Reviving Ophelia
is focused more towards raising adolescent girls, but is sooooo worth a read here and there over the years. I love all of her books, actually.
Check with your local librarian- most libraries have great reading lists for all sorts of things, including raising strong girls.
Here's a
list
of recommended books on Amazon for a keyword search for "raising strong, spririted girls;" it's mostly books for said girls to read on their own, and.or for read-aloud time.