(March 2010) Coming up on half a year! The August Marching Mamas Thread - Page 3

[cocoanib]

Originally Posted by Sayward

Hi! I never seem to have 2 hand when I'm checking these particular threads but I just wanted to pipe up and say I've been following along. Miss you guys! Waits and I are super awesome and I must be cycling because I too suddenly want another. Eek!

nak

That would be funny if a bunch of us wound up in another DDC together!
No time soon of course

Originally Posted by SilverFish

Dear MIL,

Anyway, I'm truly grateful you are a doting grandma and give us lots of stuff. I just sometimes wish the stuff you gave us would occasionally be of some use to us. It's a little annoying that I've had to buy about 90% of the first grandchild's wardrobe because everything is the wrong season/size combo. Please stop wasting your money on clothes that will end up never leaving the hanger.

Love,
Me

Can you sell them online or take them back?

I've taken back a bunch of stuff people get for DD and sold lot's of others. I use it to buy her something useful or put the money in her bank.
That's how DD got her jumper last week. I had a bunch of bibs and stuff that she is'nt/was'nt going to use or wear. I took them back a couple of months ago for a store credit and wound up using it this month.

[mama kk]

Originally Posted by skfmama

Are any of you going to sign with your babies? I'd like to, and figure I should probably start soon. How many signs do you have? Do you use the ASL sign or do you make one up that works for your family?

And, what does your bedtime routine look like? I've had a hard time being consistent with this. Right now, it's change diaper, put on pj's, nurse, sleep. If I'm on top of it and am able to start this before he's way too tired to put up with anything else, we might read a book or two.

Our bedtime routine is a bath (unless there are too many dirty dishes in the sink), nurse, and then massage and singing.

We did sign with my DD and it was so great. I highly recommend it. I feel like it saved a lot of frustration. We used a combination of ASL and made up ones. My favorite was elephant. She would sign to me all these crazy things she thought were elephants like the vaccuum!

Seo is doing well. He is the happiest baby. He has forward momentum and is up on all fours. He sort of flops forward~ is this crawling? This is waaay earlier than my DD was and I feel ambivalent about it. On one hand you are secretly cheering them on, but on the other hand it is so much easier if they just roll around. He will be 6 months in a few days. CRAZY!!!

It is nice to hear about all those babies!
And Kinklet, I am sorry to hear you are struggling with PPD. I hope it goes away very soon

[staceychev]

Baby chiro! Evie got her first adjustment today.

She's been sleeping terribly for about 2 months (after a great start), and I realized this morning that it all goes back to about the time that she fell off the bed a couple of times. (Yes, horrible mama, I know. I just had a really hard time getting it through my thick skull how much more mobile she is than her sister.)

Anyway, I mentioned it to my chiro this morning, and he gave her an adjustment. This would be awesome if it worked, because after a couple of months of "sleep by 9, wake by 4:30 to nurse," we've transitioned to "sleep by 8:30, wake at 11, 12, 1, 3, 4:30, 5:30..." And, I have to go back to work in two weeks!

[Plummeting]

We are on another trip visiting DH's family (his dad this time) in the Smoky Mountains. DD still hates new people. We have to stay at a hotel because his dad smokes in the house and I refused to stay there. He's like a d*mn chimney - 3 packs a day! Last time he had a brand new RV he hadn't used yet and we stayed in it. This time he's still got the camper, but it's no longer brand new and has been smoked in quite a bit. So his dad's mad at us that we wouldn't stay there. I won't sit inside with the baby for more than a few minutes at a time, but she hates it in there anyway. I don't know if it's the smell or their annoying Yorkie who NEVER STOPS BARKING. RRRRRRRRR!!! But the second we set foot in there she starts screaming hysterically, so me and her wind up sitting outside while they visit. We get eaten alive by mosquitoes.

Tonight she was so overtired and DH wouldn't COME ON already because he wanted to visit with his dad. I get that, but geez - at least come out and offer to drive Maya and me back to the hotel. Instead, I had to pace the porch while they chatted, until I finally went in and told him (over her screaming) that she was too tired. By the time we got to the hotel right down the road, she was so tired she screamed for over an hour before falling asleep. Thanks, DH. Now he's mad at me for being annoyed with him, but seriously, do not make me come be the b*tchy wife who said you had to stop visiting with your dad, when your dad's already mad that I won't stay there with the baby. It all just makes me look mean, and it's not fair.

So, I am a little annoyed tonight. lol At least she's asleep now and DH took DD1 down to the pool. Quiet is good for me right now.

[cocoanib]

staceychev- I hope the adjustment works and little one isn't too uncomfy.

Plummeting- I would'nt stay there either. The 2nd hand smoke must be awful!

Yipee! DD got her 1st tooth.
I noticed it night before last as she was chewing my hand in bed. I got super excited and ran out and told DH. He thought something was wrong the way I was running and calling his name. It's the cutest little thing!

I had noticed 2 white buds on either side at the bottom and thought those would be the 1st to pop through. I had'nt noticed anything in the middle and that one made it's debut 1st!

[Sayward]

Why do i sooo want another baby??! Help!!!!!!!!!

[Juvysen]

Originally Posted by Sayward

Why do i sooo want another baby??! Help!!!!!!!!!

because babies are sweet and wonderful and exciting and full of promise? That's the best I've come up with for myself. Ask yourself again when your baby is 2. this is the "good" part, for me, at least...

[Kikelet]

Yeah, am I completely insane?? I'm actually thinking about another baby!! ...after 8 months of hyperemesis and hyperemesis of labor. What is WRONG with me? It's a darn good thing I have Paraguard!!

[Kikelet]

Originally Posted by staceychev

Baby chiro! Evie got her first adjustment today.

She's been sleeping terribly for about 2 months (after a great start), and I realized this morning that it all goes back to about the time that she fell off the bed a couple of times. (Yes, horrible mama, I know. I just had a really hard time getting it through my thick skull how much more mobile she is than her sister.)

Anyway, I mentioned it to my chiro this morning, and he gave her an adjustment. This would be awesome if it worked, because after a couple of months of "sleep by 9, wake by 4:30 to nurse," we've transitioned to "sleep by 8:30, wake at 11, 12, 1, 3, 4:30, 5:30..." And, I have to go back to work in two weeks!

How's the sleeping since her adjustment? I'm thinking of having this done for my Evie. Her reflux is getting better, but her sleeping is still so bad.. well, technically it's normal, but the sleep deprivation coupled with PPD is a bad combo for both of us. We're pretty much on the same schedule you are.

[angelpie545]

Originally Posted by Sayward

Why do i sooo want another baby??! Help!!!!!!!!!

I know, I'm already thinking about number 4.....but I'm no position to be (I'm recently divorced, no boyfriend/marriage prospects, won't be working until ds turns 1 year, plus I have Lupus, and issues with anesthetics used in childbirth...lol!). Still....babies are just so wonderful!! My ds is such a sweet little babe I can't help but think of more.

[staceychev]

Originally Posted by Kikelet

How's the sleeping since her adjustment? I'm thinking of having this done for my Evie. Her reflux is getting better, but her sleeping is still so bad.. well, technically it's normal, but the sleep deprivation coupled with PPD is a bad combo for both of us. We're pretty much on the same schedule you are.

Hasn't really helped. I brought her back into bed with me so that she could snack and snuggle next to me all night, so her wakings (and mine) are less drastic and I feel like she's getting better sleep.

I think she's doing the pre-crawling waking because every time I hear her crying and go to her, she's up on all fours rocking back and forth, even though I put her to sleep on her back.

[Deir]

HI there- Don't you crazies have another baby yet!!

I actually moved Nora to a crib in another room- which is really weird for me. I just had the feeling with her that she might sleep longer without me next to her. Some nights are better than others but I get more than an occasional night with the first wake up being 2:30 which is UNHEARD of in this family!

She is really active though and when I go to get her she is often in one corner turned sideways kicking her feet- so funny.

[bubbagirl]

Originally Posted by Sayward

Why do i sooo want another baby??! Help!!!!!!!!!

We do too! Its not due to my age ( I don't think), but I felt this way from the 2nd week. We half tried this month and will know in about a week.

We (dp and I) are starting to mourn the infant stage as he develops more and more.


Brighton is teething like crazy but usually a total sport about it. He loves going places and flirting with everyone although he's starting to not like his car seat all that much. He grunts a lot on the drive home. He isn't sleeping much during the day but is still sleeping 10-12 hrs at night with a feeding or two in there while he's sleeping.

He's jumping like crazy in our arms - constantly doing "squats", smiling, giggling and chuckling all the time. He says "hi" to get our attention or grunts and then grins from ear to ear. He is rolling a lot, sitting unassisted now and will sit for over an hour watching my dad who is a musician play music and he is totally enthralled. We have a few dogs and just adopted a bunch of barn kitties and he loves to sit outside and watch the animals and stroke them when they get near enough.

He was 19 lbs at 22 weeks (he'll be 24 weeks tomorrow) and we measured him 3 days ago and is 28 inches. He is still exclusively bf but we have given him a few sips of fresh veggie juices like apple/cucumber/celery/ginger and he loves them all, even the really strong ones. I'm really looking forward to letting him try foods in a few weeks if he shows the desire.

We are going to sign with him and already do for eat which he started with us at about a week old. We wanted to do ec but he pees so frequent its hard to catch them all and he still only poos every 3 days or so and is just now getting to where we can tell when its time. I'm looking forward to trying that more soon.

We are so blessed with him and thank him all the time for his patience and understanding.

[Deir]

Originally Posted by bubbagirl

We do too! Its not due to my age ( I don't think), but I felt this way from the 2nd week. We half tried this month and will know in about a week.

We (dp and I) are starting to mourn the infant stage as he develops more and more.


Brighton is teething like crazy but usually a total sport about it. He loves going places and flirting with everyone although he's starting to not like his car seat all that much. He grunts a lot on the drive home. He isn't sleeping much during the day but is still sleeping 10-12 hrs at night with a feeding or two in there while he's sleeping.

He's jumping like crazy in our arms - constantly doing "squats", smiling, giggling and chuckling all the time. He says "hi" to get our attention or grunts and then grins from ear to ear. He is rolling a lot, sitting unassisted now and will sit for over an hour watching my dad who is a musician play music and he is totally enthralled. We have a few dogs and just adopted a bunch of barn kitties and he loves to sit outside and watch the animals and stroke them when they get near enough.

He was 19 lbs at 22 weeks (he'll be 24 weeks tomorrow) and we measured him 3 days ago and is 28 inches. He is still exclusively bf but we have given him a few sips of fresh veggie juices like apple/cucumber/celery/ginger and he loves them all, even the really strong ones. I'm really looking forward to letting him try foods in a few weeks if he shows the desire.

We are going to sign with him and already do for eat which he started with us at about a week old. We wanted to do ec but he pees so frequent its hard to catch them all and he still only poos every 3 days or so and is just now getting to where we can tell when its time. I'm looking forward to trying that more soon.

We are so blessed with him and thank him all the time for his patience and understanding.

I just love the last line of your post. That makes me smile.

[Kikelet]

My little serious baby is finally laughing! I'm so ecstatic! She does this hehehehuuuuh thing, but no big belly laughs. She is really smiling at other people now, but at the same time she will scream if I pass her off to someone else besides me, DP, my mom, or my dad. It does validate my thoughts on whether or not she's securely attached, so I guess it's good that she's not jumping into the arms of strangers? I'm not one to hog my own baby.. I want Evie to enjoy being held by other people, but I will always be there if she needs me. I know of some mamas who don't like anyone holding their babies besides themselves or their partners, and while I respect and believe that it's ok, I'm just not like that.

I did want to get some feedback about motherhood in general from my fellow DDC mamas.. I am having trouble expressing my beliefs without offending other mothers. I don't even know how to explain this, but I think most of you will catch my drift. My issue is that when I make blog posts or facebook posts about something that frustrates me, some mom friends of mine make super caddy comments as if I am intentionally going out of my way to hurt the feelings of the moms who made a different choice.

Best example is when my friend sent me a breastfeeding quote and I re-shared it on my blog and on FB. It said “People need to understand that when they're deciding between breast milk and formula, they're not deciding between Coke and Pepsi …. They're choosing between a live, pure substance and a dead substance made with the cheapest oils available.” This quote gave me strength to get through our many breastfeeding issues in the beginning, but I also understood, like most moms, that formula was not evil. When I posted this some mom friends got furious and posted snarky things about how babies would die without formula. DRIVES ME CRAZY!! I did *not* post my comment to make FF'ing moms feel guilty, it is just a fact!! I am getting increasingly frustrated with wanting to share my thoughts about mothering, especially the things I'm proud of! Like being able to breastfeed my baby exclusively, being able to do cloth diapers 90% of the time, always picking up Evelyn when she cries, and always trying to meet her needs before mine with a few exceptions. When I share research articles about my parenting style, I get plowed with snarky comments that suggest I am acting like I am superior.

So, yeah, get my drift? How do you deal with these situations or do you just avoid talking about parenting or mothering or breastfeeding or anything that's important to you in fear of offending someone? I mean, do I need a freaking disclaimer every time I open my mouth?

"While I understand that formula can be a suitable substitute for babies, some women cannot or choose not to breastfeed for their own personal or religious reasons, and that you are not a bad mother for formula feeding your baby, I think we need to do more to educate moms about the benefits of breastfeeding if they so choose to become educated." Isn't it easier to just say "I wish it wasn't so taboo to discuss the need for more moms to breastfeed"? Oh, she did *not* just go there! ::sigh::

[cocoanib]

Originally Posted by Deir

HI there- Don't you crazies have another baby yet!!

Originally Posted by bubbagirl

We are so blessed with him and thank him all the time for his patience and understanding.

That's so wonderful.
I do this too. I often thank Koda when we've been out for way too long and she is being so patient with me or when it takes me a bit to firgure out exactly what she needs.
I also thank God all the time for blessing me with such an amazing little person and trusting me with her care.

Originally Posted by Kikelet

I did want to get some feedback about motherhood in general from my fellow DDC mamas.. I am having trouble expressing my beliefs without offending other mothers. I don't even know how to explain this, but I think most of you will catch my drift. My issue is that when I make blog posts or facebook posts about something that frustrates me, some mom friends of mine make super caddy comments as if I am intentionally going out of my way to hurt the feelings of the moms who made a different choice.

Best example is when my friend sent me a breastfeeding quote and I re-shared it on my blog and on FB. It said “People need to understand that when they're deciding between breast milk and formula, they're not deciding between Coke and Pepsi …. They're choosing between a live, pure substance and a dead substance made with the cheapest oils available.” This quote gave me strength to get through our many breastfeeding issues in the beginning, but I also understood, like most moms, that formula was not evil. When I posted this some mom friends got furious and posted snarky things about how babies would die without formula. DRIVES ME CRAZY!! I did *not* post my comment to make FF'ing moms feel guilty, it is just a fact!! I am getting increasingly frustrated with wanting to share my thoughts about mothering, especially the things I'm proud of! Like being able to breastfeed my baby exclusively, being able to do cloth diapers 90% of the time, always picking up Evelyn when she cries, and always trying to meet her needs before mine with a few exceptions. When I share research articles about my parenting style, I get plowed with snarky comments that suggest I am acting like I am superior.

So, yeah, get my drift? How do you deal with these situations or do you just avoid talking about parenting or mothering or breastfeeding or anything that's important to you in fear of offending someone? I mean, do I need a freaking disclaimer every time I open my mouth?

"While I understand that formula can be a suitable substitute for babies, some women cannot or choose not to breastfeed for their own personal or religious reasons, and that you are not a bad mother for formula feeding your baby, I think we need to do more to educate moms about the benefits of breastfeeding if they so choose to become educated." Isn't it easier to just say "I wish it wasn't so taboo to discuss the need for more moms to breastfeed"? Oh, she did *not* just go there! ::sigh::

Some people are going to be offended no matter what. Especially if they made a choice to do the opposit of what you did or are writing about.
I used to worry about offending them or coming off as holyer than thou, but I was holding too much back.
Now I speak and write my mind adn if people don't like it, they can move on.
Somebody out there may read or hear your info and benefit from it...even the ones making a big stink may have to think twice.

[Juvysen]

Originally Posted by cocoanib

Some people are going to be offended no matter what. Especially if they made a choice to do the opposit of what you did or are writing about.
I used to worry about offending them or coming off as holier than thou, but I was holding too much back.
Now I speak and write my mind adn if people don't like it, they can move on.
Somebody out there may read or hear your info and benefit from it...even the ones making a big stink may have to think twice.

I agree. Honestly, they're welcome to share their articles supporting their point of view, too People are touchy when their priorities are called into question. The vast majority of the parenting choices I've made have been "alternative"... and I've just gotten used to that fact, sort of, I guess? We're heading into homeschooling pretty soon, too, so we'll officially be the "weirdos" compared to the mainstream, but really, they do what they think is best and I have a different concept of "best", I guess.

[staceychev]

It's 5:46 am, and I'm sitting at the kitchen counter pumping and having my coffee. Back to work today. This sucks.

[Kikelet]

Originally Posted by staceychev

It's 5:46 am, and I'm sitting at the kitchen counter pumping and having my coffee. Back to work today. This sucks.

This does suck.. But you'll be ok, and your baby will be ok. We are a fantastic group of mamas and you'll always have us for support!