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post #441 of 451
Could you please change my blurb:

slylives - TTC #2 since January 2009. 1 ectopic, 2 early miscarriages, 3 unsuccessful rounds on Clomid and now on my first IVF cycle.
post #442 of 451
RCR - If your only issue is male factor then IUI alone should greatly increase your odds. I don't think medicating your cycle increases your odds unless you actually have ovulatory problems. My RE actually told me that if SA and post-coital are normal, there is no advantage to doing IUI even in a medicated cycle.

Miriam - Happy Anniversary! Hope you get good news about the SA!

AFM - still no spotting, temp up a bit this morning . I feel like I'm setting myself up for a huge disappointment. I cannot believe I'm not spotting! Maybe my LPD just magically fixed itself . I'm afraid to test and I'm only 11dpo so it's still early...
post #443 of 451
Hi ladies

I have been reading whenever I can but seems whenever I get on to post, DH kicks me off of late. I have been thinking of you all.

RCR- Hugs for going through this all, and I hope you get back good news from the docs-- whatever that may be. For what it's worth that intuitive lady told me she didn't see any more babies for me, maybe not for a long time if ever. I asked that back in Feb and it's now September tomorrow and not once did I get a bfp so far. I hope it wasn't the power of belief having that effect, or else what does it say about my weak willed mind, lol. I took it with a grain of salt, and relied on my own prayers, but still nothing. We have male factor as our main issue and are thinking about maybe possibly but we'll see going the IUI route someday. DH is against it. And our pocketbook.

Apricot- hugs to you too. I am sure working with pg/birth doesn't make it easier to experience your own loss either. But maybe it does?

Sweetest- holding out hope for you! No spotting and up temps is good!

sylvies- good luck on this first IVF. I know nothing about it.

For all the talk of miscarriages lately, I am wondering something. I have had one m/c but it was years ago. It was diagnosed in the ER; they did an u/s and told me no heartbeat and baby was behind in growth and so it had died. I went in to the ER cause of sudden vomiting, whereas previously had no morning sickness. This began on 6 weeks pg almost to the day. Thing is I have always had late ovulations. Didn't chart back then, but knew that conception occurred a good 3 weeks after my FDLMP, not two weeks. So wouldn't I have "measured behind' by their standards, based solely on LMP since that's what OBs go by? And would a h/b for sure have shown by then anyway? I don't know why I would go for a month of pg without any m/s and suddenly feel sick that day and throw up several times. It could have been the sudden onset of bad m/s I guess. However, at the ER they said I was getting septic or something from the baby having died and tissue infecting and not being spelled. That is, it was a "missed abortion" (awful term) or missed m/c technically. They admitted me and did a D&C the next day, which of course I went along with being young and ignorant-- assumed docs must be correct.

Something I've wondered a long time is that does everyone/most/anyone? experiencing a missed m/c, some many weeks later than I, experience sudden vomiting as a signal that something was wrong? If most people don't, then maybe that means something.

How likely is it the docs could have been wrong based on dates and the baby was too little to see h/b etc? How likely, IYO, that the sick was because of having missed m/c going "septic" or whatever versus the onset of morning sickness? This has haunted me for years.
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Tara - Did they do the D&C based on *one* u/s and that's it?? My MW doesn't do viability scans before 7 weeks before then she says you can't rely on seeing a heartbeat so they prefer to do them when they know for sure you'll see one.
You can get an infection but that was pretty low on the list of concerns about having a missed m/c. I'm just worried they did one u/s and no bloodwork at what would have been 5 weeks adjusted for you and they made a horrible assumption. That would haunt me as well because you can't really ever know.
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However, at the ER they said I was getting septic or something from the baby having died and tissue infecting and not being spelled. That is, it was a "missed abortion" (awful term) or missed m/c technically. They admitted me and did a D&C the next day, which of course I went along with being young and ignorant-- assumed docs must be correct.

Something I've wondered a long time is that does everyone/most/anyone? experiencing a missed m/c, some many weeks later than I, experience sudden vomiting as a signal that something was wrong? If most people don't, then maybe that means something.

How likely is it the docs could have been wrong based on dates and the baby was too little to see h/b etc? How likely, IYO, that the sick was because of having missed m/c going "septic" or whatever versus the onset of morning sickness? This has haunted me for years.
I cannot say for certain anything, mind you.

However, my missed miscarriage, the baby measured 6 weeks when I had my 12 week ultrasound (obviously no heartbeat at that point) and I most definitely did NOT have sepsis. I did, however, have morning sickness that entire time. Actually, not even as bad as when I had my son!

Sepsis can be detected through a blood test, did they give you a blood test?

That said, yes your dates could have been off, very easily they could have been wrong and you could have had an unwarranted D&C.

However, it is best not to dwell on that. Because there is no way to know for certain. They could have actually been right too.

In any case... I am so sorry to hear about that horrible experience and that is one of the biggest reasons I educated myself so much on all of this during/after my miscarriage... I did not want to be misinformed and then have to wonder if they were just wrong.

In my case, I know for 100% certain they were not wrong, but I also miscarried naturally, rather than with a D&C, so I had no question.
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7dpo...Gah!! Starting to get my hopes up again. When will I ever learn?
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Thanks ladies for your info re missed m/c.
jessica- yup it was based on one u/s done in the ER. I don't remember now if it was vag or abdominal u/s anymore. Somewhere I'm sure there must be a record. And by the by, on the day of the ER, technically I was at least 6 weeks based on actual conception dates, not LMP. According to LMP I would have been 7 weeks.. Don't know if that makes a difference on what they would see on U/s by then.

mae- thanks for responding. How are you holding up? Still contracting away? Does labor look imminent yet? Sorry to say that with my live births, all were late by 2 days to 2 weeks. And I had tons of major ctx from a month prior. Hope your babe doesn't keep you waiting much longer!

Re your info: As to the blood test, i have no idea. Don't remember. Yes I have since educated myself on many aspects of pg and birth, and TTC, and as mentioned, have managed to have live births since. Know I am fortunate to have only one m/c compared to many here. Petrified of m/c each pg, mind you.

Though I wasn't charting at the time of the missed m/c, I am certain of dates. I had only one DTD that entire cycle, and none in the couple months before that one time. I also had crazy EWCM that day, a very clear, one time O pain (like I used to get each month) in the hours that followed. Oh and the next day I woke up and knew without a shred of doubt that I was pg. Don't know how I knew that then. I never had such knowledge again with the kids that were born to me.

That you mention the possibility of an unwarranted D&C, all I can say is yikes, but you're right that I cannot do anything about it now. And can't know for sure. I guess I have known for a long time that was possible. I just hope it wasn't the case. I had enough heartbreak over it thinking it was already a lost cause when I had the D&C. Plus I wasn't educated about these possibilities then. I knew nothing but thought I did. I was 20 years old.

enigo don't beat yourself up, hon, for having hope. I get it each time, even though right today I'm thinking I'm never gonna see a BFP again, I know it. Right? Are you testing or holding out?
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Well, I have to hold out at least until Friday, that's 10dpo. HOWEVER I did take an OPK yesterday at 6dpo (I know I know). It was nearly +. Sighhh, now I have extra obsessing to do. Last time I was pregnant, the same thing happened. So if anyone needs a way to obsess when it's too early to use a HPT, there you go.

I would try to check online about what it means, but I know it will tell me I have a hormonal imbalance or something worse

I am feeling a little suspicious, but I have been wrong before. Like 9 times at least.
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Millefleur: I guess I am moving back to the TTC section Could you change me to:

rcr- TTC since summer 2009, and NTNP since summer 2008 with male factor and one loss in August 2010. 36 YO.
Done. I hated having to do that.

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millefleur - Thanks so much! I've done the ONE thread before...so I'm guessing it's similar.

We'll miss you! Hopefully you will indeed be able to relax and take a nice break.
Thanks!

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Originally Posted by slylives View Post
Could you please change my blurb:

slylives - TTC #2 since January 2009. 1 ectopic, 2 early miscarriages, 3 unsuccessful rounds on Clomid and now on my first IVF cycle.
Done!
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mae- thanks for responding. How are you holding up? Still contracting away? Does labor look imminent yet? Sorry to say that with my live births, all were late by 2 days to 2 weeks. And I had tons of major ctx from a month prior. Hope your babe doesn't keep you waiting much longer!
bleh... all i can say lol

ive been having regular contractions since 32 weeks... but this is different, they are doing something, but very very slowly (been nearly 48 hours now)

I have a feeling she is waiting for the hurricane to hit, then come full force! (I live on the east coast of north carolina, not 5 miles straight from the beach... so if it grazes north carolina at all as has been saying its possible, it will hit us!)

in any case my midwife just laughed and said welcome to north carolina. she drives a very sturdy vehicle for a reason (definitely not the gas mileage!)... and will be here if I go into labor in the middle of it.
post #451 of 451
September thread is open, ladies....
http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1258347

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