lot of challenges.

DD2 is her usual spirited self, her creativity has no known limits so far. She's pissed cause I've taken all the scisors out of her reach after she gave herself a new hairdo.

Today is DS's entry into teenage; 13 years already! We celebrated last night with friends and family. Today, he went to the Museum and Imax theatre with a good friend.


Mabon... it's always near or on DH's birthday so I mostly include a little gratitude speech/meditation to our meal and that's it. I doupt I'll have the time to plan something more elaborate this year.

[redveg]

Good morning mamas

Today is back to school here. I am torn, happy and sad. Sad because I will be alone for around 8 hours a day but happy because the summer was dragging on, the kids were getting bored and because we live in the woods they have been missing their friends. I tell you I need a hobby.

Okay, off to read and catch up with all of you, have a great day

DOK, congrats on your Mom finding a car

[unschoolinmom]

Morning. It would seem ds brought home some germs from the hospital. I knew he would as we were surrounded by green snotted children in the waiting area.

My homemade remedies are working and after only two days, he's at the tail end of his cold. Dd is in the middle of it and I'm now getting it. It's a head cold so lots of sinus pain and pressure.

They were both up most of the night, but I got them asleep within 30 minutes of each other around 3:30 am for ds and 4am for dd. I slept for an hour after that on top of the two hours when I had went to bed and now I'm up. So three hours of sleep.

This is my "get ready for a newborn" practice I think.