my situation

[baby3in2011]

First off, dh and I have a 3.5yo ds and a 2yo dd and one due in feb. Both have slept in our bed since they were born. We got them their own beds and rarely do they sleep in them, and when they do by 4am they are back in our bed. Dh wants them out of our bed because he "wants his space". We have a king size and the kids and I are on one half and dh is on the other no matter how much he denies that fact. If anyone needs more space its the one with the growing belly, yeah? Anyways, I don't mind them being in our bed, at all. In fact I sleep much better when they are next to me. I know dh knows I'm not passionate about getting them out of our bed, and its causing stress, which I don't need. He is also pushing ds to potty train, we moved a month ago and I still feel its a bit new to the kids still and dh is overwhelming them with change, does that sound unreasonable? I'm not sure how to deal with the situation, if they wanted to sleep in their beds I wouldn't stop them. Dd still nurses to sleep which is hindering it I'm sure, I am trying to ween her and she is accepting that I'm not letting her nurse throughout the night anymore, I let her nurse to fall asleep and that's it. I guess my question would be more how to go about discussing it with dh.

Thanks,

Lisa

[akengott]

we only have 1 little guy but the arrangement that has worked best for us is daddy on the couch in the basement. this was the best way we could get him some sleep. not only is he sleeping full nights, he's got his own little spot to wind down before going to sleep that he really treasures. i know many are against this type of 'splitting the family' at night but we aren't divided on the baby in bed with me issue! good luck

[Nazsmum]

We have had different sleeping arrangements over the past 4 years. Some of that time was with my husband in the bed with us. Some not. Right now my husband get up very early and NEEDS sleep!!! So he sleeps in another bed. It works out for all of us.

In the near future I would like to get back with my husband and have the boys sleep together. But that will not be for some time.