Dating sites..?

[single_cj]

Okay, so when STBX & I decided to "take a break", I decided to check out my options and see if there was even ONE man 'out there' who would be interested in dating a woman with 2 little kids... not expecting much!

I poked around Match.com and, as it turns out, there are LOTS of men who don't have a problem with dating women with children!



Please understand I'm not anywhere near ready to date yet (our separation isn't legal, yet), but it was encouraging, anyway!

Have any of you guys ever tried online dating? I know know 4 very happily married couples, my brother & my cousin among them, who've met their significant others online...

[lynsage]

I met my fiance online. At first I had no intention of ever letting him meet my daughter- I was just looking for casual dating and fun and had been on dates with a couple of people before meeting him. On our first date, we just clicked instantly and have been together ever since.

I still didn't let him meet the kid for 3 months, though. I didn't want to bring her into my dating life unless I was pretty sure about the person I was with, and I have been sure about him from about a month in! It was fast but it was also just right.

One of the things I liked about the site I met him on, OkCupid, is that they have a compatibility testing metric where you can answer TONS of questions (or just a few) and they will rate the person's compatibility with you in different areas and show you exactly which questions you do and don't agree on with the person you're looking at. I refused to settle for less than 80 percent compatibility, and I believe DF was an 88. The questions we differed on when I looked at his results were things that were SO far from being relationship dealbreakers- for example, one of the things we disagree on is to what extent demonstrations and non-violent protests have an impact on what actually happens in society. The BIG stuff, we agree on and share a lot of important core values that made it easy for us to understand each other and we fell deeply (and quickly ) in love as a result.

I had to talk to a LOT of creeps and deal with some rejection on that site before I met him, which kind of sucked, but I got the BEST GUY EVER out of the deal, went on a couple of fun dates with people I never saw again, and a met a really great female friend too.

[surrogate]

I have been on the dating sites for almost 2 years. Apparently men in my area aren't as willing to date a woman with 2 kids....and some extra baby weight...Ill never find anyone

Good for you though! Keep those options wide open

[single_cj]

surrogate - have you tried the more "serious" sites like eHarmony & Match (paid account)?

You'll find someone when it's right... Probably when you stop looking!

[surrogate]

CJ, unfortunately yes. Eharmony wouldn't accept me...i was incompatible apparently. Match was a big bust...seems men feel if they pay to date they can be really hurtful. I use OKC right now, but obviously I am getting nowhere. I have unofficially given up

[butterfly1976]

I've heard plenty of fish was a good one. A buddy of mine met his lady on facebook. Some people (men or women) don't want to date someone who has kids. To be honest, I think that's ok. If they don't want to date someone with kids, then they shouldn't. What makes me mad is that they date someone who has kids, then they gripe about it! *rolls eyes*

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We have our ups and downs just like any other relationship. No one is perfect. I dated some jerks before him. You just gotta get out there and try. Part of the process I think.

Best of luck..........

[knitterma]

I met my boyfriend of 1 and 1/2 years on okcupid! good luck to you