I am not sure whether there is an issue or not with my 4 mo DD, L. I feel very bonded (and equally bonded) to both her and her twin sister, E. However, I know that this is a two-way street and part of the question is how bonded L feels to mommy.
With E it is very clear that she is a mommy's girl. The sound of my voice/my singing immediately helps calm her. She would prefer to be held by me if I'm in the room, etc., etc.
L is very social (as much as a 4 mo can be). We have had repairmen visit the home, who literally become distracted by her -- she is so busy checking out the new faces and smiling at them. We have had to see some ped. specialists and the ped have all commented on how extremely smiley and interactive L is. I do not feel that L really reacts as if she has a "special" connection with anyone (except perhaps to Dad when she first sees him come home from work). She seems equally happy being held by or interacting with anyone. I do think she has a preference for having her twin sister nearby.
As further background, due to complications from childbirth (on my side), the twins were seperated from me for 4 days of their first week of life. I was transferred to the non-maternity portion of the hospital and we made a decision not to expose our healthy twins (the only twins in the hospital not in the NICU as we were told repeatedly) to other illnesses.
Is it unusual for L not to be demonstrating a caregiver preference at 4 mo? Anything I can do to shore things up at my end?
With E it is very clear that she is a mommy's girl. The sound of my voice/my singing immediately helps calm her. She would prefer to be held by me if I'm in the room, etc., etc.
L is very social (as much as a 4 mo can be). We have had repairmen visit the home, who literally become distracted by her -- she is so busy checking out the new faces and smiling at them. We have had to see some ped. specialists and the ped have all commented on how extremely smiley and interactive L is. I do not feel that L really reacts as if she has a "special" connection with anyone (except perhaps to Dad when she first sees him come home from work). She seems equally happy being held by or interacting with anyone. I do think she has a preference for having her twin sister nearby.
As further background, due to complications from childbirth (on my side), the twins were seperated from me for 4 days of their first week of life. I was transferred to the non-maternity portion of the hospital and we made a decision not to expose our healthy twins (the only twins in the hospital not in the NICU as we were told repeatedly) to other illnesses.
Is it unusual for L not to be demonstrating a caregiver preference at 4 mo? Anything I can do to shore things up at my end?
