TTA--but baby fever just went thru the roof!

[shells_n_cheese]

DH and I are TTA until early to mid 2011, at least. Today, I just found out my best friend is pregnant with her first!!! I am so excited for her! She is due March 8th, currently 9 weeks pregnant. I can't wait to see her belly start to grow, answer any of her FTM questions, find out if it's a boy or girl, and of course, meet her precious baby!

But... I gotta say seeing her belly get bigger and bigger is going to be tough. I just told DH now that my friend is pregnant, my baby fever is insane. He just rolled his eyes. LOL! How the heck am I going to keep this viscious baby fever at bay?? DH says he really does not want another ATM, and next year is the earliest he will want to TTC... and I know deep down that it is not the best time right now too. *sigh*

This is a test of will for sure!

[SomedayMaybe3]

I totally know how you feel! Everyone around me is pregnant right now! We just recently decided that our family wasn't finished, but we have to wait til 2014...I can't take it. I'm so jealous of the women that only have to wait two years or less. Right now would be a terrible time to ttc. i would have to drop school again and we would never be able to get off gov. asst. Instead we've made a long list of big goals to achieve in time...Not to mention my toddlers keep me very busy..I have really started to enjoy them even more knowing that i will have more kids someday...kinda weird how it's working out.

I guess you can just soak up the excitement of knowing that you will get to have more. i know a lot of women on this board that are still trying to get hubby to want to ttc someday. That was me about a month ago. Now i love day dreaming and knowing that it's coming! It's fun to look forward to something so special No help here lol
i can just relate

[echospiritwarrior]

I know how you feel. I can tell you for having waited it out how wonderful it has been. The joy from our feels tenfold and I also feel like my youngest got her chance to be the baby. Good luck, it's a difficult thing especially when everyone around you seems to be popping up pregnant!

[Baby_Cakes]

I can relate! I am "whatevering" and my best friend is/was TTC. After 3 months, she got a bfp and I'm still waiting for mine. DH and I aren't TTC actively, just not preventing, and at first I was a little jealous and didn't think I could be as supportive to my best friend as I wanted to be.

But just the opposite has happened! I find it's almost the best of both worlds. I feel her excitement and can talk to her about pg, but I still get to go out for margaritas with my girlfriends. I can think about losing a few lbs. I'm not worried about appointments, or genetic testing, or what I should or shouldn't eat. I don't have to think, hmm -- am I going to be feeling ok if I want to go to the beach in 3 weeks?

Sure I'll be there in a short time - in your case, in a year or so -- and when its your turn it's going to be super exciting and such a happy time. None of those things I mentioned will be a bad thing, b/c it will be for you and your baby. But for *right now* its kind of neat to watch someone else experience the ups and downs. And be that support person for them w/o it turning into a competition, or even just a comparison.

You can do it, you can make it!!

[mommyin2008]

I completely understand how you feel. I have been waiting for DH to decide if and when hes ready for another one for a while now. Then, we find out about a month ago that are very dear, close friends, are pg with their 3rd baby, who was NOT planned at all. In fact, they were using pull & pray, which is EXACTLY what DH and I use as well, and we BOTH have been using it for 2.5 years to avoid getting pg. Only it fails for HER and NOT ME

I was CRUSHED when I found out she was pg. I was honestly jealous. She already has 2 children, a 5.5 year old DD and an almost 3 year old DS. I only have one DS right now who is 2.5 and I desperatly want another one badly. I would have LOVED to be in her shoes and been the one to get pg from pull out. But, NOPE! It continues to be effective for DH & I. And now she is like over 10 weeks pg. I have gotten over the inital shock of her unplanned pg, and the jealousy that went with it. I am happy for them now. However, to say I still wish it was me is the honest truth! It doesnt help that DH & I are not on the same page about having another baby. He really doesnt know if or when he will want another one. He says "maybe in a year". ugh!! Im trying to get him to meet me halfway and get pg in 6 months when our son turns 3. But, who knows. It is not easy by any means, let alone the fact that I work on a Post Partum Unit and see newborns and pregnant belly's all the time. And work with a few girls who are currently pg right now. So, I am right there with you! If anyone has any ideas on how to make it easier, please let me know!