Hi Honey,
After i read what you wrote I signed up specifically to respond to you. I know exactly what you're going through and I completely sympathize with you!!!!! My daughter is 24 months old and she weighs 44lbs. I get a lot of unwanted and unwarranted advice from almost everyone however if they actually knew how active she is and just little she eats they might think twice about their comments. My munchkin is an extremely picky eater (eating mostly strawberries, blueberries, multi-grain cheerios, eggs, boiled chicken, spinach and she will only drink skim milk). It is definitely not the food she eats or lack of activity!
I started to worry about her weight when she was around 18 months and I talked to my pediatrician about it. Luckily my pediatrician is a very compassionate and caring doctor and she told me that chances are she has a slow metabolism and it might be due to some hormonal issues which run in the family (that we are now currently looking into).
My husband and I are both chubby people and I grew up extremely active (competing nationally in synchronized swimming and then in Ballet) and I have fought my weight my whole life. Even while training 40hours a week and being active I was still gaining weight. They finally determined that I had hypothyroidism and think that my daughter might have the same problem although it is hard to determine in such a young child. So unfortunately my daughter might just have a weight issue due to genetics. I fear for her because I know how hard it is to grow up chubby.
I know what it is like to have people tell me what they think I should be doing, or what they think the problem is when they have no idea what is actually going on. My husband even had a woman stop him in the grocery store to tell him that our daughter was fat. Had it been me who heard the comment I'm pretty sure that woman would be lacking her front teeth but I digress.
People can be cruel, but by the sounds of it you're doing everything right. Just know that there is someone out there who knows what you're going through. I may not have all the answers but in my opinion as long as our kids are healthy and happy don't worry too much about the rest. You sound like a very caring and dedicated mom so keep doing what you're doing!
Sending you big hugs,
Kirsten
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