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Originally Posted by Amila  Well, gee thanks for the support. I *could* have taken him for a walk, but by the time it came to that he had already calmed down. Plus, he wouldn't have wanted to walk with me- he would have wanted to walk with Grammy, and she knew this. I don't think having a kid who acts out for a few minutes in Cracker Barrell is rude, but thanks.  |
Your mom's response was unacceptable. Nowadays we can't leave kids at home with just anybody without everyone thinking we're neglectful, but everyone knows they are just kids.
We are stuck between a rock and a hard place.
That said, I was also surprised you let him fuss in the restaurant... until I heard it was Cracker Barrel.
Even if it means they cry more, we take our kids out. For some people, Cracker Barrel once a month might be their big treat.
I know, I know, that may include you. I have a 3.5 yo DD and a 1.5 yo DD, I know.
Your mom's comment was rude and unhelpful anyway. She should have offered to take your child for a walk. I know my mom does!
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| I know that when I was growing up, I wouldn't dream of making a scene or my parents would have embarrassed me. |
They wouldn't have taken a two-year-old to a restaurant, period. It just wasn't done until recently, and not with older kids, either, mainly because it was soooo much easier to leave kids at home. Two-year-olds don't get embarrassed. I know many families that spank and it doesn't prevent behavior like spilling stuff. So what you are remembering is yourself as a much older child, not yourself at two. Unless you were a discipline prodigy. I suppose that is possible. But in all likelihood this is comparing apples to oranges... and I don't say this because I don't agree with you in general, just because I think until we recognize that parents today are expected to do what NO OTHER GENERATION has done... we are going to hate ourselves.
So IMO unless baby boomers, who raised us leaving us at home with a 10-y-o cousin or worse, are prepared to disarm all these laws about child care and neglect and re-calibrate their baby-rearing monitors, they can take all their "you nevers" and shove them where the sun don't shine.
I can't leave my kids in the car at the post office, and if one person tells me that I'm not managing them (even though I spend 100% of my time entertaining them and re-directing them) while there, but they manage to go insane while I sign the check, argh, I will go OFF on them, I swear.
It's so unfair, the double dose of expectations. I can only hope it will even out as our generation comes of age...
That said, he didn't do that in restaurants too often, but I could see it happening. I guess it'd be a different deal, to me, if it was a drink that made a huge mess all over the floor...
: I didn't get biscuits to that table yet?" and ran with the crackers.
