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anyone keeping babies' sex a surprise?

post #1 of 11
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are there any mamas here that are going to wait for birth to find out the sex of their babies? i really wanted to wait for our last baby, and now that there are two...it feels a little different...but i still think we should wait!

just seems like there is a bit more planning to do w/ TWO babies that would make it easier if we knew...but i am on the fence. so far, im just making GN diapers, etc...but i have a feeling hubs is going to pressure me to find out...

and w/ all the extra ultrasounds...its gonna be hard to resist...even though i have a feeling they are b/g...
post #2 of 11
We want to find out
Its going to be quite a ride anyway, no need for more surprises
post #3 of 11
I tried not to find out. I prefer neutral colors anyway, and love thinking about names, so it was fine with me. Due to a snafu I found out at 36 weeks. Long story.

But the funny thing is I was sure I would have boys (DH has three brothers.) I said the only way I'd have two girls is if they were identical, and what's the chance of that . . .

Of course 2 identical girls is just what I got. So happy too.

It is hard not to find out with all the u/s.
post #4 of 11
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Originally Posted by Gena 22 View Post
I tried not to find out. I prefer neutral colors anyway, and love thinking about names, so it was fine with me. Due to a snafu I found out at 36 weeks. Long story.

But the funny thing is I was sure I would have boys (DH has three brothers.) I said the only way I'd have two girls is if they were identical, and what's the chance of that . . .

Of course 2 identical girls is just what I got. So happy too.

It is hard not to find out with all the u/s.
god save us if im pregnant w/ two girls, is all im going to say...but you must have had some inkling to be so right!

ive been right about all of my pregnancies...and i definitely feel some b/g action...
post #5 of 11
I found out for two reasons - first, I figured we'd had enough surprises for one pregnancy, and second, I assumed we'd have a lot of US, and I couldn't imagine NOT watching the screen!

I'm glad we did find out. It was cool knowing that it was James (on my left side) having hiccups, and Bryan poised to be first out the door! Before we founf out we were having twins, we referred to the baby as "Junior"; I liked using names better. Interestingly, DH and I couldn't agree on names when there was only one to think about; with two, we came up with 2 sets of names that we liked and agreed on in a matter of hours.
post #6 of 11
We didn't find out! Hubby was going with statistics and bet on a boy and a girl (we did know they were frats.) I had a gut instinct from early on that there were two boys in there!
post #7 of 11
So far we haven't found out in any of our pregnancies. We feel it's the last secret in the universe, so why spoil it. I had no idea what I was looking at on the ultrasound anyway and whenever we went in I told them I didn't want to know. Gut feeling I had was two boys, I was right. We had fun picking out names and had names for all contingencies, so it worked out well. We didn't find out with our singleton who came next either. My gut said girl, and I was right again. Once again, had no idea what I was seeing on the ultrasound.

Whatever you decide will be right for you. Good luck!
post #8 of 11
My boys are five now. When I was pregnant, my husband wanted to know and I did not. We compromised in that we asked the the ultrasound tech tell us if genders were the same or different. So we'd know if it was one of each, but be surprised if it were two of the same. We had two of the same, so we planned two girl names and two boy names. We bought clothes in yellows and greens. We didn't do much nursery decorating.

It was a lovely surprise to hear "It's a boy" twice, and really be surprised.
post #9 of 11
I didn't find out with our twins or with our singleton. We had twin girls, so maybe it was easier not to figure it out for myself with all the 8 gazillion ultrasounds I had. It was a huge surprise. I thought we were having a boy and a girl or two boys. Two girls was the last thing I suspected. With our singleton, I thought boy from the moment I knew I was pregnant and I was right. We only had one ultrasound with him and the gender wasn't written on the report sent to my doctor, so it was pretty easy not to find out. Not so many opportunities.

It was definitely a fun surprise to have at birth, but I don't know if it's any less a surprise if you hear it at an ultrasound, KWIM?
post #10 of 11
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well i guess i should have given my history too.

my first husband and i decided to wait to find out what my daughter was...we could only come up w/ a few boy names, but many girl names...and i think i had a feeling she was a girl...i labored naturally but ended up with a crash c section that i was put under for...so i missed out on the big moment...tho i do remember when i recovered and found out...

i never remembered being grateful that we'd waited tho so when i got pregnant again years later with my second husband...i insisted we find out...he didnt want to and nearly won out, but i got put on pelvic rest for my entire second trimester with regular u/s due to placenta previa, so we decided to find out for some good news...i wanted time to prepare if he was a boy...and he was...though i think i knew already.

the tables were turned with my most recent pregnancy. i KNEW we were having a girl, but wanted to wait to find out. hubs needed time to prepare if we were having another girl...haha. so we paid 500 bucks to find out what i already knew...haha.

this time i was sure we'd wait, but now that there're two...its going to be hard. but i still think we might.

i have a feeling they are b/g due to my flip flopping symptoms...one day i feel girl, the next boy and have since before we knew it was twins...so im pretty sure.
post #11 of 11
We didn't find out. We definitely questioned whether we should since there were two in there, and somehow it seemed different than there just being one baby. Someone let it slip along the way that they were the same sex, but that was fine with me, because I didn't have to choose favorite names from among my two boy names and two girl names (how awful to find out that Mom gave your brother the favored name!).

I'm glad we didn't find out ahead of time. I had to give up my homebirth and go in for a C-section. But having twins and the surprise of not knowing the genders made everyone in the operating room feel like this was a special birth. That really helped me cope with the disappointment of the situation. I would have hated to feel like this was just another day on the job for everyone around me.
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