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post #81 of 92
wait, did the drink spill? For some reason when I read "threw his drink" I assumed sippy cup... which I just wouldn't think of as a big deal, I guess, because DS was a big sippy cup thrower when he was angry. That is, you'd offer it, and he'd take it like he wanted it and then throw it... and if you grabbed it/caught it, he'd get mad and try and get it back from you so he could throw it more definitively. That said, he didn't do that in restaurants too often, but I could see it happening. I guess it'd be a different deal, to me, if it was a drink that made a huge mess all over the floor...
post #82 of 92
OP, Grandma was being mean. If she wasn't going to help she could have at least shown you sympathy instead of making it worse for you. You have a right to be hurt.
post #83 of 92
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Well, gee thanks for the support. I *could* have taken him for a walk, but by the time it came to that he had already calmed down. Plus, he wouldn't have wanted to walk with me- he would have wanted to walk with Grammy, and she knew this. I don't think having a kid who acts out for a few minutes in Cracker Barrell is rude, but thanks.
Your mom's response was unacceptable. Nowadays we can't leave kids at home with just anybody without everyone thinking we're neglectful, but everyone knows they are just kids.

We are stuck between a rock and a hard place.

That said, I was also surprised you let him fuss in the restaurant... until I heard it was Cracker Barrel. Even if it means they cry more, we take our kids out. For some people, Cracker Barrel once a month might be their big treat.

I know, I know, that may include you. I have a 3.5 yo DD and a 1.5 yo DD, I know.

Your mom's comment was rude and unhelpful anyway. She should have offered to take your child for a walk. I know my mom does!

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I know that when I was growing up, I wouldn't dream of making a scene or my parents would have embarrassed me.
They wouldn't have taken a two-year-old to a restaurant, period. It just wasn't done until recently, and not with older kids, either, mainly because it was soooo much easier to leave kids at home. Two-year-olds don't get embarrassed. I know many families that spank and it doesn't prevent behavior like spilling stuff. So what you are remembering is yourself as a much older child, not yourself at two. Unless you were a discipline prodigy. I suppose that is possible. But in all likelihood this is comparing apples to oranges... and I don't say this because I don't agree with you in general, just because I think until we recognize that parents today are expected to do what NO OTHER GENERATION has done... we are going to hate ourselves.

So IMO unless baby boomers, who raised us leaving us at home with a 10-y-o cousin or worse, are prepared to disarm all these laws about child care and neglect and re-calibrate their baby-rearing monitors, they can take all their "you nevers" and shove them where the sun don't shine.

I can't leave my kids in the car at the post office, and if one person tells me that I'm not managing them (even though I spend 100% of my time entertaining them and re-directing them) while there, but they manage to go insane while I sign the check, argh, I will go OFF on them, I swear.

It's so unfair, the double dose of expectations. I can only hope it will even out as our generation comes of age...
post #84 of 92
^^^As the oldest of 6, I stand by what I said. I was 6 when the next child was born and we've always gone out to eat. Even if I was older, my siblings were not.
post #85 of 92
Anyone else finding it weird that there wasn't already food at the table at a Crackerbarrel? Especially when they were seating a group with two kids? Bet when the OP's ds started to squawk the waiter was like ": I didn't get biscuits to that table yet?" and ran with the crackers.
post #86 of 92
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Anyone else finding it weird that there wasn't already food at the table at a Crackerbarrel? Especially when they were seating a group with two kids? Bet when the OP's ds started to squawk the waiter was like ": I didn't get biscuits to that table yet?" and ran with the crackers.
Every time I've eaten there, and at most restaurants, they bring your bread when they take your order or right after. So you've already bee sitting there with your menus for a while.
post #87 of 92
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Anyone else finding it weird that there wasn't already food at the table at a Crackerbarrel? Especially when they were seating a group with two kids? Bet when the OP's ds started to squawk the waiter was like ": I didn't get biscuits to that table yet?" and ran with the crackers.
Every time we have eaten there biscuits or cornbread (YUM!) have been delivered to the table after we have placed our order.
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Hmmm support is 50/50 here.  I feel I'm still learning from my mother.  Though she's a flake and kind of an oddball grandma.  Way too posh for me.  Anyway in situations where my kids were not doing well, Miss prim and proper would start goofing around, I mean she put straws up her nose for the love of Judas and had my DD's in hystarics minues after all their tears.  Then she colored with them and shared her drink slobbery straw and all.  Again my mom is kind of a sucky mom very all about herself.  However I'm somehow still learning from her. 

 

So I'm sorry your mom let you down.  She's your mother and in difficult situations, she should share the load.  Or so I've learned from my mother. 

post #91 of 92

Okay, amazingly everyone missed the point.  Your mother upset you, you needed support from us.  However some chose to practically do the same thing your mother did... WOW! 

 

She did not ask you how you felt she managed the situation with her son.  Why did anyone feel the need to comment on a small issue and not discuss what was really bothering her?  The attitude that you know best about kids in a restaraunt is unfair and theres another thread for that.

post #92 of 92
What an OLD thread, but it goes well on TAO right after the thread we just had about restaurants.
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