I wish I could say that I have calmly knelt down and his level or whatever but mainly I just get really mad. I've been working on it but it is truly difficult. What we have done recently is take him to his room and tell him he can come down when he is ready to behave civilly. It has worked sometimes I think because fairly quickly he comes down and is calm. Other times like tonight- he was throwing a fit because his brother was taking a bath first!!!- and he screamed and acreamed and slammed the door and I ended up pulling a muscle or something dragging him upstairs.
I don't whether to keep being consistant with the room thing or what. BTW- We never used the room as a punishment before and actually I not thinkingof this that way- I just think he can't sit down here with the family and scream and hit. I always tell him he can decide when to come down.
The worst part is I am so worried about him. I am afraid he is depressed or has an anger issue or I wonder why he is so maladjusted that the baby is causing this much stress for him.
Most of all- I feel responsible and sad that our family doesn't seem to be working right now. I look at my sweet 4 month old and remember my middle guy when he was a sweet fat smiling baby.
Please no flames, I am feeling pretty sad.