We were contacted last week about a baby another agency was having trouble placing. Our SW sent over our profile for birthmom to look at. It was between us and one other family...they won. She had never mentioned to anyone that it was important to have a family with no kids. Last August, we weren't religious enough for a birthmom. Previous to that, we were white (hysterical, since I'm of Middle Eastern descent and have never before been considered white). We applied to adopt two years ago in June. In November, it will be two years since we completed our homestudy. Not sure when we'll give up on all of this.
SW says that she's got three birthmoms in the program, so there is hope...she's already discovered that they don't mind white parents or families with kids.