August 2010 low-income support thread - Page 11

[zebra15]

Originally Posted by Pumpkin_Pie

Did they say why they wouldn't let your kids in? That just sounds so wrong to me. I would be absolutely livid! Also, did you talk to your landlord to see if they can extend the rent special for another month? Maybe tell them that you are having trouble this month and maybe they can help out some? I am so sorry things are looking so bad right now.

I am so beyond stressed out right now. If I end up moving, it could be as soon as December 1, which would be such terrible timing. I really don't want to say no, but it is just going to be so crazy, impossibly hard. First of all, the weather is very likely to be terrible. Cold, wet, snowy. Moving is not fun, but I have never moved an entire household in the middle of winter. Second, I just don't have any extra money right now. I am so stressed about even getting caught up on my utilities. I had a few Christmas presents stashed away for DS, but it is not much at all. I am thinking at this point that he will likely end up being put on the charity type of gift lists. I just can't afford anything extra now. I have a Little Tykes easel that I bought at a yard sale two years ago for $5 in the basement that will be his "big" gift, but no art supplies to go in it. Not even paper to clip to it. I am starting my new job on Tuesday, but with the utilities all back logged, and needing to come up with nearly $1K by the first of December, I have absolutely nothing to spare. I spent $11 on DS's Halloween costume fabric today, and I was hyperventilating all the way home. I am going to try to sell things on Craigslist starting tomorrow, but am not feeling too hopeful about that. I HATE this!

Oh, and I babysat for a friend a couple of weeks ago, and I lost the check she wrote for me. I admitted that I had lost it and offered to pay for the stop payment. She said she didn't want to stop payment and would write me another check, and still hasn't. I don't want to ask for the money because she is a good friend and I don't usually charge friends to babysit, but she knows I am in a tight financial spot. I don't know how to bring it up again, but could soooooooo use the money right now.

Congrats on the new job...you are very lucky to have found something so soon. If I was in your position, I probably wouldn't move. The timing just sounds bad, Money, weather, holidays... just not good IMO. *I* would want to take the time and $ to focus on my son and the holidays (I love the holidays, and really loved them when he was little).

I hope I can get 3-4 days of subbing this week, I really need the income. I hate relying on unemployment. I want to be self sufficient so badly its not funny. I have a freaking masters degree plus now a teaching certificate... there is no reason for this!

The reason the PP couldnt get into the plasma place w. her kids is: many 'research' places do not allow anyone under the age of 18 inside. The reason does not matter, its a liability and insurance reason. Also the paperwork can not leave the building- again liability and security reasons. Sometimes it seems unfair but privacy and liabilities tend to rule the medical field.

[Pumpkin_Pie]

Originally Posted by zebra15

Congrats on the new job...you are very lucky to have found something so soon. If I was in your position, I probably wouldn't move. The timing just sounds bad, Money, weather, holidays... just not good IMO. *I* would want to take the time and $ to focus on my son and the holidays (I love the holidays, and really loved them when he was little).

I hope I can get 3-4 days of subbing this week, I really need the income. I hate relying on unemployment. I want to be self sufficient so badly its not funny. I have a freaking masters degree plus now a teaching certificate... there is no reason for this!

The reason the PP couldnt get into the plasma place w. her kids is: many 'research' places do not allow anyone under the age of 18 inside. The reason does not matter, its a liability and insurance reason. Also the paperwork can not leave the building- again liability and security reasons. Sometimes it seems unfair but privacy and liabilities tend to rule the medical field.

Part of me wants to say no to moving, but the apartment I am living in is so scary lately, I was assaulted about a week ago by a neighbor while my son looked on. Granted, she is now being evicted, but I am terrified of who might be moving in. Her behavior is pretty typical of the residents around here, unfortunately. I also stress out about the kids that DS is playing with here. There are so many who think it is perfectly fine to beat on each other, swear, leave trash everywhere, etc and the parents will do absolutely nothing, even if they see it. I have had DS over at the new place to play with the kids there, and the parenting attitudes are completely different. Parents are outside with their children, the kids are much less aggressive, and the entire community is much smaller.

I also have a neighbor who is regularly raving drunk, as in running through the courtyard screaming obscenities at the top of her lungs "I'M F***ING DRUNK AND I DON'T CARE WHO KNOWS!!!!!!!!!!!" was my favorite one last time she started up. Two other neighbors have kids that they are regularly yelling at/hitting/calling "stupid". One neighbor's little girl who is DS's age has frequently come up to him, pulled her pants down and grabbed his hands or his head to check out her bare bottom. I am scared of her mama, so I haven't said anything to her, but I just try to not let DS play with that particular child.

The office of the landlord here is so horrible. They NEVER let you forget that you are living in low income housing because you are poor and because you are poor, you are much less of a human being than everyone else, especially the employees of the office. They have well paying jobs, and you don't, so you are pretty much worthless. I want to vomit or sit down and cry every time I have an interaction with anyone at the office. I try to avoid them, but I can't always and it just leaves me feeling so badly about myself. From the four families that I know at the new place, none of these things happen there. I just so want to live in a place that I can feel safe, respected, and with my dignity intact.

[Ianthe]

Pumpkin- IMHO, I actually think the move would be good for you. It sounds like a great community, and perhaps you will be able to find a good support system. It will be hard, but also worth it.

If you remember, I moved an hour north, by myself and 2 kids, while my DH was working out of town for a couple months. If little-ol-me can do it with 2 kids and an absent DH, you can do it with just the 2 of you!

[maciascl]

Originally Posted by Ianthe

Pumpkin- IMHO, I actually think the move would be good for you. It sounds like a great community, and perhaps you will be able to find a good support system. It will be hard, but also worth it.

If you remember, I moved an hour north, by myself and 2 kids, while my DH was working out of town for a couple months. If little-ol-me can do it with 2 kids and an absent DH, you can do it with just the 2 of you!

[Pumpkin_Pie]

Originally Posted by Ianthe

Pumpkin- IMHO, I actually think the move would be good for you. It sounds like a great community, and perhaps you will be able to find a good support system. It will be hard, but also worth it.

If you remember, I moved an hour north, by myself and 2 kids, while my DH was working out of town for a couple months. If little-ol-me can do it with 2 kids and an absent DH, you can do it with just the 2 of you!

Thanks so much. I know I can make everything else work out, but I am so worried about the financial piece of it. I need to have at least $1K saved by December 1st at the earliest, or possibly January 1st if they don't get the apartment ready in time. That is just so soon. 2 short months. I am not sure if I will have to pay rent for November here, but I won't owe anything for October. I will have all of my bills except for heat, as my heating assistance just kicked in. I will still have internet, cell phone, electricity, two credit cards, car insurance and DS's preschool. I am behind on almost everything, so it will be a catch-up game between now and then and also saving every single penny I possibly can. I just about started hyperventilating when I spent $11 yesterday.

I am stressed every time I need to use my car, because I know I am chewing up the gas in the tank. I also have an oil leak, or am burning oil pretty badly, as I have to put a quart of oil in at least every other week lately. So, so, so stressed about that car repair. There is a chance I could get help with it through the state, because I need my car for my job, but my appointment with them is on Friday while I am supposed to be at work. I am going to try to call tomorrow to see if I can get a different time, but they don't like to change appointment times. I am also stressing out about moving into an apartment on December 1st and then losing my job a few days before Christmas. They did say that it could end then, and that would be pretty miserable.

[Ianthe]

Originally Posted by Pumpkin_Pie

Thanks so much. I know I can make everything else work out, but I am so worried about the financial piece of it. I need to have at least $1K saved by December 1st at the earliest, or possibly January 1st if they don't get the apartment ready in time. That is just so soon. 2 short months. I am not sure if I will have to pay rent for November here, but I won't owe anything for October. I will have all of my bills except for heat, as my heating assistance just kicked in. I will still have internet, cell phone, electricity, two credit cards, car insurance and DS's preschool. I am behind on almost everything, so it will be a catch-up game between now and then and also saving every single penny I possibly can. I just about started hyperventilating when I spent $11 yesterday.

I am stressed every time I need to use my car, because I know I am chewing up the gas in the tank. I also have an oil leak, or am burning oil pretty badly, as I have to put a quart of oil in at least every other week lately. So, so, so stressed about that car repair. There is a chance I could get help with it through the state, because I need my car for my job, but my appointment with them is on Friday while I am supposed to be at work. I am going to try to call tomorrow to see if I can get a different time, but they don't like to change appointment times. I am also stressing out about moving into an apartment on December 1st and then losing my job a few days before Christmas. They did say that it could end then, and that would be pretty miserable.

We did get help moving from the LDS church (whom our parents are members of, but not us). They also, from time to time, help with other stuff like car repairs, paying rent and bills, food and toiletries.. not sure if you ever looked into that, but wanted to put that out there.

[happyhats]

I just popped two loaves of chocolate chip banana bread into the fridge. Now I have one egg left and less than a cup of sugar. I will get more eggs tomorrow thanks to wic, but sugar might be waiting until payday.

Hubby dropped off paperwork for food stamp recertification but he wasn't able to stay for an interview because it was so slammed. It took him an hour to the get to the window! He was on his way home from class.

I really hope they call or else he/we will have to go sit there for as long as it takes Friday. Depends on if he has overtime since it is close to his job. Our dhs office is not dependable on calling for interviews, or having paperwork together, etc. Not fun. Thankfully he will get his school loan disbursement and his grant refund end of month so we'll be able to eat.

I have another ultrasound end of this month, and hopefully we'll find out if we are adding a boy or girl to our family. If we are having a boy we need a lot more clothes than we have now! We have some gender neutral sleepers and onesies for newborn/early infant stage, and a couple pairs of jeans and socks. That's about it. We will need winter gear, older infant clothes, the works. At least we have all the baby gear/big stuff gender neutral. I saved all of my daughter's nice outfits she's outgrown so they will be consigned if this is a little guy.

Going to go count change. We have just enough gas to get to the wic office, and I'd like to go to the thrift shop. I haven't been in SOO long. We're bringing some banana bread and tea/lemonade in the car. It's a forty minute drive usually and might be even longer since our car is no longer highway safe. Thank goodness a "new" car is in our future once hubby gets his school funds-the poor clunker is about to die any day.

[frugalmama]

Still no word from my caseworker on DD's and my medicaid. I have to give them until close of business on the 10th, but I'm not seeing any action so far.

Had another big storm today {Tropical Storm Hermine} and lots of small limbs down but thankfully nothing on the roof so far. We really need to get these trees cut down. Lots of rain in the storm too - and the roof is still not fixed. I hate to think of the damage it's doing to it.

Our thrift shop had it's half off sale on Labor day, and I managed to score some shirts for me {plus size is so hard to find used around here} and a heavy winter coat for DD. Coats are very hard to find in good condition used here since it doesn't get all that cold here {normally 30's is the lowest it gets}. Since we walk everywhere though or take the city bus it means dressing warmer since you often have to wait 20+ minutes at the bus stop in the cold weather.

We've got WIC on Saturday, and then DD's birthday is Sunday. Not looking forward to going to WIC very much, but it's her last year on it and we need the help.

[averysmomma05]

I have WIC tomorrow which is about 30 miles away 2-3 towns over. I have no gas my gas light is on actually. I am working on ChaCha all night just to have enough gas for tomorrow because I can't do without wic any longer. Oh well. Payday is Thursday even tho it is maxed out.

[Jyotsna]

September...and still on August

Hi everyone,

Hope you don't mind if I move us over to September. I keep looking for it.

[Jyotsna]

New Thread for September 2010

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...0#post15818830