Originally Posted by cycle
She isn't asking for the OP's medical records and nobody communicated anything to her except NO. Its ridiculous. The OP's attitude towards her dp's son's mom is why people have problems co-parenting.
Demanding things instead of having a conversation about them also contributes to the breakdown of the co-parenting relationship.
DH and DSD's mom have a pretty darn good co-parenting relationship, and part of the reason is because it would not even cross their minds to demand records for something. They talk about things, and they take each others' word for it. Most likely because they are both equal parents to the same child and have the child's best interests at heart - DH has no more interest in putting his DD in danger than her mom does.
Granted, we haven't heard much about the dad's opinion in this case, but I hate how whatever the mom is feeling always seems to trump whatever the dad is feeling on MDC. IME, if the mom is worried about something, it is automatically legit, or if not, it is excused because she is the mom and worried about her kid. If the dad is worried, he is probably just poking around to find a way to get more parenting time so he can lower CS, and his concerns are silly. It is so one-sided - just give the mom what she wants so she can stop worrying (whether or not her actual motives include worry over her child). I can just about guarantee that if this thread was posted by the mom and the dad was demanding vet records (or worse yet, the girlfriend of the dad), most of the responses would have been that he has no right to ask for that sort of thing.
Bottom line, though - if your can't even trust the word of your co-parent, then your problems are much bigger than vet records.
And, yes, my vet charges for copies of records.