Hello, everyone,
I was wondering if anyone else experienced feelings of isolation with twins?
My babies are 6 months old, and I am SO happy to have them. That said, I also feel really isolated and burnt-out from the almost constant care, almost no breaks, and how hard it is to go out anywhere, and almost never ALONE.
It probably doesn't help that we moved just this month, so I'm in a new town with no one that I really know. But even before we moved, I felt this way. It's just worse now.
I'm an introvert by nature, and I don't need a lot of interaction. But I do like to leave my house more often than I am able to now. And I feel very overwhelmed just from being NEEDED all the time.
My sister told me I should consider hiring a babysitter and giving them one bottle during that time... First of all, I don't know if they will still take a bottle. And second, I worked SO hard to get them nursing exclusively, that the idea of giving them formula makes me ill. I'd rather wait until they eat more real food and drink than do that.
Which brings me back to my original problem - how can I feel less overwhelmed? I'm tired ALL THE TIME, and besides the babies, I also have older boys that we homeschool, and a work from home job as a writer (about 15 hrs a week, from home). I work when the babies sleep, which means I get very little free time.
I also feel guilty for feeling this way... I worked so hard for so long for these babies. I prayed and pleaded and cried over not being able to have another child. Then, on the fertility treatment cycle that I had said would be my last if it didn't work, I finally conceived the twins!
I should be over the moon! And in some ways, I am. But in others, I feel I shot way, way past the moon -- no oxygen out there, if you know what I mean.
And in case any one will suggest it... I have a therapist who I talk to (from home, on the phone, with the babies with me, because it's the only set up I could get), and I can't take any medications because I have had serious reactions in the past (life threatening).
Anyway... I'm just tired in all ways. Tired emotionally, tired physically, tired spiritually. Simply tired. And always "behind", which just makes me feel beyond exhausted.
Can anyone relate? Any words of wisdom or comfort to share? I'd love to hear it. Nothing worse than feeling alone in your craziness...
~ Rachel
I was wondering if anyone else experienced feelings of isolation with twins?
My babies are 6 months old, and I am SO happy to have them. That said, I also feel really isolated and burnt-out from the almost constant care, almost no breaks, and how hard it is to go out anywhere, and almost never ALONE.
It probably doesn't help that we moved just this month, so I'm in a new town with no one that I really know. But even before we moved, I felt this way. It's just worse now.
I'm an introvert by nature, and I don't need a lot of interaction. But I do like to leave my house more often than I am able to now. And I feel very overwhelmed just from being NEEDED all the time.
My sister told me I should consider hiring a babysitter and giving them one bottle during that time... First of all, I don't know if they will still take a bottle. And second, I worked SO hard to get them nursing exclusively, that the idea of giving them formula makes me ill. I'd rather wait until they eat more real food and drink than do that.
Which brings me back to my original problem - how can I feel less overwhelmed? I'm tired ALL THE TIME, and besides the babies, I also have older boys that we homeschool, and a work from home job as a writer (about 15 hrs a week, from home). I work when the babies sleep, which means I get very little free time.
I also feel guilty for feeling this way... I worked so hard for so long for these babies. I prayed and pleaded and cried over not being able to have another child. Then, on the fertility treatment cycle that I had said would be my last if it didn't work, I finally conceived the twins!
I should be over the moon! And in some ways, I am. But in others, I feel I shot way, way past the moon -- no oxygen out there, if you know what I mean.
And in case any one will suggest it... I have a therapist who I talk to (from home, on the phone, with the babies with me, because it's the only set up I could get), and I can't take any medications because I have had serious reactions in the past (life threatening).
Anyway... I'm just tired in all ways. Tired emotionally, tired physically, tired spiritually. Simply tired. And always "behind", which just makes me feel beyond exhausted.
Can anyone relate? Any words of wisdom or comfort to share? I'd love to hear it. Nothing worse than feeling alone in your craziness...
~ Rachel
) and I have to rely heavily on other people to hold and care for my babies with me. In all of this my DS1 is getting lost in the shuffle and so I feel guilty about that. No end to the guilt around here, actually . . . I am experiencing delayed bonding with the babies and sort of feel like i have someone elses two little babies living in my house.
