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post #41 of 57
A starter house for 12k.. heck yes. But that's me. If you're rich you don't care about such things.. you're not nervous about such things then don't. I guess it depends on how strong you are and how you can handle things. I wouldn't tell you brother your going to sell it or rent it since he's giving it to you at an insane price and you might lose him as a brother if he found out you just sold it. There's a reason he's not selling it himself.

Maybe he should just give it back to mom. I mean that was incredibly generous and I would love to be all over that. Now if it wasn't my mom and someone I couldn't stand boy I would want to poke my eyeballs out but just 12 months.. and then you can rent it or sell it and be really well off. It would be tough but I would suck it up.
post #42 of 57
On the other hand, if you get pregnant sooner rather than later, you might not be able to be out of the house as much as you might be counting on. A second job? Forget it if you have severe fatigue and morning sickness. When I was pregnant I was coming home at 5:30, falling asleep at 6PM, and getting up barely awake at 7:30AM, to start another day.

I'm getting a vibe that your family dynamics are quite unhealthy, and that your relationship with your brother is not necessarily better than with your mother. Only now he is siding with you, because he is mad at your mother.

How well can you set boundaries with your mother and your brother? Would you feel obligated to share the house with your brother, if he were to split with his girlfriend and needed a room? He might be quite certain that you owe him at least that. What if he decides to sell the house for profit and wants you to move out? Sure, he won't have any LEGAL rights, but he can make your life very, very miserable.

A year is a lot. 52 weeks. 365 days. If you are certain you can set firm boundaries, then it is a great deal. But again, if your mother harasses you, will you be able to call the police? If you are going to be sucked into your family madness, then it might be too much.
post #43 of 57
First, a question...

Why doesn't your brother just rent it out himself? Or sell it? If something is holding him back from either of those actions, that something (even if it is just emotional pressure from mom, no legal hold-ups) has a bigger-than-average chance of holding YOU back from renting it out or selling it when you want to.

Now, my experience...

I was in a similar situation. A house was offered to me/us (not free and clear, there's a mortgage). I was pregnant. The house was owned by and located near my drama llama mother's house. We took it because the finances - it seemed financially stupid not to take the deal. It was probably the biggest mistake of my life. I'm still, nearly 15 years later, still enduring the consequences. Still living in a house that I do not like, and can't get out of.

And now my opinion...

No way in hell would I LIVE there. If you can take it and RENT it right away, without having to live there, that might be OK. But then, why doesn't your brother do this? That could be a key bit of information.

Facing divorce, and pregnancy - there's no way in hell that I would move to be across the street from someone who has shown they will resort to drama games that include criminal actions (harassment, letting the air out of tires).

Having been there, done that (or at least something similar), NO AMOUNT OF MONEY IS WORTH THE MENTAL ANGUISH that this situation could cause you.
post #44 of 57
Not only would I not buy this house if I were you but I would also change my name and move to LA or NYC or somewhere else big and anonymous.
post #45 of 57
no way would I do it if it were me.
post #46 of 57
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I wouldn't. But I would pay 6 figures not to live anywhere near my MIL. Literally. I've considered it.
I live across the country from mine. Thank goodness it seems to be far enough.

To the OP. Don't Do This! Sanity is priceless.
post #47 of 57
Thread Starter 
Well, it looks like all of my waffling was for naught. My brother changed his mind. Why?

He doesn't want to be so far away.

It's like watching a bad movie. But fortunately I get to just watch and not have to participate. I'm bowing out of the whole thing. I don't care what happens anymore. I will be happily a few cities away in my peaceful little apartment with my tomatoes and no one to screw up my plans. I'll buy a house on my own terms when I'm good and ready. And it will have nothing to do with either one of them.
post #48 of 57
That's the spirit!
post #49 of 57
oh how disappointing.

the carpet yanked out from under you.

the choice taken away.

but i love your thoughts. you and your tomatoes will flourish in the peace.

post #50 of 57
What a blessing!!! I mean I don't know what I'd do because continually I'd be questioning if I did the right thing or not. Its great to have the decision made and you in the place your meant to be.

I hope everything else goes as clearly for you!
post #51 of 57
Just out of curiosity, why did your mom buy your brother a house and not you? Feel free not to answer.
post #52 of 57
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What a blessing!!! I mean I don't know what I'd do because continually I'd be questioning if I did the right thing or not. Its great to have the decision made and you in the place your meant to be...
post #53 of 57
Thread Starter 
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Just out of curiosity, why did your mom buy your brother a house and not you? Feel free not to answer.
My stepsisters family had already bought her a house, and my mother figured that since I was married I should be able to buy my own house. My brother is 24 and single and therefore, needed a house.

Had I known that there would be a staying single gift involved, I would've waited till I got mine before getting married.
post #54 of 57
I wish there was a "like" button like there is on facebook,lol.
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I get to just watch and not have to participate. I'm bowing out of the whole thing. I don't care what happens anymore. I will be happily a few cities away in my peaceful little apartment with my tomatoes and no one to screw up my plans. I'll buy a house on my own terms when I'm good and ready. And it will have nothing to do with either one of them.
This is where I click "like" You sing it girl. You will be better off where you are at!!!
post #55 of 57
Thread Starter 
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I wish there was a "like" button like there is on facebook,lol.
Personally, I think that everything should have a like button. I want this tee shirt.
post #56 of 57
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Personally, I think that everything should have a like button. I want this tee shirt.

want one!
post #57 of 57
I really think that your brother changing his mind is a blessing in disguise. You do not need the drama, your sanity is more valuable than the money you'd save.

I love your attitude
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