Has anyone here experienced having a baby (on purpose) while in school full time, or more specifically, in nursing school full time?
I am about to embark on my second year of nursing school this Fall. I have two years left when you include my capstone in Spring 2012. I have 4 month breaks over the summer, and DH and I are actually talking about trying to conceive this Fall, timing it so that the baby would be born in the middle of my break next summer.
I want to know if we are just being crazy, or if this is a doable thing to handle?
Some background:
We already have a 3 year old, which is one of the main motivating factors to NOT waiting until school is over. I feel like 4 years apart is as much as I really wanted to have between my kids. I am afraid that if we wait too long that it will be an awkward gap between them.
DH is also in school full time, and would be graduating a little after me with his BS. He has said that if we do this, he would be willing to cut back to 3/4 time at school or maybe even 1/2 time if things are really difficult with baby, which would put his education back probably another year at least. My program is not flexible as far as going back part time, or just taking a semester off..it's pretty much all or nothing. I can take off one year and resume the next if I HAVE to, but I want to avoid this because it would really screw up my financial aid.
We live in low income housing and get state insurance and food stamps, so financially, not much would change, except for any diapering expenses. We also still have most of the baby stuff from ds so there would not be much to purchase there.
So IF we do this, we would have to conceive either in Sept or October this Fall in order for the due date to be right in the middle of my break. I need some wiggle room because I had some complications in my pregnancy with ds.
So, the complications are ANOTHER concern..
I had pre-term labor with him from about 22 weeks on. I was on bedrest by 27 weeks and he was born 4 weeks early. Now, with all that considered, I've been researching, and it seems like there are a lot of things I could do now, that we didn't know about the first time. If this all happened again, even with preventative care, I would have to end up taking that year off of school..so that is a gamble there.
My biggest concerns:
TIME MANAGEMENT! It is encouraging and really surprising that Dh was willing to put his education on hold, knowing everything would go as planned for me, when that was the original plan..but still..sleep issues, BFing issues are all rolling around in my head.
Pre-term Labor. This is something I'm trying to decide if it is worth the risk. When I was having pre-term labor the first time, I was contracting like once every 5-10 min for months, but I never dilated until I actually made it to 36 weeks and started contracting a lot faster and harder. ..so the whole time that was going on, I wasn't sure if there was really any risk going on at all or not.
Though it seems like we are throwing a lot in the air, Dh and I both seem to feel like we have a family member missing in our household. In my heart, I just want another baby. If we have a baby now, it might mess up our education endeavors, but if we wait, we can never fix that big gap that we would create.
Any thoughts or personal experiences are much appreciated!!
I am about to embark on my second year of nursing school this Fall. I have two years left when you include my capstone in Spring 2012. I have 4 month breaks over the summer, and DH and I are actually talking about trying to conceive this Fall, timing it so that the baby would be born in the middle of my break next summer.
I want to know if we are just being crazy, or if this is a doable thing to handle?
Some background:
We already have a 3 year old, which is one of the main motivating factors to NOT waiting until school is over. I feel like 4 years apart is as much as I really wanted to have between my kids. I am afraid that if we wait too long that it will be an awkward gap between them.
DH is also in school full time, and would be graduating a little after me with his BS. He has said that if we do this, he would be willing to cut back to 3/4 time at school or maybe even 1/2 time if things are really difficult with baby, which would put his education back probably another year at least. My program is not flexible as far as going back part time, or just taking a semester off..it's pretty much all or nothing. I can take off one year and resume the next if I HAVE to, but I want to avoid this because it would really screw up my financial aid.
We live in low income housing and get state insurance and food stamps, so financially, not much would change, except for any diapering expenses. We also still have most of the baby stuff from ds so there would not be much to purchase there.
So IF we do this, we would have to conceive either in Sept or October this Fall in order for the due date to be right in the middle of my break. I need some wiggle room because I had some complications in my pregnancy with ds.
So, the complications are ANOTHER concern..
I had pre-term labor with him from about 22 weeks on. I was on bedrest by 27 weeks and he was born 4 weeks early. Now, with all that considered, I've been researching, and it seems like there are a lot of things I could do now, that we didn't know about the first time. If this all happened again, even with preventative care, I would have to end up taking that year off of school..so that is a gamble there.
My biggest concerns:
TIME MANAGEMENT! It is encouraging and really surprising that Dh was willing to put his education on hold, knowing everything would go as planned for me, when that was the original plan..but still..sleep issues, BFing issues are all rolling around in my head.
Pre-term Labor. This is something I'm trying to decide if it is worth the risk. When I was having pre-term labor the first time, I was contracting like once every 5-10 min for months, but I never dilated until I actually made it to 36 weeks and started contracting a lot faster and harder. ..so the whole time that was going on, I wasn't sure if there was really any risk going on at all or not.
Though it seems like we are throwing a lot in the air, Dh and I both seem to feel like we have a family member missing in our household. In my heart, I just want another baby. If we have a baby now, it might mess up our education endeavors, but if we wait, we can never fix that big gap that we would create.
Any thoughts or personal experiences are much appreciated!!
It's killing me....I have MAJOR baby fever. Last night, I googled the exact same question. If your super AP than I think it will be really hard because most of the mom's said they were back in class within 4 days of birth. OUCH!
