Katie. I can't imagine having a MIL like that around.
I don't feel (11 years later) that mine particularly likes me, but she's at least more or less accepting now. (I have always felt like the fact that DH is an only child, and therefore I'm her one and only shot at a DIL, is an issue. Even though he lived across the country from her, I still feel like I sort of "took him" away from her. I dunno, it's weird, but we cope on short visits.) It sounds like your MIL has some major issues that have nothing to do with you.
Does the military have someone your DH can talk to? I can't imagine the major emotional stress of being overseas, coming home, trying to adjust, etc. It sounds entirely "normal" to have issues with depression in that situation. It's a HUGE, major life event, but one that you're almost expected to take in stride. I do highly recommend the book "The Mood Cure" for natural treatments for various types of depression (or what she calls "false moods"). Soooo helpful and applies to so many people I know (including those who don't have "classic" depression). Not sure if it would apply or appeal to him, but it might help.
Sent out invites for the boys' joint party last night... We can have up to 60 people (which is crazy!) at this venue. I invited families totaling up to 48, I think (including us), and so far have gotten "yes" responses from my mom and ONE other family - friends from a homeschooling group that we don't know *that* well.
I suppose it's really only one "no" so far that has surprised me (and they didn't say anything about why they can't come, nor did they mention it today when I saw them at church), but it's got me worrying about having *enough* to make it a fun party.
I just wish people would commit...
Though it's a Thursday late-afternoon party, so I know it's a bit of an odd time. I was hoping that having almost 3 weeks notice would help, but, we'll see.
Iain's 6th birthday is on Sunday, and I'm trying to figure out logistics for that given conflicting needs and wants from various sides. We are, for sure, taking him to see the dinos at the zoo (yes, zoo). It's an exhibit that will only be up until the day after his birthday, so we're going for the first time. He's SO into dinos (on a detailed level) so I know he'll enjoy it. But juggling that with the people we always see for birthdays and their needs/time, heat, naps, finances... Sigh. Hopefully we can go with the plan we currently have cooked up, 'cause my brain is fried. But that might be 'cause I need to sleep.