Mamas who are delaying did dealy will delay or plan to delay K entry.

[BellaClaudia]

Are there any mamas of currently 5 year olds that technically are meeting the date requrement but postponing the entry to K by one year?

Or any mamas that did this in the past.

[tinybutterfly]

Both of mine missed the deadline in the states we lived in at the time and I was glad.

I didn't purposely delay, but was fine with it happening.

Ds#2 missed the deadline by one day!

I was hoping they wouldn't do Kindergarten until they were 6.

It has been fine for both of them. Gave them a chance to mature a bit and I am fine with them being a bit older when they start college.

It worked out well for both my boys.

Good luck!

[mommajb]

I haven't delayed as we were homeschooling until just now but I have Sept born children that wait an extra year compared to June born children if that makes any sense. Did you have a question and were you looking for companionship in your decision?

[Attached2Elijah]

I did My son was technically able to start in 2008. The cut off here is Sept 30th. My son's birthday is Sept 29th. Had I sent him then, he would have been the baby so I waited until last year. He started Kindergarten last fall and I was SO glad I waited. He did SOOOOO well. Surprisingly, he was NOT the oldest. He had straight A's all year long and never had any behavior marks all year long so I definitely think we did the right thing. My daughter misses the cut off by 2 days next year which I am incredibly thankful for... if she wasn't, I would keep her back a year too.

[BellaClaudia]

I sort of am looking for support as in my area there is quite few parents doing it on purpose yet not that many that one can meet.. it is just the statistics..

otherwise I tried to reveal this to strangers and backed up quickly as it is sort of like with nursing beyond infancy.. they give you a look and the attitude before you even have a chance or want or need to explain.. so therefore I just don't tell anybody anymore anything other then.. yeah.. she is going to K.. and then I will worry

but soon I will probably be in the situation of confronting those questions..
so she is 5 and so is she in K? NOOOOOOOO???????????
and so forth..

those of you who did delay... how did you handled such questions.. how did you answer? did you lie to strangers ?..

were you going into expalining your decisisons etc?

[Attached2Elijah]

Honestly, I don't ever remember explaining WHY... they would just ask "oh so is he in kindergarden?" And we would just say "Next year" and that was usually the end of it. IF we did have to explain why, we just told them we thought he would be more mature and ready the following year. Now that he's IN school, I understand why people thought I was crazy... it's GREAT having him gone during the day and I am counting the days until he goes back, lol.... but really, I don't think you'll have too many wierd looks... I really didn't get any and my son is HUGE for his age so even at 5, it seemed wierd that he wasn't in school yet but no one really questioned it.

[nixnc]

i always say if you have any doubt at all, send to kindergarten the next year. some kids just aren't ready.

just make sure this is for your child's benefit and not yours.

i sent my oldest when he was 6 instead of 5--and i am soo glad i did. he is 14 now and i could not imagine having sent him "on time."

my youngest is about to start kindergarten this fall, he is 5. he is def. ready for it.

it varies child to child.

[D'smomma]

Hi, I'm a mom of 5 children. Ages 21 to 11 months... All started school at age 5... except my current 5 y/o son... We will be home schooling this year at my sons pace.
We held off for a few reasons the first being he is just not ready. Second he has a hard time remembering things - Teach him colors, and a day later he can't tell you the difference between blue and yellow... same with shapes, letters, numbers... Hes a fabulous kid! just has no retention which could be due to maturity. I know kindergarten, where he will be pressured to know letters, tie shoes, add and subtract, write his name and so on... by a certian date is really putting WAY to much pressure on this child. I know he isn't ready. So one year with mom playing (NO pressure) and He will eventually learn to tie those shoes, he will learn everything else just not by what ever specified cookie cutter date that the school system seems to feel all kids should fall into. He can and will learn at his pace... (sorry... I feel this decission will give him a way better learning foundation.

[lizziejeen]

You all are making a good decision. My parents sent me too early, and I ended up getting held back in 3rd grade, which was worse.

[mumm]

My son could have started a year earlier than he did, but we held him back. He is currently going into 4th. So far it has been the right decision for him. I('ve never run into issues of having to explain (other than to the school itself.)

[justKate]

I agree that you all are making a good decision. I started at 4 (early November birthday), and in retrospect, I would not do that to a child. Although I was intellectually ready, my emotional maturity was not there.

And if they go to college immediately you have to cosign your 17 year old's student loans!

[MyFullHouse]

We homeschool now, so it isn't so much "delaying" as it is skipping.

My oldest went to public kindergarten as a very young 5 (August b-day). He's freakishly smart and strangely mature. My second did kindergarten from home at 5.

My 3rd just did normal kid stuff at home, and then started "1st grade" (homeschooled) at 6 (July b-day). #4 will do the same (though he's a May b-day).

I don't know for sure when we'll start 1st grade with #5. A December b-day kind of throws me for a loop, lol. But there won't be formal kindergarten.

I actually dropped the jaws of a bunch of people recently, when I incorrectly assumed "school" started at the average age of 6, lol. 5 just seems SO young to sit in a formal classroom, especially with full-day K being the norm!

[almadianna]

this might be better served in learning at school so I am moving it here.

[BellaClaudia]

So it's done! we held her and so far we are extremely happy. Thanks for all your support!