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I'm trying to wrap my mind around the many infos we got in DS's eval. report
I know how you feel.

Mamaof3- Do you have health insurance? Do you think your dh would agree to couples counseling?
That would drive me nuts.
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Good Monday to all! Even if the days have been a bit blah recently, things are looking up. I believe it!

Yesterday, my oldest turned 12. They get so old so quickly!

Today, I start a new job and I'm excited, but my throat hurts so I'm dealing with the fact that I've stopped sabotaging myself and I've truly learned self-discipline enough to practice it at all times. As a result, I will not call and tell them I'm sick and can't come in. Oooooh, but I want to!

Sometimes I wonder if I will ever be rid of the spoiled brat parts of myself. *sigh*

Yesterday was a fabulous day. I met up with a friend I haven't seen in a year and we ate and chit chatted while walking around a local festival. And, I finally went to the open temple service for a local Ile. It was beautiful! A celebration of Yemoja, who is my heart. I'm going to another celebration of her on Saturday with a coven. I hope I like them. They have open circles and I RSVPd to this one. I know no one whose ever interacted with them, but they seem hecka nice through email.

Watched Jennifer's Body last night. Decent flick.

Peace&Love, Mujers!
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Today is DS's entry into teenage; 13 years already!
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Yesterday, my oldest turned 12. They get so old so quickly!
Happy birthday to your teens/preteens! I can't believe mine's in 4th grade already. He'll be 12 before I know it, too

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DOK, congrats on your Mom finding a car
Sorry I forgot to mention it! That's great. How's she fitting in? Is her cold over with?

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So three hours of sleep.

This is my "get ready for a newborn" practice I think.
Sigh...probably. Hang in there, mama


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Sometimes I wonder if I will ever be rid of the spoiled brat parts of myself. *sigh*
Right? I feel that way about chocolate Tell you what, though, I did exercise discipline yesterday and did NOT have chocolate, or dessert of any kind, even Hershey's syrup Go me! If I can do it once...maybe I can do it again.

3 days till I see M
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That's great. How's she fitting in? Is her cold over with?
Her cold is gone. I took her to buy a car on Saturday. She borrowed my car this morning so she can get car insurance. Once the insurance company faxes the info back to the dealer, my mom can pick up her car. I'm so envious. It's a gorgeous car. She ended up financing most of it.
post #645 of 684
to teenagers! to the start of School! Purchase of new(er) cars and all good things into life.

& for colds, frustrating dx & evals, partners who are driving us up the wall, all. night. long. nursing sessions and all the difficult places our paths are taking us.

This weekend was a nice relief in contrast to how my week ended. DH finally opened up about emotionally & physically disconnecting because of his level of frustration with the kids & me. It was nice to hear, and I simply asked next time he needed to do that - to please let me know with a simple - I'm out or disconnecting. instead of letting me twist in the wind with silence/no talking from him. Hung up the guidance from Val - and DH noticed it on the fridge. I think it will do us a world of good as we weather September too.

Researched a bit on the allergy forum re: DS, and the top 2 contenders are: gluten and/or dairy. DH is convinced I'm just looking for something where there is nothing as all kids have tantrums at 4 y.o. I'm tempted to concede with a maybe on this... The other part of me is thinking - how in the world am I going to eliminate dairy from a kiddo who loves cheese, milk and yogurt. So reforumulating a plan for us - maybe just adding a probiotic might help a bit as I don't think its a true allergy and more of an intolerance.


Redveg - I need a hobby too or really just some arts & crafts time for me. Like beading or fingerpainting or candle making.
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dh finally admitted he has been dealing with depression since we moved to maine almost 2 years ago... which i was like, well duh! lol but at least he is seeing it. we get insurance on the first so i am going to encourage him to go see someone. i am also encouraging him to do something for himself and to go running. we will see.

h
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Hung up the guidance from Val - and DH noticed it on the fridge. I think it will do us a world of good as we weather September too.
Do you know what page that was on? I think I want to revisit it and maybe print it out before I go to MA
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Originally Posted by Valérie.Qc View Post

Things to share about how to survive the summer and fall of 2010...

- remember why you got together and what is important to you (your roots/foundations)
- talk, talk, talk! don't let small things bottering you - address them NOW that they are still small!
- make time for presence
- don't take the other for granted; show your love and your gratitude on a daily basis
- share dreams and projects, small and bigs, short and long terms
- don't take moods (too) personaly - keep in mind that there's energy swirling around

That's how we are doing it. Time will tell if we have it right.
Just for you Maia
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Just for you Maia
Aww! Thank you!
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dh finally admitted he has been dealing with depression since we moved to maine almost 2 years ago... which i was like, well duh! lol but at least he is seeing it. we get insurance on the first so i am going to encourage him to go see someone. i am also encouraging him to do something for himself and to go running. we will see.

h
That's really good that he acknowledged it.

Well, I risked out of having the baby at the birth center, so I am stuck at the hospital with him. Since my blood order means I won't ever increase to where they want me, they don't want to risk if I start bleeding badly. I'm a little sad, but I'll be safe now. And my OB is in affiliation with the center so he doesn't mind allowing women to have their babies in other positions.
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unschoolin- I'm sorry you risked out, but it sounds like you have an ok option. And safe is good! Big hugs.

aeress- thanks! If we go for UB I'll be taking you up on that offer! DH is considering 4-5 programs... the University of Pennsylvania Pittsburgh program is my fav (program seems really friendly, low COL, close to Pennsic ), but I wont have much say since dh is the one who has to actually pick a lab/get in. UB is my first choice for the MLS, but that's online so if I get in we'd still be going wherever dh happened to land.

Ro started crying/screaming last night around 8pm (I read the wrong bedtime story) and she cried all night long... falling asleep for a bit only to wake and keep screaming/yelling/thrashing. She kept crying and throwing tantrums today as well (as well as throwing objects). She JUST fell asleep so fingers crossed she'll feel better when she wakes. Between Tor's nursing and that 24 hr fuss fest I'm done!

Happy Birthdays and Happy Birth days!!!!!!!
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Clay!!

Thinking of everyone today especially as I just heard Dan Zanes version of "Somewhere over the Rainbow"


As the internet is failing me to find a clip I bring you instead the tear-jerking version from IZ

somewhere over the...

ETA: I think this is my mantra for September!!!
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dh finally admitted he has been dealing with depression since we moved to maine almost 2 years ago... which i was like, well duh! lol but at least he is seeing it. we get insurance on the first so i am going to encourage him to go see someone. i am also encouraging him to do something for himself and to go running. we will see.

h
Big step. Congrats to him I hope just admitting it helps calm things until your DH can get an appointment.


Morning
Yesterday was so hot here and I guess today we are going to get some of the same. I know in the middle of Winter I will be praying for this weather but right now I just want a bit of a breeze.

Yesterday was a good first day of school for my guys. Today is the test! The second day always is for us. Now that they know who their teachers are and who's in their class the excitement is over. One of my DD's brought home a friend and her bf and a boy who likes my DD. They stayed until 8p, ate dinner and watched movies in the basement. I enjoy having the house that the kids hang at but my poor DH. Daddy's are never ready to see their girls grow up.
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Good morning! I'm on a mad rush to try to get people to sign up on my team so I can win a contest. Wish me luck!
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Yay for BirthDays, new cars, and turkey day plans. Boo for fuss fests (hugs!) sleep deprivation and knuckleheaded people.

It's the end of august and summer. I'm really looking forward to autumn.(read thank goodness we won't be working outside all the time) Dh and I have the fence done, and plastered the hot tub last friday. By sat afternoon it was filled with water and we were in it. It is going to be so nice once there is a heater for it and it's not freezing cold.
Both my girls are at the coast with my sister. They left sunday morning, so I've been kid-less since then. I am enjoying it way too much. Yesterday I sewed for hours and met my mom for lunch. It's been so nice, in 11 years I've never had more than a few hours with out them.
Today dh and I drive to the coast though ( 6 hr drive) so I'll be with my babies by bedtime. I am really excited about the ocean, and the kids even saw whales yesterday.
I'll be thinking of you all while I'm away
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i've been a major lurker lately. I am so busy with figuring out homeschool and then we had to switch internet providers and I forgot to call the new ones! So I was reading and posting here and there, but my laptop wasn't good for actual posting.

See you all in September when I can keep up
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hey everyone... i dont think i will get to catch up before SEPTEMBER, so i'm just popping on to say SO LONG august! and send you each a great big hug and a dance of joy for cooler weather and calmer times! see you next month!
post #658 of 684
So that Hurricane Earl does NOT threaten the New England coastline until at least Friday...my flight is due to land at Logan at 11:15am on Thursday!

I'm keeping a close eye on the storm. If it threatens to close Logan, or come near Boston, I'm hauling arse out to the airport tomorrow and going a day early. M does not know this yet

Keep your fingers crossed for me, mamas. I do NOT want anything threatening this trip! Not that I have an extra $100 to spare to change the tix, but I'd rather put that on my cc than not go at all.
post #659 of 684
having had depression myself, i hate to say it... but he pisses me off. he wallows, does NOTHING, complains, is angry and then goes to bed. he only shows his "happy side" when someone else is here. i freaking hate it.
i am going to the library to pick up "The Mood Cure" which really helped me, i will do the reading, get the vitamins, set the whole thing up, encourage him to go running, make good healthy food for him to eat, get him to bed early... and he will do nothing. you know when i was dealing with my depression, i had to do all of that. i had to make myself better. i had to keep going and keep living because i had kids and a family and a life i wanted to live. i wanted to be HAPPY. i wanted to feel better. i hated the anxiety, the stress, and suicidal thoughts. i wanted to feel good again. i found a counsler, i worked really hard. i can't stand it that he just does nothing.
i have been dealing with a UTI for weeks now, and now i have a cold, and i have to deal with the kids, help sis with homework, cook all the meals, do all the house work, plan anything if i want to get out of the house... and then DO IT ALL ALONE, and he does nothing. i want to feel bad for him, but the guy can't even make me a sandwich on the weekend. makes himself a big lunch eats it right in front of me, and leaves me a mess. i am so mad today... i was mad yesterday too. after our fight on sunday, i just... i can't take it. he may just be coming around to the fact that he is depressed, BUT I HAVE KNOW IT FOR 2 YEARS! i have had to keep this family a float and in a semi good space for years now. i hate when i can't wait for monday so i know he will be gone. and i hate looking at the clock and seeing it is almost time for him to come home and being sad about it.

sorry for the rant. i just have much to do and my husband doesn't even care enough about us to get better.

h
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Mamaof3! DH has on/off depression (has since a teen) and I know where you are !!!.

I agree with you though, your DH has to be the one to want to get better, and not just you setting up everything. Its like anything else we do or want to change - addictions, weight loss, we can be partners in it and offer support, but "we" can not be the ones to do the work.

I told my DH that I will not put up with the moodiness, cranky attitudes, lack of ... <<energy, focus, drive, you know the blah-blah moods>> and if he started down those paths I will call him on it, and then make the suggestion to find a therapist to talk to because I am not a therapist and do not possess those skills If he doesn't call then I will make the call. This usually gets him back to using his skills/tools from previous therapy to get himself back "normal" per se.

You are an amazing woman and are doing an amazing job of keeping your family happy, healthy and safe. Now its time for your DH to take care of himself ... for your family sake
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