See this is what confuses me, for every study/person who says that soy is bad, there seems to be another study/person who says its fine, I'd feel terrible for giving something to my son that may be harmful to him, but in this case, I haven't 'seen' any harm to him or myself, but worry about 'underlying' problems. But, I know that this happens with sooo many other things too, it seems every day there is a new scare story about something or other, but I'm such a worrier I tend to panic about them ALL! Oh dear!
For example, DS was three months prem, but I was determined to breastfeed, it took us a long time but we got there and he came home 9 weeks old fully breastfed. Then he was slow to gain weight, so I was pretty much TOLD i'd have to put him on high calorie formula. But then you hear about how you should exclusively breastfeed, negatives of formula etc etc, I know this is part and parcel of life, but for me, I tend to believe everything i'm told.
Sorry for rambling, I'm just trying to get my head around actually making a decision! I'm the sort of person that to's and fro's with things, speculating about problems etc etc. I guess I need to have a bit more confidence in my decisions
Thanks again to everybody's replies, and I do really appreciate both opinions, I just find the bit about making my own mind up really hard